Mutual masturbation...how high is the risk of STI, please help

  • Shark100

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    Feb 22, 2016 7:48 AM GMT
    I am quiet new on all these, to the point that I let for the first time a guy to touch my penis and give me a hand job last Saturday night.

    The issue is, I met this guy at night as I was walking along the beach, Lebanese- Armenian guy, very attractive, he grabbed my bulge and started playing with it, I did not allow him to pull my penis out but instead he was masturbating it through my briefs which were already full of precum.

    Suddenly he pulled out his uncut penis, he wasn't hard at all and was a bit embarrassed as mine was really stiff, he grabbed his penis with his hand and then changed hands, touching and rubbing his fingers against the head of my penis with the hand he was using to masturbate himself.

    It was an exciting experience, however I started panicking afterwards, when I realise he might have had precum in his fingers and he kept touching the tip of my penis.

    I called the sexual clinic today Monday afternoon and they said this is a very low risk activity and reiterated that there is no risk to get AIDS, however I have been feeling some sort of burning feeling in my penis and once back home I was shocked that my glans and foresking is quiet red, it does not hurt when urinating but I am so frustrated. Any advice will be highly appreciated. Thanks guys...
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 22, 2016 2:13 PM GMT
    Shark100 saidI am quiet new on all these, to the point that I let for the first time a guy to touch my penis and give me a hand job last Saturday night.

    The issue is, I met this guy at night as I was walking along the beach, Lebanese- Armenian guy, very attractive, he grabbed my bulge and started playing with it, I did not allow him to pull my penis out but instead he was masturbating it through my briefs which were already full of precum.

    Suddenly he pulled out his uncut penis, he wasn't hard at all and was a bit embarrassed as mine was really stiff, he grabbed his penis with his hand and then changed hands, touching and rubbing his fingers against the head of my penis with the hand he was using to masturbate himself.

    It was an exciting experience, however I started panicking afterwards, when I realise he might have had precum in his fingers and he kept touching the tip of my penis.

    I called the sexual clinic today Monday afternoon and they said this is a very low risk activity and reiterated that there is no risk to get AIDS, however I have been feeling some sort of burning feeling in my penis and once back home I was shocked that my glans and foresking is quiet red, it does not hurt when urinating but I am so frustrated. Any advice will be highly appreciated. Thanks guys...
    Talk to your primary care doctor about this and try to get additional professional opinions.
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    Feb 22, 2016 3:13 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    Talk to your primary care doctor about this and try to get additional professional opinions.

    Agreed. To the OP: there are some STIs that can be transmitted by non-penetrating contact. It's not a good idea to get intimate if the circumstances don't allow you to see his skin well, like on a dark beach at night.

    At the same time, your symptoms can also represent non-infectious irritation from abrasion. This can happen when another guy handles you, as compared to self-masturbation when you're less likely to get too rough with your own dick. You say this is new to you.

    Maybe his hands were coarser than yours. Plus had some beach sand on them. And it seems he was rubbing your glans vigorously, which you may not ordinarily do a lot yourself, as opposed to stroking your shaft. Worse if his hands were dry, and the skin isn't used to that.

    And the urethra can also become sore from a grip that's too tight or pinching, and action too harsh. You can cause these things yourself by overdoing your masturbation. Did you then jerk yourself more at home, because of exciting memories over the encounter with him?

    But as roadbikeRob says, this is best evaluated by a physician. Don't panic, and realize there are other less serious causes for these symptoms.
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    Feb 22, 2016 10:00 PM GMT
    Hey man. If you let a stranger play with the stuff in your underwear it will feel good and you will probably panic afterwards. Every time. Most STI's take longer than a few minutes to manifest symptoms. If the irritation doesn't go away in a week see a doctor. If you get tested too soon a false negative is likely. Every thing you do has some level of risk. Some things are far more risky than others. Be honest with yourself about what level of risk you will accept and don't let anyone do anything above your acceptable level. You will panic afterwards. Every time.
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 23, 2016 8:05 PM GMT
    You may well have just made it a bit sore, you can catch gonorrhea or clamidia through this type of activity but if you are cut it is not as easy but is possible, antibiotics clears it up within 2 weeks, usually it takes 2 to 3 weeks for symptoms to show anyhow with soreness and discharge but I doubt you have it anyhow, maybe leave it a couple weeks and see what happens, if you do get something then make sure you treat it properly because an infection in the urethra can eventually cause scar tissue to build up and then you have to go to the Dr's and get it lasered and they do that with a thin camera while you are watching the thing going in and with just a local anasthetic, embarrassing stuff which i'm sure you don't want. never ignore symptoms, see how you are in a couple weeks, i'm sure you are worried over nothing though.
  • Shark100

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    Feb 24, 2016 10:08 AM GMT
    Thanks guys, every comment is highly appreciated, The red rash has gone, the color of my penis is normal, however I fear this is more serious than expected, this morning at work I went to the toilet and found a group of small blisters on the head of my penis, I panicked so I went to the doctor, could not tell him what happened, so I told him I had sex with a girl and the condom broke, and then told him that after a couple of days, these things appeared...this is really embarrassing for me and it makes me feel so bad...

    He said he will take a sample of the fluid but when I showed him my penis his reaction was...well that is not what I was expecting, the White dots are not filled with fluid...at least not at this stage, anyway he rubbed the swab and put it in a tube, told me to go also to the lab with urine sample so I will go tomorrow.

    Do you guys think it is possible I could get infected with AIDS?, the lady in the hotline told me this is not possible through mutual masturbation, but honestly for being the first time I allow a guy to give me a hand job, and having this thing on my penis makes me think that I Im so unfortunate that I could probably be infected with AIDS, I feel really sad and anxious, the doctor said I can get blood test in few weeks as it is too early to detect any serious condition...once again the wait that will not let me sleep or eat until I get tested.

    I wish this could be easier, I don't think I will do this again...if everytime I get exposed to some kind of contact with men...even when it is "safe", causes me such level of anxiety...I Prefer not to get involved.

    Finding a nice guy and establish a monogamous relationship was my life goal, I betrayed myself by getting into cruising and letting the excitement of the moment to take control...and this is the result, so I guess I have to face the consequences of bad choices. icon_sad.gif



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    Feb 24, 2016 11:26 AM GMT
    Shark100 said
    Do you guys think it is possible I could get infected with AIDS?


    Absolutely not. Unless you had open wounds on your cock and he had open wounds on his hand, or blood from his cock on his hand when he rubbed your penis, that then went into the open wounds on your cock, which is HUGELY unlikely, even then it would be extremely unlikely to contract HIV this way (it would be HIV not AIDS - you cannot be infected with AIDS - do some research).

    It sounds to me like you just have some abrasion and you are panicking massively because of feelings of guilt and shame which you need to address.
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    Feb 24, 2016 3:42 PM GMT
    Dude, you must be honest with your doctor if you want proper treatment. Most doctor have heard or seen anything you could tell or show them. Full disclosure might get you out of panic mode.
  • Shark100

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    Feb 25, 2016 9:12 AM GMT
    PulseFit said
    Shark100 said
    Do you guys think it is possible I could get infected with AIDS?


    Absolutely not. Unless you had open wounds on your cock and he had open wounds on his hand, or blood from his cock on his hand when he rubbed your penis, that then went into the open wounds on your cock, which is HUGELY unlikely, even then it would be extremely unlikely to contract HIV this way (it would be HIV not AIDS - you cannot be infected with AIDS - do some research).

    It sounds to me like you just have some abrasion and you are panicking massively because of feelings of guilt and shame which you need to address.


    Thanks for the comment a for the clarification about HIV and AIDS, now I know something new. I agree that guilt has made this more difficult to deal with. But I am certain there is something abnormal down there, it looks really weird, so I am just waiting for Herpes results tomorrow, on Saturday morning I will bring my urine samples for any other STI and I guess I will have to wait few weeks to get the HIV test...how depressing it is, I don't even feel I want to talk with my family or friends, I don't even want to use the shower or toilet at home, not even want to touch my penis with my hands.

    It's ironic, 6 months ago I would not imagine myself in this situation...a mistake, terrible mistake icon_sad.gif
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 25, 2016 10:04 AM GMT
    I think you are worrying over nothing and getting yourself into a state, if I were you and not knowing much about STD's, I would go and talk to a nurse, Dr or a councillor who know about these things so you can get educated in the subject, you don't want to not have relationships because of paranoia, just some precautions are good to do. If you take unnecessary risks like sleeping around then you increase the risk of catching something. Having a trusting partnership with one person is the best way to look after your health.
  • Shark100

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    Feb 26, 2016 8:29 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidNo fear of HIV from what you two did.

    You can spread HPV which an acronym for human Papillomavirus.
    This is unavoidable and is spread with any direct sexual contact. It's usually not an issue and there's no reason to go into discussing the very instances where this can manifest into something serious. Besides, that takes years to develop. If you're young enough consult a physician about getting the vaccination for HPV.

    As another poster already said, symptoms of an STD don't manifest within minutes or even hours. It takes a few days.

    Consult a physician and make an appointment if what you're experiencing doesn't go away in a day or two.

    Thanks so man, your words are greatly welcomed, I hope everything is fine, will follow your advise.