Have you had a relationship saved or repaired after inviting a third party in the bedroom?

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    Feb 06, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    Today I got a heartfelt 'thank you' from one of the couple who I had threesome with for the second time. His partner eventually reciprocated his need to cuddle before sleeping and after sex, which I pointed out to his boyfriend when we had our one-on-one before the guy who thanked me arrived in town.
    I was wondering if there is a similar situation that has ever happened to anyone of you who are in a relationship right now...? They have been together for almost 4 years now... up until one of them had to move to Dubai for work. (These are the young Aussie couple I mentioned in the other earlier threads.)
  • rcrdespn88

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    Feb 07, 2009 12:33 AM GMT
    YOu know this actually is an interesting questions. why do people seem to read it but not comment on their past experiences? wish i could answer ( but never even had a three some)
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    Feb 07, 2009 12:39 AM GMT
    rcrdespn88 saidYOu know this actually is an interesting questions. why do people seem to read it but not comment on their past experiences? wish i could answer ( but never even had a three some)


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    Feb 07, 2009 12:51 AM GMT
    I was with a couple a few times.. The guy was unhappy with his wife because he was bicurious and wanted to experiment with a guy, so they asked me... being the only friend of theirs that is bi. And the woman, who wouldn't get her emotional needs, ie, cuddling, so I also helped out with that.

    As for a third helping out one of my relationships... no, it was the downfall of a 2 years relationship.. things went to shit after that. All rules were broken.
  • D972

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    Feb 07, 2009 1:46 AM GMT
    Soooo ...

    You had a threesome. The couple says thank you because you had a 1 on 1 (convo maybe) before the threesome and suggested that they cuddle more?

    Okay ... soooo a simple 'Baby can we cuddle more' from his boyfriend would not have sufficed?

    Well to answer your question: I had a threesome, it was OK . Did it help my relationship? Not really. Was it fun? Yeah kinda.
  • upsguy68

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    Feb 07, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    My first relationship started off as a threesome with a couple. I basically broke up their relationship! In OUR relationship, we would occasionally invite a third party into our bedroom. We inevitably split up! So being involved in threesomes made me realize that I SHOULDN'T DO IT and WON'T DO IT AGAIN!! This is just my own experience. To each his own.
  • jarhead5536

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    Feb 07, 2009 6:31 AM GMT
    No, no, no, a thousand times no! Opening up my first marriage sent it rushing down the path it was already headed to - destruction. We had been coasting along for months before it happened, and thought that someone new would spice things up. Wrong. We separated within weeks of that ill-fated (yet very hot) threesome. Neither of us was prepared to deal with the reality of our partner in ecstasy with another man...
  • GQjock

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    Feb 07, 2009 12:30 PM GMT
    Yeah.... it's great for the relationship


    .... for the New guy and One of the other guys icon_wink.gif

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    Apr 08, 2009 12:10 AM GMT
    I dont think a relationship can be continued to be called such as soon as a third person is involved. After that you just become f@@k buddies. Relationship = 2 people. IMO. A relationship that needs a third person is no longer worth having. Find someone you actually want to be with.