What makes it "official"

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    Feb 06, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    When you are dating, what makes it "official" that you are now in an official relationship and not just dating anymore icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    Blah I wanted to post it under "Dating and relationships" section. Go me icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 5:05 PM GMT



    Right after you BOTH talk it up and decide it between you. Is it EXCLUSIVE or NOT? Huge important item....
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    Feb 06, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    I agree with meninlove. You really need to talk about it and both decide. My boyfriend and I decided at different times that we were official. He tends to make more assumptions than I do and I have to have things practically in writing. It's important to talk.
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    Feb 06, 2009 5:41 PM GMT
    My late partner & I were dating for about 6 months, when after dinner at his place one night he slipped away to his bedroom. He rushed back to the table where I still sat, literally fell to his knees, and nervously proposed to me with an engagement ring, totally surprising me just like in the movies! I accepted.

    My present partner & I were also dating for about 6 months, when one day he casually said he thought I should move in with him. I agreed.

    The very next day, while being introduced to a friend of his, he said I was his new partner! Hello! Men can be so silly, so different, so wonderful. We've been living together for 18 months now, as loving partners, all the legal documents between us drawn, everything but the marriage license our state prohibits us.

    On the other hand... I dated another guy for about a year, and he had an absolute phobia about making any kind of commitment. I started to fall in love with him, but the only way I could keep him was if I pretended we were just casual friends. Even using the "L-word," as he put it, would upset him.

    He insisted he wanted to play the field with other guys, which I accepted, and watched him make a mess of things every time. Then have him come back to me to help him sort things out, as his "only true friend in the world."

    Men can also be so stupid, so predictable, so awful. LMAO!

    Becoming "official" can happen over time without your knowing it, or it can happen in a flash. Whether you talk it over, send announcements to all the gay rags, or just realize one day it's already a done deal, there's no single formula for any 2 guys. Except I do think you'll know it when it happens.
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    Feb 06, 2009 6:21 PM GMT
    When you both change your facebook relationship status.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 06, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Sometimes its a moment that occurs. I remember that my bf tried to break up with me about 2.5 months into the relationship. He told me he had developed feelings and was worried about getting hurt. I had been having a great time going out on dates and attacking him back at my house for hours on end.... it was a serious moment during a period that we really hadn't focused. All changed after the "break up" threat. And he didn't break up with me.
  • UncleverName

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    Feb 06, 2009 6:39 PM GMT
    Ghen saidWhen you both change your facebook relationship status.


    Haha I have a standing rule that if my partner and I ever break up, neither of us changes our status until it's been a couple of weeks. Nothing tackier than finding out two people you are friends with just broke up via Facebook. Oh, and having one of them constantly update their status with pleas to get back together is also extremely tacky.
  • auryn

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    Feb 06, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    When you get gay married for the insurance.
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    Feb 06, 2009 7:00 PM GMT
    meninlove said Right after you BOTH talk it up and decide it between you. Is it EXCLUSIVE or NOT? Huge important item....


    meninlove is absolutely right. For an example why discussing what the relationship means to you is vital, please read this thread about cheating.
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    Feb 06, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
    When he finally offers his soul, and you grab it and eat it greedily.
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    Feb 06, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Love...




    everything else is just a weenie roast
  • Timbales

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    Feb 06, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
    remembering his last name
  • GQjock

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    Feb 06, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    When you friends start inviting you to things "as a couple"
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    When you 2 are together and you don't correct people when they talk about you 2 being boyfriends.
  • jarhead5536

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    Feb 07, 2009 6:32 AM GMT
    When you start saying "we" instead of "I" without realizing it...
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    Feb 07, 2009 6:35 AM GMT
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