No old guys


  • Feb 06, 2016 5:25 AM GMT
    I see this on many a grindr profile. Why do guys need to preemptively state this instead of just ignoring my message if they're not interested? It's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts. Sometimes I message a young guy, and he'll outright tell me "sry too old" Why do guys reject people based on age?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 06, 2016 5:29 AM GMT
    Because some of these younger guys are ignorant, ageist bastards.
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    Feb 06, 2016 5:35 AM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    Because some of these younger guys are ignorant, ageist bastards.

    Well, if I were single with a Grindr profile, mine might say "No younger guys". So maybe it all evens out. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 06, 2016 5:37 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI see this on many a grindr profile. Why do guys need to preemptively state this instead of just ignoring my message if they're not interested? It's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts. Sometimes I message a young guy, and he'll outright tell me "sry too old" Why do guys reject people based on age?

    Just do what every old guy chasing after young guy does.. lie about your age. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 06, 2016 5:37 AM GMT
    If you act like an old troll it must give them a limpy?

    Looks, fitness and attitude can blind ones age. Try it!
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    Feb 06, 2016 5:38 AM GMT
    Because people are allowed their preferences, their likes and dislikes, their desires. There are no guarantees any will be fulfilled.
  • tj85016

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    Feb 06, 2016 10:30 PM GMT
    because 20 year olds are tired of getting hit on by creepy old dudes like you?
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    Feb 07, 2016 1:44 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidIt's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts.

    That's really mean for these young guys to hurt your feelings.   icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Timbales

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    Feb 07, 2016 2:17 AM GMT
    People who post a list of "no's" are negative and should be avoided anyway.
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    Feb 07, 2016 3:13 AM GMT
    As a fem I am not moved by your pain.
  • mystery905

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    Feb 07, 2016 3:28 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with being upfront and not wasting anybody's time.

    I tell guys they are too young for me.
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    Feb 07, 2016 3:33 AM GMT
    A lot of times older guys are far too thirsty and that is not a good look. There are plenty of older guys who act like a dog gnawing at a bone when hitting on younger guys.

    Other than that, it's not hard to understand why someone might prefer to be with a peer that they have something in common with.

    And considering that your username says seeking younger, you aren't exactly secret about what you like. There are daddy sites where younger guys would pant over someone like you, so you ought to spend some time on one.
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    Feb 07, 2016 3:50 AM GMT
    There are guys who are into older guys out there. Just be patient and you'll meet some.
  • Peterluke

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    Feb 07, 2016 4:52 AM GMT
    I agree, it's pretty mean to do that. I'm against discrimination.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 07, 2016 6:13 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI see this on many a grindr profile. Why do guys need to preemptively state this instead of just ignoring my message if they're not interested? It's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts. Sometimes I message a young guy, and he'll outright tell me "sry too old" Why do guys reject people based on age?


    For the very same reason a dog licks his balls - he can!

    There are tons of older guys out there chasing after a relatively very few available/interested younger guys.

    Hence, you daily fresh meat market is heavily, very heavily tilted in favor the youth.icon_biggrin.gif

    Relatively very few older guys get to connect with the very hot young guys because they have what it takes to do so. It ain't really that difficult to understand...

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  • Unnamed6

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    Feb 07, 2016 6:38 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI see this on many a grindr profile. Why do guys need to preemptively state this instead of just ignoring my message if they're not interested? It's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts. Sometimes I message a young guy, and he'll outright tell me "sry too old" Why do guys reject people based on age?


    You could try dating someone with a "daddy fetish", but you're looking at a pool of individuals who aren't "right in mind", for a lack of a better phrase, and they'll certainly objectify you in ways as to overlook your personality... There's a lot of RJers who are like this and are not the type that simply uses people. But you should know that no matter what a person with a "daddy fetish" feels about you, people in general will judge you harshly for dating this person. I do sense though that you want someone more right in mind that just so happens to notice you, or at least be somewhat receptive to you. After all, a person with a "daddy fetish" is a turn off when compared to someone more normal. (Of course that doesn't stop some RJ members from using said "daddy fetish" as affirmation that older guys are still somehow attractive in spite of their personalities. When someone has a "daddy fetish", some of whom that also admit to incest and molestation, can said attraction ever be considered valid, let alone be used as affirmation?). Like most gay men, you have deficiencies in personality that simply won't lend itself to being noticed by the demographic you're after, but a person with a "daddy fetish" will overlook such and they're available in sufficient quantities everywhere, but understand that if you date them, it doesn't magically make you attractive nor free you from the judgement of others.
  • Beastmode

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    Feb 07, 2016 7:18 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI see this on many a grindr profile. Why do guys need to preemptively state this instead of just ignoring my message if they're not interested? It's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts. Sometimes I message a young guy, and he'll outright tell me "sry too old" Why do guys reject people based on age?


    I find it ironic that you ask "Why do guys reject people based on age?" and yet your profile name is seekingyounger.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 07, 2016 7:56 AM GMT
    I think it just saves you the waste of time of reaching out ... maybe you'll have better luck picking them up at the bar ... apps lack one really big thing .... that man to man attraction in person that doesn't ask for an age ... do you think Tom Daley met his bf on an app? icon_twisted.gif
  • metta

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    Feb 07, 2016 8:01 AM GMT
    We have had so many threads on the same topic. I wonder if it could be the same person posting them. They all sound the same. In regards to the question, I don't understand what there is to be puzzled about. Why don't they just use the dating web sites that are designed for that?

    You can't force people to like you. Posting threads about this is not going to change it.
  • Apparition

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    Feb 07, 2016 8:18 AM GMT
    because you know...this is realistic...spot the millionaire.


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  • venue35

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    Feb 07, 2016 10:45 AM GMT
    seeking younger's posts sound quite similar to inque and that mathew fellow.A little "Too" similar actually...
  • metta

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    Feb 07, 2016 4:57 PM GMT
    Instead of creating multiple user accounts and posting the same topic, why not just go to a web site like this?


    http://www.daddyhunt.com

    There are a bunch more:

    https://www.google.com/search?q=daddy+dating&oq=daddy+dating&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.2399j0j4&sourceid=chrome&es_sm=0&ie=UTF-8#q=gay+daddy+dating
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    Feb 07, 2016 6:04 PM GMT
    OP gives other mature men a bad rep.

    You are older seeking younger. THAT'S a cliche. You are ageist yourself. It tells me your not right with your age.
    "Sorry too old" in this case is appropriate. My profiles say 40+. If a queeny twink IMs me I say "Sorry not a match".
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    Feb 07, 2016 8:08 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    seekingyounger saidIt's on every third or fourth profile, and it really hurts.
    That's really mean for these young guys to hurt your feelings.   icon_rolleyes.gif
    Peterluke saidI agree, it's pretty mean to do that. I'm against discrimination.

    I swear I always fail at sarcasm. I would have thought the rolling eyes would have been a sufficient clue.
  • Leftswiper

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    Feb 07, 2016 8:40 PM GMT
    Otherwise our inboxes would be buried lolol.

    Funny things I get a lot of messages from old guys with "40+ only" on their profiles, and on RJ even from older guys who insist on the threads that they're not into younger and that "its the younger ones who approach ME!" icon_lol.gif