MGINSD saidDefinitely, and my friends and I are not at all shy about judging people generally. That's part of the deal: judge and be judged yourself, so conduct yourself accordingly by becoming and surrounding yourself with people of good judgment.
The real problem with judging people is that we all tend to judge based on what WE know. This is what the logic dictates anyway.
The good thing here is to exercise a great deal of self-restraint before jumping on any conclusion or judgement. Few people really have the time and energy to share all the relevant information, so the resulting judgement may very well be flawed. We live in shortform times.
A guy I know pretty well since we have used to work together on several projects if for different companies rented one of my apartments. We have had a good, friendly relationship just like many other people who used to work together for several weeks at a time.
This dude has started gossiping recently that I have not been spending any time socializing with him like when we used to work together. So, some folks jumped on the conclusion that I am cold-hearted, disinterested in maintaining 'old friendships', etc., etc..
Frankly, I am not moved a bit. I ain't his babysitter, and I have got a life to live, too. Most probably, he confused the work kind of friendships, i.e., when you go with the guys you work with for a drink or two, have a dinner with a bunch of them to celebrate the end of a project, etc., with personal friendship.
Just an example of how judging other people without knowing all the relevant facts is patently wrong.