How do I get a boyfriend?

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    Feb 26, 2016 10:33 AM GMT
    Am still a single young man.. I have always wanted to be in a relationship with a lovely man from any race.. But I find It difficult to get involved with any man..
    What do I do?
  • Tawrich

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    Feb 26, 2016 5:16 PM GMT
    My plan is to just chill out and have fun till I'm a bit older. There's an interesting observation that many gays go through the same exploration phase that straight men go through in high school only with a lot more money and freedom to make an even bigger mess of things. I've found trying to date guys in my age group to be a lost cause.
  • Tawrich

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    Feb 26, 2016 5:18 PM GMT
    Get a husky they're lovely companions in the meantime. I wake up every morning to howls from the living room and a best friend who's actually glad to see me. Now who doesn't want that right!? icon_biggrin.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 26, 2016 6:28 PM GMT
    You do whatever the guys do in your area to get a BF. If they succeeded the chances are, you will, too.

    There is really no need to reinvent the wheel each and every time. You take a well-known path, and look around for your own goal.

    SC
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    Feb 26, 2016 7:13 PM GMT
    Ebony20 saidBut I find It difficult to get involved with any man

    seems that is your issue.
  • Sincityfan

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    Feb 26, 2016 8:31 PM GMT
    Easiest way:
    Get hot- i.e. lift weights

    Oh...nvm.
    You're going to have to move to a different country first. icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 26, 2016 9:06 PM GMT
    You're 20 years old and still single?!?!   icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 27, 2016 12:53 AM GMT
    Dogs do make it easier to attract mates!
  • Apparition

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    Feb 27, 2016 6:59 AM GMT
    Well, have you tried emailing random people and asking them.
    Oh right. lol.

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    Assuming you have a safe space, just ask them. Pretty much get an education and get out of africa first.
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    Feb 27, 2016 2:19 PM GMT
    Have to go and meet new people whether it's online or in person and build a relationship. It takes time. Find some good groups or common gay hangouts and build friendships first. Just be yourself because a good boyfriend wants transparency than someone trying to be something else. In my mind before any relationship can happen is building a trust among one another.

    Try not to waste too much of your time trying to hunt that person down and end up achieving absolutely nothing but total disappointment in yourself.

    A good friend of mine told me it comes as it comes at the right time when you least expect it and if you feel you havent got anyone yet, It's just now is not the time.
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    Feb 27, 2016 10:47 PM GMT
    JMS475 saidHave to go and meet new people whether it's online or in person and build a relationship. It takes time. Find some good groups or common gay hangouts. Just be yourself because a good boyfriend wanys transparency than someone trying to be something else.


    I really appreciate this..thanks alot
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    Feb 27, 2016 10:50 PM GMT
    Apparition saidWell, have you tried emailing random people and asking them.
    Oh right. lol.

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    Assuming you have a safe space, just ask them. Pretty much get an education and get out of africa first.


    Good idea..although am a gradute alreday in accountancy...I think I really like the getting out of Africa part..thanks
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    Feb 27, 2016 10:52 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidYou're 20 years old and still single?!?!   icon_eek.gif

    Yeah, still single and clean! If you know what I mean..its crazy right?
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 28, 2016 4:20 AM GMT
    I'm 26 and never really had a bf

    If there was a way to do it or a manual or some sort of fail proof instructions, we'd all have bfs

    Just start by talking to people who are

    SINGLE

    Actually looking to get to know someone!!

    The rest is about how you get along, etc so go from there
  • KJayasuriya

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    Feb 28, 2016 6:21 AM GMT
    I used to believe that finding my significant other was the most important thing - no luck honestly. Now, almost 24, my perspective on this has changed. If I am meant to be with someone, great, if not, I will be happy. I am not rushing life at all. icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 28, 2016 6:50 AM GMT
    Learn to go out and have fun
  • Antarktis

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    Feb 28, 2016 9:35 AM GMT
    this is how our kindergarten teacher was proven wrong. You're asking a site full of men who can't find a boyfriend how to find one.?
  • psustud

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    Feb 28, 2016 4:35 PM GMT
    Relax and don't focus on it too much.
    It will happen when you least expect it.


    Also, don't look for a perfect match. The Internet has caused us all to move on too quickly from great options as soon as we find a single thing or two wrong or simply not ideal about a guy.
  • SinfulWays

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    Feb 28, 2016 7:15 PM GMT
    Believe it or not there is always someone for somebody out there.... You just have to be in the right place at the right time!!!Then act accordingly!
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    Feb 29, 2016 2:11 AM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidYou do whatever the guys do in your area to get a BF. If they succeeded the chances are, you will, too.

    There is really no need to reinvent the wheel each and every time. You take a well-known path, and look around for your own goal.

    SC


    he's correct. copying what is successful is best.
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    Feb 29, 2016 6:13 AM GMT
    You just focus on yourself, do your things, improve yourself. If you're in school, go to a gay organization. Or try a gay center, volunteer. My first unofficial bf, I met him at a gay bar in LA when I was 24. So I'm not the one to asked for!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • dugha94

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    Feb 29, 2016 12:01 PM GMT
    am new here,aged 21 and am still single and clean...am straight acting..down to earth...easy going and realistic.... I need true love...
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    Mar 01, 2016 10:11 AM GMT
    javelin7 saidDogs do make it easier to attract mates!


    Lol, I don't dislike dogs. I actually was an avid dog lover when I was younger and could name just about every breed. I owned an Akita/Chow/Rhodesian Ridgeback mix some years ago. However, I've lost interest with the money and time and headache it takes to raise a dog from start to finish. I have a cat and aquariums now...but I can leave them for a few days to a month and travel the country without any issues. Can't do that with a dog.

    These days I sometimes get annoyed by the gay man that has not 1, but 2 or 3 or 4 dogs. They let them sleep in the bed with their new date (people have allergies), or let them lie in the same bed during sex. I've found many guys with that many dogs are usually dirty dogs themselves lol. Takes one to know one. Dogs and leather flock together. Bitches roll with bitches. It's like they've already created a relationship with their dogs. And when they see their dogs taking an instant liking to me, it's like they get a little jealous.

    Idk, maybe I'm imagining shit..,but it seems very true. I guess sometimes you have to ask yourself, "why would a single, gay, grown up man with no children, who has money/career go for a dog over a human relationship? Now why would that man need 2 or 3 dogs? Not insinuating anything bad about a single gay man having a dog, but it's a question that I think has some influence.
  • mcbrion

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    Mar 17, 2016 10:54 PM GMT
    Ebony20 saidAm still a single young man.. I have always wanted to be in a relationship with a lovely man from any race.. But I find It difficult to get involved with any man..
    What do I do?


    What does the difficulty stem from? A small dating pool? Insecurity? Trust? Childhood issues?

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    Mar 18, 2016 6:13 PM GMT
    Think like a straight man (well, of my generation at least). You go out and make it happen by taking action. Be polite but persistent and be ready and willing to take a chance. It's a fool-proof method, but it takes a lot more work than just flipping through online profiles or waiting for someone else to take the lead.

    Love is a kind of warfare.
    -Ovid.