HottJoe saidOnce again the US courts prove themselves to be the only thing sleazier than the music industry.
Rape is difficult to discuss. I've posted on RJ about my own experiences and then deleted them when I became very uncomfortable with putting it out there. I can totally understand why most rape victims never come forward and how much courage it really takes.
It damages you, gives you almost irrational fears. I can't even go to NYC without reliving the trauma. It's like when Louise says she won't go to Texas in "Thelma and Louise." I know what that's like. It really just destroys you in many untold ways.
I like Kesha, but I doubt her career will last. She's right that Sony will bury her, and that she will not be free to record music elsewhere because of her contract. That's standard procedure. Her career is most likely over, and it ended in tears and heartbreak.
People are so negative. If she wants a career she can still make one. She is under the contract and still has ties to people in the industry other than Dr. Luke. She can still make a record (actually six records) under Sony, and I doubt the industry will purposely slander her attempts of being successful just to satisfy Luke's ego and waste TONS of industry money.
Regarding rape, yes it is a difficult thing but if we locked up everyone accused of rape, or broke contracts because someone stated there was abuse without concrete evidence, innocent people would be taken down by people looking to capitalize off of that trust. I have dealt with physical and sexual abuse myself, so I can fairly say man up and stop being a wuss; if you want justice then tape the shit happening, if you can't do that then move on and find another opportunity in life instead of throwing a pity party.
Also she signed a six album recording contract which no one in their right mind should ever do.
Regarding your sexual past, if you can't even go to NYC anymore it means you haven't healed, and sorry just because you have been sexually abused doesn't mean that you're damaged forever: you're perpetuating that belief. If it damaged you that much and you can't go to that city it is because you haven't grown from the experience enough and it is still commemorating your feelings of dis-empowerment. Do the emotional work required and you actually will be more powerful in the future than you would have ever been if you weren't raped.
Prince changed his name to get out of a contract. Actually, he just started going by "the artist formally known as..." It's tough, because she'd have to make six albums, and Sony would have to green light all of them before she could legally record with anyone else. Sony really does have the power to bury her. The odds that Kesha will ever have another single on the radio are so marginal, (and that would be the case no matter what, since most people have a short shelf-life in that industry) that they'd probably make a movie about it if she were to succeed. "What's Love Got to Do With It, Part II," perhaps?
As for my experiences in NYC, they did have a lasting impact on my life, in that they threw me off the course I was on, and now I'm just not leading the life I'd originally envisioned for myself. However, I'm now doing things with my life that are more ambitious than my original aspirations anyway, and I have some pretty lofty goals still left to accomplish.
I doubt I'll ever see things the way I saw them before my experience. I'm not sure if I'm damaged, but there's no one I can talk to about it who doesn't blame me or make me feel weak. I don't want pity, or lectures on what I should be doing about it. I don't want to go to NYC and be irrationally unnerved by a boogieman that most people never have to face.
I always regret telling people about my experience, and it's always a reminder that I don't want people to know what happened to me, because it was so awful, degrading, and humiliating. I've never told my parents, for instance. It would hurt them, and that in turn would hurt me. Wish I never had to experience that shame, but I didn't see it coming.
Your response just makes me regret admitting what happened to me. The only reason I even brought it up is because I read about similar things that have happened to other people, mostly women, and I want to be able speak out about it, not because I see myself as damaged, but to assure them that I know it takes immense courage to come forward.
Trouble is, talking about it makes people line up to pity me, or tell me I'm damaged. Honestly, it just makes it worse.