This teenager decided to finally come out to her father, so he put a gun to her head

  • metta

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    Feb 28, 2016 3:45 AM GMT
    This teenager decided to finally come out to her father, so he put a gun to her head

    http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2016/02/this-teenager-decided-to-finally-come-out-to-her-father-so-he-put-a-gun-to-her-head/
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    Feb 28, 2016 4:22 AM GMT
    Muslim. Big surprise.
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    Feb 28, 2016 9:15 AM GMT
    Radd saidMuslim. Big surprise.
    No different than Christian. My father did the same thing. Thank "god" he died less than a year after I came out to him.
  • riverrunner

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    Feb 29, 2016 2:35 PM GMT
    I've known many so called Good Christians who have pulled guns on their children when they came out. One even shot and killed them.
  • psustud

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    Feb 29, 2016 2:37 PM GMT
    Eh, that wasn't the first assumption that came to my mind.
    The first was of a southern or perhaps Midwestern evangical 2nd amendment fanatic.

    But NEITHER are good to assume.

    It's sad no matter whom it was.
    Calling this guy out for potentially being Muslim has nothing to do with what happened considering that it could have easily been any religious person.


    Radd saidMuslim. Big surprise.
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    Feb 29, 2016 6:26 PM GMT
    Children need to be a bit more careful in revealing their sexual orientation to people in their lives, especially if their parents are not progressive in their attitudes about sexuality. I understand the joy at finally accepting oneself and the need to shout it from the roof tops but that isn't always the smartest thing for a teen to do considering they are usually financially dependent on their parents.

    If there are any teens reading this debating on whether or not to come out to your parents, ask yourself: Am I ready to deal with a negative outcome to the announcement? Can I continue my education beyond high school on my own nickel if they withdraw paying tuition for higher education? Can I support myself? Even if they allow me to continue to live at home, will they make my life difficult? The bottom line is think through your decision to come out to your parents.
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    Feb 29, 2016 6:31 PM GMT
    People in general need to stop watching stupid kids on YouTube coming out to their parents and glorifying it. Life isn't about being directly honest at all times, it's about being clever and making long term decisions. If someone is going to hate you and snap for you saying something, why waste your time saying it? Even if you tell them your truth, they aren't in a state to even acknowledge it and you're better off saying it out loud to yourself in private to a mirror.
  • mwolverine

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    Mar 02, 2016 1:58 AM GMT
    Hard to fathom that something could make parents hate homosexuality more than they love their children.
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    Mar 02, 2016 7:28 AM GMT
    TO23 saidPeople in general need to stop watching stupid kids on YouTube coming out to their parents and glorifying it. Life isn't about being directly honest at all times, it's about being clever and making long term decisions. If someone is going to hate you and snap for you saying something, why waste your time saying it? Even if you tell them your truth, they aren't in a state to even acknowledge it and you're better off saying it out loud to yourself in private to a mirror.


    Absolutely good advice. The idea that every bloody thought has to be expressed to the whole world is a silliness which has gained currency in the last fifty years. I think it has largely been driven by the media with its voracious need to have "content" — now 24 hours a day. Shows like Oprah's and the like have fed this idea that if one doesn't spill their guts to the world, they are not being "honest." It simply isn't so. There ARE bad people in the world. These people are NOT going to be appreciative of your being "honest" with them; they are going to hurt you in return for your honesty. So, develop the ability to judge other people and their merits before bestowing on them the gift of your honesty.
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    Mar 04, 2016 2:54 PM GMT
    TO23 saidPeople in general need to stop watching stupid kids on YouTube coming out to their parents and glorifying it. Life isn't about being directly honest at all times, it's about being clever and making long term decisions. If someone is going to hate you and snap for you saying something, why waste your time saying it? Even if you tell them your truth, they aren't in a state to even acknowledge it and you're better off saying it out loud to yourself in private to a mirror.


    Exactly. A very good advice indeed. It reminds me of a quote I read in one of Gabriel Garcia Marquez's book: A person that always speaks his mind is best for manual labour.
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    Mar 04, 2016 2:57 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidChildren need to be a bit more careful in revealing their sexual orientation to people in their lives, especially if their parents are not progressive in their attitudes about sexuality. I understand the joy at finally accepting oneself and the need to shout it from the roof tops but that isn't always the smartest thing for a teen to do considering they are usually financially dependent on their parents.

    If there are any teens reading this debating on whether or not to come out to your parents, ask yourself: Am I ready to deal with a negative outcome to the announcement? Can I continue my education beyond high school on my own nickel if they withdraw paying tuition for higher education? Can I support myself? Even if they allow me to continue to live at home, will they make my life difficult? The bottom line is think through your decision to come out to your parents.


    This is a very good advice as well. We all want to be accepted and open about how we go around our daily life but the truth is far bitter than an idealised reality. I came out to my parents after I was fully aware that even if they disown me I would be able to support myself well enough. Thankfully, I didn't even have to step in that direction.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 15, 2016 6:06 PM GMT
    riverrunner saidI've known many so called Good Christians who have pulled guns on their children when they came out. One even shot and killed them.
    Yeah all these narrow minded bible thumping screwballs who claim to be "good Christians" but end up getting violently angry when their kids don't turn out according to their personal divine plan. They are the biggest bunch of hypocrites. So much for love thy neighbor as thy self. All these right wing Jesus freaks need to be committed into psychiatric wards.icon_mad.gif