How long before he proposes?

  • Wendigo9

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    Feb 07, 2016 5:03 PM GMT
    I've been with a guy for 3 years and we're both crazy in love, we text everyday before and after work too. I'm still young and shouldn't be thinking seriously just yet, but valentines day nagging and unable to meet this month, I start thinking "how long before he asks to move in together"?
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    Feb 07, 2016 8:26 PM GMT
    Wendigo9 saidI've been with a guy for 3 years and we're both crazy in love, we text everyday before and after work too. I'm still young and shouldn't be thinking seriously just yet, but valentines day nagging and unable to meet this month, I start thinking "how long before he asks to move in together"?

    Instead of waiting for him to ask you, you could bring up the idea as something to talk about, when you are with him.
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    Feb 07, 2016 8:31 PM GMT
    wow, 3 years and you guys aren't living together?
    I would move in after a year or so.
  • badbug

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    Feb 07, 2016 8:53 PM GMT

    3 years is a while. I would be concerned that things needed to move forward so as to ensure neither of you lose interest. Of course, the flip side is that what you have now seems to be working and any change could bring about a new challenging dynamic.

    If it's a longish distance relationship, maybe he likes having his cake and eating it too. Which might be harder or more fraught with peril if you're sharing the same bed on a nighlty basis.


    Don't want to be debbie downer but unless you've got some highly evolved metta thing going on, i would be a bit concerned that my partner was waiting for something better to come along if i was in your position, regardless of what they were telling me.

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    Feb 08, 2016 1:55 AM GMT
    congratulations on 3 years. Indeed most partners together for 3 years or more do better. for valentines day I would suggest you guys move in together.

    my partner and i were together for 6 years before we married. But for most we lived together during that time.

  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Feb 08, 2016 1:59 AM GMT
    Wendigo9 said I start thinking "how long before he asks to move in together"?


    WHY is it up to him to decide? Why not YOU broaching the topic?
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    Feb 08, 2016 6:51 PM GMT
    You're both guys. Can't you both propose to him? Why are you playing the role of the "to be proposed to"? IF its because you are the bottom in the relationship, that doesn't mean you are "the woman" you know.
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    Feb 08, 2016 10:43 PM GMT
    woodfordr saidYou're both guys. Can't you both propose to him? Why are you playing the role of the "to be proposed to"? IF its because you are the bottom in the relationship, that doesn't mean you are "the woman" you know.

    Yeah, why are you the one waiting? Is he older?
  • Wendigo9

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    Feb 08, 2016 11:05 PM GMT
    Let's just say it's a tough call on both sides, we live a 3 hour drive apart and stability is key to making it work. All and all, it's pressure and the urge of wanting eachother badly.
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    Feb 09, 2016 5:43 PM GMT
    How often do you guys see each other and for what length of time? Things might be different if you were to spend an extended period of time together.

    How badly do you want it? I asked my bf out after the 2nd month of dating and he's 10 years older.

    Maybe he's waiting for you?
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    Feb 09, 2016 6:22 PM GMT
    you guys should really really move in together
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    Feb 09, 2016 6:33 PM GMT
    How long before he proposes?

    How long before YOU propose?
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    Feb 09, 2016 8:48 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidHow long before he proposes?

    How long before YOU propose?


    Right???
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 09, 2016 11:08 PM GMT
    Justme99 saidYou shouldn't move in together. That's a bad idea. Relationships where they move in usually fail.

    Ss everyone should live alone, eh?
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    Feb 09, 2016 11:14 PM GMT
    Justme99 saidYou shouldn't move in together. That's a bad idea. Relationships where they move in usually fail.

    And you base this wisdom on what?

    I can give you examples to the contrary. Including in my own life.

    But yeah, I also know some that fail. Life is like that. My view is that you take your chances. Or else you sit in a room all by yourself. You gotta demonstrate some balls, and know that sometimes you fail, and sometimes you win.

    But if you never try, you've already lost.
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    Feb 11, 2016 12:12 AM GMT
    I would break up now. Seriously, after 3 years there's still no ring on your finger? He's not worth it, move on.

    JK.
    I really don't know. Yeah casually talk to him about it.