Is anyone single and happy

  • interestingch...

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    Feb 22, 2016 9:56 PM GMT
    I am single, rarely date and I am on the whole pretty contented, is there anyone who feels the same or are you not happy because of not having a boyfriend?
    I occasionally think it would be nice to wake up next to someone who you care about but I don't need anyone and I'm not actively looking, anyhow every time I have met someone, it has always been when I have least expected it.
    I don't do random hookups although i'm not completely sweet and innocent because i want to keep my self respect and when I do sleep with someone I find it that much more special even though it doesn't happen very often, I think its important to respect yourself and be able to look yourself in the mirror, I do see a lot of gay guys that have this sort of lost look in their eyes and wondered if its because of the amount of different guys they sleep with so don't respect themselves and feel lost and alone and used, anyone have any thoughts or feel the same way as me?
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    Feb 22, 2016 10:23 PM GMT
    Well you are right, sometimes is best be completely alone than with someone toxic or someone that make you feel bad with his actitude.

    We must not be afraid of loneliness, is worst live with appearances and false expectations and be unhappy. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 22, 2016 11:21 PM GMT
    While I want to have a husband both being in a relationship and being single have pros and cons. A relationship is no garuntee of not being lonely, happy, or absent of heartbreak. Relationships are great and preferable but not a necessary component of a good life. I'd take a fulfilling career over a husband.
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 22, 2016 11:36 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidWhile I want to have a husband both being in a relationship and being single have pros and cons. A relationship is no garuntee of not being lonely, happy, or absent of heartbreak. Relationships are great and preferable but not a necessary component of a good life. I'd take a fulfilling career over a husband.


    I know people who are in a relationship and are actually lonely because they aren't on the same page as their partner, whats the point in being with them if its like that. being contented is way more important in my opinion and i'm strong enough to be on my own and live my own life, I do plenty to help other people because becoming selfish isn't a great idea, its also good to help random strangers without reward, its good for the soul.
    Being singe has its advantages in the fact that I can go travelling when I want and I always meet lots of people wherever I go, if I was with someone then the likely hood of meeting the amount of people I do are pretty remote.
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    Feb 23, 2016 12:04 AM GMT
    Happiness is a choice. Singleness is a combination of choice and dating pool.

    Being happy while single will increase your dating pool, cause nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.
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    Feb 23, 2016 12:20 AM GMT
    paulflexes said... nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.

    Or desperate to have a boyfriend and be in a long term relationship.
  • Unnamed6

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    Feb 23, 2016 5:10 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHappiness is a choice. Singleness is a combination of choice and dating pool.

    Being happy while single will increase your dating pool, cause nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.


    You know a person like you had a chance to redeem yourself with the whole Trolli thing when I brought it up some time ago, like so many other people here as well... Usually I delete and never say these kinds of comments on RJ, but if you're going to wonder why a person like you will be alone, or even unhappy, it's generally because you can't be upfront with something like this. But not that I'm necessarily judging you, but you can't expect much for yourself or out of yourself, if you're also incapable of being open when something wrong happens. Like Ljay, Xrich, and tens of others, you've come across Yourname's tendency to quote Morpheus from the Matrix, right? The blue and red pill? Let's just say that I could have had your help when I was making certain allegations...

    So I'm alone in ever acknowledging certain truths about things or people. This is one of the reasons why I alone have "sexual agency" in spite of not being sexual at all. Perhaps if individuals like yourself actually had the balls to start saying certain things, you'd also have "sexual agency". It's about time people stop trying to live vicariously through others experiences and only be capable of blowjobs and handjobs. I'll help eventually...
  • Unnamed6

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    Feb 23, 2016 5:28 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Unnamed6 said
    paulflexes saidHappiness is a choice. Singleness is a combination of choice and dating pool.

    Being happy while single will increase your dating pool, cause nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.


    You know a person like you had a chance to redeem yourself with the whole Trolli thing when I brought it up some time ago, like so many other people here as well... Usually I delete and never say these kinds of comments on RJ, but if you're going to wonder why a person like you will be alone, or even unhappy, it's generally because you can't be upfront with something like this. But not that I'm necessarily judging you, but you can't expect much for yourself or out of yourself, if you're also incapable of being open when something wrong happens. Like Ljay, Xrich, and tens of others, you've come across Yourname's tendency to quote Morpheus from the Matrix, right? The blue and red pill? Let's just say that I could have had your help when I was making certain allegations...

    So I'm alone in ever acknowledging certain truths about things or people. This is one of the reasons why I alone have "sexual agency" in spite of not being sexual at all. Perhaps if individuals like yourself actually had the balls to start saying certain things, you'd also have "sexual agency". It's about time people stop trying to live vicariously through others experiences and only be capable of blowjobs and handjobs. I'll help eventually...


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  • Unnamed6

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    Feb 23, 2016 5:35 AM GMT
    MMTM, despite the fact you're naked a lot, you're highly inhibited. And if every little thing can bother you as well, sex can't really be that great for you (but you'll have your moments of course), so I'm here to help. Eventually...
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 23, 2016 6:49 AM GMT
    interestingchap saidI am single, rarely date and I am on the whole pretty contented, is there anyone who feels the same or are you not happy because of not having a boyfriend?
    I occasionally think it would be nice to wake up next to someone who you care about but I don't need anyone and I'm not actively looking, anyhow every time I have met someone, it has always been when I have least expected it.
    I don't do random hookups although i'm not completely sweet and innocent because i want to keep my self respect and when I do sleep with someone I find it that much more special even though it doesn't happen very often, I think its important to respect yourself and be able to look yourself in the mirror, I do see a lot of gay guys that have this sort of lost look in their eyes and wondered if its because of the amount of different guys they sleep with so don't respect themselves and feel lost and alone and used, anyone have any thoughts or feel the same way as me?


    I have no doubt that some people are more relationship minded than the others. I also know a few guys who seem to be pretty happy enjoying their singledom. Different strokes for different folks applies here fully.

    Having frequent hookups has really nothing to do with your self-respect. Why would a guy be having any problem looking at himself in a mirror simply because he is living his life and his sexuality as he finds fit? I am talking consentual sex among adults here.

    Everyone can (ab)use sex as a mode of escapism from his real life problems and unresolved issues. For most people, good sex life is what it is. It usually won't pay your rent or mortgage and it won't further your career either. An adult usually knows what he really needs to do in order to get where he wants to be. Only too often, the road there is pretty rocky, so, quite a few guys choose to take the path of least resistance. A few years later, the chances are gone, the world has moved on, and they indeed, are lost. This has nothing to do with the many sex partners they may have had. It has everything to do with their lack of resolution and discipline to do what needs to be done.

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  • NyRuinz

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    Feb 23, 2016 6:54 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidWhile I want to have a husband both being in a relationship and being single have pros and cons. A relationship is no garuntee of not being lonely, happy, or absent of heartbreak. Relationships are great and preferable but not a necessary component of a good life. I'd take a fulfilling career over a husband.


    I agree, I'm single and happy. I don't want to me one of those people who are miserable in a relationship. I would rather be alone than unhappy. As shallow as this may sound I want to be 100% in love with myself before I love anyone else.
    I have been working on myself for a while now and it feels great. I'm not going to allow anyone to come in and disrupt what I have worked for.
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    Feb 23, 2016 6:57 AM GMT
    Is anyone single and happyicon_question.gif

    Yes, I am!

    I keep busy and productive. Love good fun with anyone and friends too.

    Sometimes relationships become too serious and the fun escapes. I say, just enjoy life the best you can, daily!
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 23, 2016 9:05 AM GMT
    I think there is a big difference between being lonely and alone, the latter being where I am.
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    Feb 23, 2016 2:47 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidHappiness is a choice. Singleness is a combination of choice and dating pool.

    Being happy while single will increase your dating pool, cause nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.


    I know you are always very well meaning person on the forum but I would disagree that happiness is a choice. It means that people who are unhappy have chosen to be miserable and unworthy of compassion and good things in their life.

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    Feb 23, 2016 2:55 PM GMT
    I am at a great phase in my life in regards to dating. I am extremely content in being single so while a relationship will be a good thing to have, it is not something I crave actively.


    As for being happy, nobody is perfectly happy. It just means people go through anger, boredom and sadness a lot less than excitement, nonchalance and pleasure.

    Ever-lasting happiness is a disillusionment.
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    Feb 23, 2016 3:24 PM GMT
    I am single , rarely date , have the best mates , i am very content and happy ...
  • nice_chap

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    Feb 23, 2016 3:55 PM GMT
    I enjoy a lot of hobbies and activities that only require one person, so yeah, I do spend a lot of time alone and am quite happy to be in my own space.

    It's not that I don't ever want a partner, I'd love to have one, but I'm so used to being on my own and not having people who share my interests that it doesn't bother me that much to be alone. I don't get bored easily, i find ways to amuse myself and keep busy. Therefore I'm not a good match for somebody who does get bored and needs attention and amusement from another person.

    What bothers me is when people (usually women or older gay men) do question me about being single and try to encourage me to find a love life. That makes me think they must find me boring and need to find a boyfriend just to make myself more interesting. People like that can stay the fuck out of my personal life.
  • mar0302

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    Feb 23, 2016 7:26 PM GMT
    I love my life.. a relationship would require changes that I'm not yet prepared to make.. I know I'll want to relationship again at some point in the future, but for right now I'm just enjoying the fun, improving my career and exploring the world..

    I find, though, that the more I'm happy being single, the more guys are interested in getting me to settle down... when I actually have wanted to have a partner, I've not been pursued nearly as much..
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 23, 2016 7:50 PM GMT
    nice_chap saidI enjoy a lot of hobbies and activities that only require one person, so yeah, I do spend a lot of time alone and am quite happy to be in my own space.

    It's not that I don't ever want a partner, I'd love to have one, but I'm so used to being on my own and not having people who share my interests that it doesn't bother me that much to be alone. I don't get bored easily, i find ways to amuse myself and keep busy. Therefore I'm not a good match for somebody who does get bored and needs attention and amusement from another person.

    What bothers me is when people (usually women or older gay men) do question me about being single and try to encourage me to find a love life. That makes me think they must find me boring and need to find a boyfriend just to make myself more interesting. People like that can stay the fuck out of my personal life.


    I think maybe you are being a little sensitive about your friends, I think that they have your interests at heart and I bet they are in a relationship and can't maybe understand that you are happy on your own, the vast majority of people seem to think that you can't be happy if you are on your own which just isn't true, certainly for me anyhow. Don't worry about your friends, they are just trying to help and guide you which is nice for them to be concerned about your welfare.
    I have a lot of interests also, I travel a lot too so finding someone who will accept my life or join in is pretty hard and to be honest I like my own company, I have plenty of friends to keep me amused and family also, not sure I would have time in my life for someone anyway.
  • Peterluke

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    Feb 23, 2016 8:05 PM GMT
    I think I'm happier being single than in a relationship. Having a relationship is very time consuming. And I'm free to do whatever I want. I think trading my freedom for a relationship does not worth it. Some find freedom in a relationship but for me it's not working. I hate the pressure to be with someone though. For some it's easy but for regular single guys, it's not that easy. Also there's a lot of slut-shaming because I can't find a regular partner, I hate that. But I guess I should surround myself with single people that gets me, but it's not easy to find. But so far I like my lifestyle but not everyone is ok with it, but that's life. You can't please everyone.
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    Feb 23, 2016 10:25 PM GMT
    So does happy and single mean you guys jack off to deal with semen overload?
  • leanandclean

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    Feb 23, 2016 10:35 PM GMT
    Single and happy. Having a boyfriend would also be cool but I would ask if it was worth the adjustment.
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    Feb 23, 2016 10:43 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidSo does happy and single mean you guys jack off to deal with semen overload?

    NO. That's what prayer is for. Wearing a hair shirt also helps.
  • Fireworkz

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    Feb 23, 2016 11:01 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidHappiness is a choice. Singleness is a combination of choice and dating pool.

    Being happy while single will increase your dating pool, cause nobody wants to date a person who isn't happy.


    I know you are always very well meaning person on the forum but I would disagree that happiness is a choice. It means that people who are unhappy have chosen to be miserable and unworthy of compassion and good things in their life.



    You can choose to be happy in the moment. It doesn't mean you will always be happy or that you won't default to being unhappy if that is your default but there's nothing stopping you from choosing to be happy.
  • ursa_minor

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    Feb 23, 2016 11:59 PM GMT
    single. yes
    happy. yes
    contented. no. -still curious what it feels like being someone's someone hehe