Is it offensive or not?

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    Feb 23, 2016 7:18 AM GMT
    I just read someone's dating profile where it was written,
    Online profileMost gay men are between women and faggot.

    How stupid gay guys could be? Using faggot on a gay website to demean other gays.
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    Feb 23, 2016 11:54 PM GMT
    Well not offensive. It could be just a tongue-in-cheek remark by some narcissistic guy or just a trolling profile. But I am only saying this because you mentioned you read it on this site. If it was elsewhere say on a billboard or a graffiti downtown then it would be offensive.
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    Feb 24, 2016 2:55 AM GMT
    not offensive. he just seems frustrated. we've all been there.
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    Feb 24, 2016 3:03 AM GMT
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    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.
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    Feb 24, 2016 5:51 AM GMT
    When someone about gay community uses those bad qualifying, more than offend to someone, he is offending to he same.
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    Feb 24, 2016 6:23 AM GMT
    I see stuff like this on Jack's and A4A all the time. It normally reminds me that some men are very angry. I don't want to be the faggot he murders during a post sex regretful rage.
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    Feb 24, 2016 6:24 AM GMT
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.


    That picture gave me life. I so identify with her.
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    Feb 24, 2016 8:04 PM GMT
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?
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    Feb 25, 2016 1:47 AM GMT
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.
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    Feb 25, 2016 3:36 AM GMT
    Some gay men love being called faggot. It brings them to their knees.
    Now, why they like getting beat up must have something to do with being abused in the past?? Yes? No?
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    Feb 25, 2016 5:37 PM GMT
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis

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    Feb 25, 2016 5:44 PM GMT
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are s-
    3. Most Germans are n--
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 25, 2016 5:53 PM GMT
    Logic dictates that you are posting a profile for a reason.

    Making sweeping generalizations along the faggot/women lines is indeed covered by the freedom of expression but it also shows a lot of idiocy on the part of the profile owner.

    What are we to conclude from such statements?

    A dumbass is a dumbasicon_idea.gif

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    Feb 25, 2016 5:54 PM GMT
    __morphic__ said
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis



    Radd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 25, 2016 7:16 PM GMT
    "Most gay men are between women and faggot."

    Well, at last he says "most" and not "all." I do think most of the sting of faggot has been wrung out of our community so if the use of that word doesn't offend all that much, it probably does apply to some. It applies to some who post here, though thankfully not as much lately (and not in this thread). So my assumption when I read something like that is that it probably has some truth to it for the guy who said it. Which says a lot about him.
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    Feb 25, 2016 7:34 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidRadd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.

    Or ask him to be truthful about his age. God forbid anyone should expect that.   icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 25, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis



    Radd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.



    You do not have the authority to tell me what offends me. Only I know that, so shut the fuck up.
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    Feb 25, 2016 8:28 PM GMT
    Radd said
    MrFuscle said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis



    Radd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.



    You do not have the authority to tell me what offends me. Only I know that, so shut the fuck up.


    I am allowed to have an opinion of you so I'll continue to speak my mind.
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    Feb 25, 2016 8:30 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    Radd said
    MrFuscle said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis



    Radd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.



    You do not have the authority to tell me what offends me. Only I know that, so shut the fuck up.


    I am allowed to have an opinion of you so I'll continue to speak my mind.



    I think you're a pedophile.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 25, 2016 8:43 PM GMT
    ^Radd is offensive, always...

    I think saying that most, some, or even one gay man is a faggot can be offensive and hurtful. In the context of an RJ profile, I'd figure the person who is saying it is self-hating or a troll.
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    Feb 25, 2016 8:50 PM GMT
    HottJoe said^Radd is offensive, always...

    I think saying that most, some, or even one gay man is a faggot can be offensive and hurtful. In the context of an RJ profile, I'd figure the person who is saying it is self-hating or a troll.

    I saw it on one of the dating apps, not here on RJ.
    I confronted him by sending a message. Initially he tried to downplay the offensiveness, but later accepted that it was offensive to write it.
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    Feb 25, 2016 8:51 PM GMT
    Radd said
    MrFuscle said
    Radd said
    MrFuscle said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd said
    __morphic__ said
    Radd saidtumblr_n42fgoMicp1tv0jswo1_500.png
    If you're offended by a random stranger's profile, you need to toughen up. And if it weren't true, you probably wouldn't be offended in the first place.

    what do you like to be called - faggot or woman?



    That's the thing. You were not called either. If someone were to call you one of these to your face, I can see where you'd be offended. But the guy made a very generalized statement regarding the behavior of "most" gay men. In short, he stated his opinion. No need to treat it as anything more.

    Saying offensive thing doesn't count as an opinion.
    I know for you everything is opinion if it doesn't involve any thing which is directed at you.
    I am sure you would be fine with people writing
    1. Most black people are n-
    2. Most women are stupid
    3. Most Germans are nazis



    Radd would actually be OK with those. What would upset him is if you criticized white people or older gay men. For Radd as long as he doesn't identify with the insult it cannot be offensive.



    You do not have the authority to tell me what offends me. Only I know that, so shut the fuck up.


    I am allowed to have an opinion of you so I'll continue to speak my mind.



    I think you're a pedophile.


    Um OK, water floats your boat
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    Feb 26, 2016 2:42 AM GMT
    __morphic__ saidI just read someone's dating profile where it was written,
    Online profileMost gay men are between women and faggot.

    How stupid gay guys could be? Using faggot on a gay website to demean other gays.

    It's not offensive. It's self-loathing.
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    Feb 26, 2016 3:52 AM GMT
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    __morphic__ saidI just read someone's dating profile where it was written,
    Online profileMost gay men are between women and faggot.

    How stupid gay guys could be? Using faggot on a gay website to demean other gays.

    It's not offensive. It's self-loathing.



    You can't call every single person "self loathing" simply because they don't like something. icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 26, 2016 4:19 AM GMT
    Sam27 saidNo I think the person is right. In my opinion, Gay people that are feminine really turn me off.



    It's funny how only the fem guys get offended by it. One word against fem guys and the high heels start flying! icon_lol.gif