How does one not give their heart away?

  • tbeaux

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    Feb 07, 2009 7:58 AM GMT
    Hi,
    So i have this problem. i tend to give my heart out too easily. I am very unlucky in relationships. My first boyfriend died 2 years ago, we went out for a year, the next 4 guys i dated (at different times) all left to go out of state, the next bf I had left to college, the one after was in college too far away to make it work, the next one moved to mississippi, and tonight i just got stood up.

    How can I stop giving my heart away?
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    Feb 07, 2009 8:14 AM GMT
    I dont know, I kinda have the same problem sometimes. But you have to learn from previous relationships and try to take things easier and slower when it comes to this. Some guys might just freak out or they might just find you boring or probably they feel the same but they move away. Just dont plan a future, live the moment with your bf, and enjoy that moment to plenitude, if u actually fall in love with each other, most of the time you'll find a way to work things out, but if its not reciprocal, you'll always be the only one who gets hurt. My advise? As I said, live the moment and try...but always keep in mind that he could be just another asshole, and he needs to prove to you that he is not.
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    Feb 07, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
    I don't think you should stop giving of yourself in relationships. I just looked at your profile, it says you are 18 and a senior in high school. You don't know how awesome it is for me to read about an 18 year old guy in high school having had 4 or 5 boyfriends already, and can possibly bring another boy to his prom. Dude, that's so amazing. By the time you get to college (which will be so much better, trust me), you'll already have a world of experience over so many other guys who don't even come out until college, and some don't come out until after it.

    I didn't come out until I was a junior in college, and would have loved to have gotten boyfriends in high school, to be able to date like every other teenager. You're really lucky when you think about it, really ballsy, or some combination of the two.

    This will give you so much valuable life experience at a young age.

    So don't stop what you're doing. Learn from the past so you don't repeat it, but keep putting yourself out there. Eventually you'll meet some wonderful guy. And then you'll be happy you did.
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    Feb 07, 2009 4:14 PM GMT



    xflipx, How else does anyone learn about their heart unless they use it?

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    Feb 07, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
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  • tbeaux

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    Feb 07, 2009 4:32 PM GMT
    hahaha zim


    meninlove, yeah you're right. using your heart is great, but it comes at a terrible price.
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    Feb 07, 2009 4:54 PM GMT
    when things seem right you fall for someone.

    Because of so many in my life that have fucked me over, my heart has only been takin once, he still has it.

    I guess telling yourself not to get so attached would help but you are just a caring person, you give your self to someone which is a great trait
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    Feb 07, 2009 5:15 PM GMT



    xflipx, it only feels like it's a terrible price because you're still discovering and developing your internal muscles. Your heart is capable of things that are truly amazing.
    Here's one - look at what you've been through, and yet you're here wondering at your consistent ability to make connections with others even though you think you shouldn't and are wondering how to stop.

    With each relationship that doesn't pan out, you learn more about what not to do, what to do, and how to be the kind of guy you'd want to go out with.