Thanksgiving and Christmas: Are your holidays, "calm and bright"?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 08, 2007 3:17 PM GMT
    Ah the holidays... time for reflection, spending time with family, bright lights, holiday parties, religious observances.... but can also be a time of stress, tension and maybe "contentious behavior".

    For me personally, its a great time. Christmas has always been special. But I hear about family stresses
    and friends who have to do this and that with family they can't stand. I find that a little difficult.

    What do you do for the holidays? Do you limit stress?
    Any family tensions?
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:26 PM GMT
    I get stressed when confronted with Christmas too early.
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:32 PM GMT
    Thanksgiving will be bad as my children wont be with me this year...not looking forward to that...but Xmas...cant wait...the kids are with me this year and Santa already has it planned out whats going under the tree....thank you Dell.com!!!!!
  • BlackJock79

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    Oct 08, 2007 8:15 PM GMT
    The holidays won't be the same this year, I lost my best friend from college and one of my favorite aunts this year. Other than that I usually get along with everyone... well, since last year anyway. But I might LOOSE it this year if someone asks me when I'm gonna find a special lady and settle down. icon_rolleyes.gif LOL
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    Oct 08, 2007 8:49 PM GMT
    Reflection, yes. Being with my partner - the greatest gift of all.

    But the joy of the holidays is tempered with a lot of past events - 1 grandparent and 2 parents died near the holidays, and it's hard not to miss them all in the season. I especially miss showering my mother with presents at Christmas.

    As far as stress is concerned, now that I don't have to deal with her sister-in-law, an Alexis if ever there was one (look it up), stress is hugely reduced. She is one evil bitch, and loves spreading the misery!

    J.
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    Oct 08, 2007 9:30 PM GMT
    I travel with my partner so no one gets hurt around the holidays and boy, friends and family are happy when I am back.
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    Oct 08, 2007 9:30 PM GMT
    For the last decade or so, my guy and I have used holidays to travel. I'm not much of a fan of travelling, at least all the packing, hotelling, suitcasing, etc. It's nice once we're there wherever that is. We've learned that families are best avoided during holidays as there's always a drama with someone or many someones. The biggest drama is always who we would go to visit. Someone always gets the short end of the stick, either his family or mine, at least in their eyes. We told them all that we now just have a policy of not visiting anyone at the holidays and we just go away somewhere. Recently, we purchased a condo in a new building in Miami Beach. Best thing we ever did. Now, anytime someone wants us to visit for a holiday, it's "oh, sorry, we're already all set to go to Miami Beach, why not join us there?". "Oh, we can't it's too far". To each other "snicker, snee, snicker, snee, our plan is brilliant!".
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    Oct 08, 2007 9:32 PM GMT
    We switch holidays - one holiday with my family - the next with his family, so...

    This year Christmas and Hogmanay will be in Scotland with his family; everyone is cool, everyone is genuinely loving, and we will have a great time.

    On Christmas the old tower house will be filled with Pine and Holly, and when you get up you will be able to smell the baking, and the venison roasting on a spit.

    Christmas is on a Tuesday this year, so there will be a huge early breakfast, then all the men will go hunting all morning. That evening the whole family sits down (dressed to the 9's in Kilts and everything) to a huge meal in front of a roaring fire. and the partying will last till the early morning.

    For Hogmanay night there will be a huge bonfire outside at the top of the hill; all the neighbors come visiting, they have a sort of huge pot luck dinner, and they bring out the fiddles, bagpipes, and drums, and everyone starts dancing and drinking till near dawn.

    The day after Hogmanay night is when everyone will traditionally exchange presents, and they also have a traditional game and fish dinner with bits of all the different fish and game caught that year (Personally I just think it's how they clean out the freezer).

    Don't ask me about last year with my Family, at least there were no actual murder charges filed.



  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 08, 2007 9:57 PM GMT
    Wow ITjock, you should consider writing an article on all this in December and explain why the traditions are what they are... sounds great.
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    Oct 08, 2007 11:02 PM GMT
    For me, the holidays are a time for tension, headaches and all that stuff.

    So, years ago, I decided to find a cure for my family stress...I am simply not going. Sometimes I don't go because I am working or just because I prefer to be with my own family at home.

    There is also the fact that I can't stand my sister-in-law. icon_evil.gif

  • RSportsguy

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    Oct 09, 2007 12:00 AM GMT
    My parents were divorced when I was really young. It is a tradition for me to go to the Thanksgiving football game (Detroit Lions) with my Dad and then back to his house for dinner. On Christmas, I usually go to my Mom's early and then my Dad's in the afternoon. I might want to travel this year though!
    Mascjockatl-- I think it is so awesome that you are so excited already about having your kids for X-Mas! Sorry about your Thanksgiving though!
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    Oct 09, 2007 7:01 AM GMT
    The holiday insanity will start at work a few weeks before Thanksgiving and continue until a few weeks after New Year's. And this year, I'm working in a mall... the one place I always avoid during the holiday insanity... icon_rolleyes.gif This is going to be interesting...

    Thanksgiving this year, I'm hoping to take some extra time off and head back to my mom's in NC... though I'm not sure yet if that's going to happen. I haven't been able to get home for either holiday in the last 3 years, and I'm missing spending the time with mom. If I can't make it though, my sister and I will probably have our usual quiet Thanksgiving together, sharing the cooking duties.

    Christmas lately has been spent with my nephew, his paternal grandmother, his other uncle and my sister. The food is always awesome and the conversation is always good. No stress at all. Usually, we'll go over on Christmas Eve after I get off work, have dinner, exchange gifts and then sit and chat a while. My sis and I usually get back home around 2 AM and we'll do our own little gift exchange with each other before we crash for the night. Christmas day is usually reserved for being lazy and sleeping in a bit.

  • GQjock

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    Oct 09, 2007 11:00 AM GMT
    LOL...Brix that was good
    I hate Thanksgiving...
    A day to overeat and be forced to have to visit family you don't wanna be with

    "...you gonna eat that?"
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    Oct 09, 2007 11:52 AM GMT
    My partner and I left the country every Xmas/New Year's for about 10 years, with the express object of getting away from the hysteria. (The weirdest was Xmas in Istanbul. Usually, we went to Paris.)

    But a few years ago, his father and my mother both started their dying process, so we discontinued the practice.

    I could abide Xmas about 20 times more easily if George Bush would outlaw the playing of "seasonal music" in every public space.
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    Oct 09, 2007 12:12 PM GMT
    RSportsguy...thanks...Im excited for this year because I didnt have them last year...the first one without them...xmas eve was NO FUN...this year it is already shaping to be the best...Im a very devoted father and take great pride in being a parent that gives my kids the kind of memories that will last a lifetime...Divorce is hard on kids and I refuse to do what so many other guys Ive met have done who ventured the path I did....they focused on their gay life...the circuits...the partying...men and more men....even to the point of moving far away from their kids to have "freedom" to live their gay life...FUCK that ....I live 1 mile from my kids...and an hour from the nearest gay bar...I have them 2 nites a week every week...and every other weekend...I dont miss a soccer game...and I try to provide the kind of holiday memories that I had growing up...so...YEAH...Im damn excited about Xmas this year...
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    Oct 09, 2007 12:54 PM GMT
    Well for me. I love the Holidays. For Thanksgiving I usually volunteer at Mission spending the day serving meals to those was are less fortunate than myself.
    It is my way of giving back.


    I lost my mom quite sometime ago on X-Mas Eve. No worries I worked through it. It has made me a much stronger and better person. You realize what truly important and how important it is to treat each other dignity and respect. I am fairly successful at this eh- 90% of the time

    Anyway, since I do not have any kids of use Christmas to spend it with my nieces and nephews. When I spend time with older ones, I tell them of what I can remember, what a remarkable person their grandmother was and at dinner time I sit at the kiddie table and laugh it up with the younger ones.

    It’s funny now because growing up I hated being regulated to the kiddie table, now it is where I prefer to be.

    I look forward to X-Mas. That is not to say that I do not have relatives that, “if I never see them again it will be too soon” or that uncle who every year gets “tore up from the floor up and becomes a world class ignoramus and like clock work I just ponder ah!!! The Joy of Christmas!!!

    I love the holidays!icon_biggrin.gif

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    Oct 09, 2007 12:56 PM GMT
    I never liked either.

    Thanksgiving makes no sense to me because i always have to work the next day... whats the point of a holiday at the end of the week, but not extending your weekend.

    And i LOATHE Christmas! I think it is the most tragic holiday EVER. Physically it comes at a time of the year where it's colder than the ninth level of Hell in Ohio... i cant deal with that. Then there's all the music which is awful, the debt, the "obligations" of going to this party and that party, the useless amounts of cards i recieve (i obviously dont send them) the dealing with family (And mine is certifiably crazy. ADDED to that this year is the nervous tick i will get everytime i hear "Dance Of The Sugar Plum Fairy" since i am performing (and already have begun rehearsing... ugh) for my first Nutcracker performance.

    If only Ministry were right... with Halloween being every day... sigh.icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 09, 2007 1:13 PM GMT
    I'm a curmudgeon when it comes to all holidays. I don't need a special day to feel connection to my family, and I'm weary of the crass commercialism that has come to dominate every holiday.
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    Oct 09, 2007 1:39 PM GMT
    I was in a store yesterday that had Halloween and Xmas stuff on the same shelves. Pretty soon, all differences will blur.
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    Oct 09, 2007 1:39 PM GMT
    I was in a store yesterday that had Halloween and Xmas stuff on the same shelves. Pretty soon, all differences will blur.
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    Oct 09, 2007 1:44 PM GMT
    Macy's on 34th Street puts up xmas displays on 9/1.
  • art_smass

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    Oct 09, 2007 2:24 PM GMT
    The biggest mall on the continent is down the street from my house. Every year they have a giant, indoor halloween party. The following day, Xmas decorations go up.

    I worked in the big mall for sixteen years. Spending that much time in a retail environment can really make you loathe the holidays. I'm glad I wasn't working there this year, though. They left half of the mall decorated for Xmas well into summertime as they filmed a Christmas movie there starring Patrick Swayze and Carmen Electra. Really, I'm not kidding...
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    Oct 14, 2007 3:03 AM GMT
    Thanksgiving and Easter are the only two holidays that I don't have some extreme hatred for.

    Holidays have been ruined for me. Awful things, some bigger than others, have just taken away all the joy. I get chills and goosebumps just thinking about Christmas.
    I think I hate it the most.