Intercourse

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    Feb 29, 2016 12:39 AM GMT
    Here's my situation :

    I've been sexually active for quite a while now. I started having sex at 17 and now I'm 23.

    However, I've never really had boyfriend and most of my sexual encounters were either one night hookups or guys I saw for 1 to 2 weeks ( sad isn't it ? oh well )

    I consider myself a top BUT ( no pun intended) as soon as I put the condom on, I just lose my erection.
    There have been a few times where I was able to maintain it and go on to top ( but to be completely honest it wasn't even that enjoyable )
    Most times though, the guys I was with weren't patient enough and we just skipped the intercourse part.

    I asked mysef if it was a physical thing but I don't think so because I have asbolutely no problem having an erection and maintaining it.
    I also thought I might be better bottoming but the few times I've tried, I couldn't go all the way, I just found it really unpleasant/painful.

    Has anyone has similar issues with intercourse ?

    It's really frustrating that this keeps happening because F*ing does look really hot and I want to be able to please my partner(s).
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    Feb 29, 2016 4:01 PM GMT
    You aren't the only one who doesn't enjoy intercourse ...
    I have tried it 3 times , topping or bottoming , and never liked it , it is uncomfortable and unnatural to me ( that might be my problem ) ..
    I really enjoy intecrouse with a woman though , but i like oral with a men a thousand time better ..lol..
    We are all different , you might start to enjoy intercourse when you will be in love with the men you have it with , love open plenty of doors ...icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 29, 2016 4:27 PM GMT
    theantijock%20engage%20stalker%20reducti

    Cliff diving looks really hot but not diving does not make you defective.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 29, 2016 4:38 PM GMT
    You may have a couple of things going on. First, a LOT of guys have trouble with condoms. I do. Best way to deal with that is to find a monogamous partner. Hard to do if you haven't had sex. What do you fantasize about when you beat off? If you dream of penetrating a guy, you're a top. Anything else and the question is still there. But if you are a top, try experimenting with a condom when you beat off. Seems silly but it is the only way to get used to it. Takes practice and you need the confidence.

    As to not enjoying being a bottom, a whole lot of that is about the skill of your top. Until you know what it is you are responsible for as a bottom and have practiced that, it is uncomfortable and frankly feels like taking a poop. But a good top can slowly walk you through some of that learning curve if he is a nice guy. And if you're a bottom, you'll love it. Takes a few tries unless you've done your homework. And even if you get used to it, you may still be a top but you'll be a much better top because you know what a bottom is experiencing.

    Try buying the Gay Joy of Sex. It seems like sex should be all instinctive but just like everything else in life, if you study and practice you get better at it. That's why I laugh at guys who want to "save their virginity." All that is doing is guaranteeing that they'll be lousy lovers.
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    Feb 29, 2016 4:55 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidYou may have a couple of things going on. First, a LOT of guys have trouble with condoms. I do. Best way to deal with that is to find a monogamous partner. Hard to do if you haven't had sex. What do you fantasize about when you beat off? If you dream of penetrating a guy, you're a top. Anything else and the question is still there. But if you are a top, try experimenting with a condom when you beat off. Seems silly but it is the only way to get used to it. Takes practice and you need the confidence.

    As to not enjoying being a bottom, a whole lot of that is about the skill of your top. Until you know what it is you are responsible for as a bottom and have practiced that, it is uncomfortable and frankly feels like taking a poop. But a good top can slowly walk you through some of that learning curve if he is a nice guy. And if you're a bottom, you'll love it. Takes a few tries unless you've done your homework. And even if you get used to it, you may still be a top but you'll be a much better top because you know what a bottom is experiencing.

    Try buying the Gay Joy of Sex. It seems like sex should be all instinctive but just like everything else in life, if you study and practice you get better at it. That's why I laugh at guys who want to "save their virginity." All that is doing is guaranteeing that they'll be lousy lovers.


    Wow , seems like there's a lot of work into it indeed.
    Thanks a lot for your input !
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 29, 2016 5:35 PM GMT
    Fun work!
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    Feb 29, 2016 5:44 PM GMT
    simple... go on dates with guys till you find someone who can change your life for the better, take as much time as possible to know that person well! (talking about months rather than days and weeks)... Make sure he's healthy, at some point you have to trust him and just tagalong with him to the doctor's office. Then commit to that one person and have sex the way you want it without any condom on! Do it the old fashioned way.
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    Feb 29, 2016 8:59 PM GMT
    haha you make it sound so easy but I've been to about a million dates and unfortunately the outcome is always far from what you describe.
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    Mar 02, 2016 6:21 AM GMT
    TallScruffy saidsimple... go on dates with guys till you find someone who can change your life for the better, take as much time as possible to know that person well! (talking about months rather than days and weeks)... Make sure he's healthy, at some point you have to trust him and just tagalong with him to the doctor's office. Then commit to that one person and have sex the way you want it without any condom on! Do it the old fashioned way.


    Your location of Antarctica may make it easier to find a guy who has no other partners. As far as I know, Weddell seals do not carry HIV yet.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 03, 2016 3:14 AM GMT
    try a femidom
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    Mar 03, 2016 4:04 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidhaha you make it sound so easy but I've been to about a million dates and unfortunately the outcome is always far from what you describe.


    My last two BF were total bottoms who said, " it's been awhile", which meant that they were too tight to fuck on the first date. It took me a couple weeks to break them in and then that is all they wanted to do. So don't expect to enjoy bottoming on the first try and once you are broken in don't expect it to be easy if you aren't getting fucked regularly. Those guys on Belami boys use butt toys to open up their holes before their scenes so penetration looks effortless.
  • takashi

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    Apr 16, 2016 9:41 PM GMT
    I know what you are going through.
    Sometimes the tops I am with can't get it up.
    So I suck them and stroke them.
    Just relax with them.
    I ask them to use their fingers inside of me.
    So they put a couple of fingers inside of me.
    I am warm and wet and slippery with lube.
    They see me squirm and moan.
    Then voila! Raging hard-on.
    Everything is mental, you have to be turned-on.
    And relax, the more you worry about your erection,
    the worse it is for your penis...
    Foreplay with your bottom, very important.
  • joeisawesome1

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    Apr 25, 2016 5:23 PM GMT
    you definitely aren't the only guy who doesn't enjoy intercourse.
    I can't stay hard while fucking a guy either, even without a condom. It doesn't even feel good. I only like being sucked off and edged.

    I hate having things shoved up my ass because i hemorrhage easily and it hurts, but most of all, i just don't want to do it, which is why i don't do it.

    i LOVE being sucked off and edged though. but i don't suck cock myself because i dont like doing it and im not good at it either... (my teeth would turn a cock into confetti icon_razz.gif)

    i am what you call a pillow prince. hence the crown in my profile pic.
  • Allen

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    Apr 26, 2016 6:11 AM GMT
    joeisawesome1 saidyou definitely aren't the only guy who doesn't enjoy intercourse.
    I can't stay hard while fucking a guy either, even without a condom. It doesn't even feel good. I only like being sucked off and edged.

    I hate having things shoved up my ass because i hemorrhage easily and it hurts, but most of all, i just don't want to do it, which is why i don't do it.

    i LOVE being sucked off and edged though. but i don't suck cock myself because i dont like doing it and im not good at it either... (my teeth would turn a cock into confetti icon_razz.gif)

    i am what you call a pillow prince. hence the crown in my profile pic.


    I had to look up what a pillow prince was. Here I thought it was a bottom guy who liked to get fucked while laying faced down with his face in/biting the pillow.

    I learned sumthin' new today!
  • joeisawesome1

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    Apr 26, 2016 1:43 PM GMT
    Allen said
    I learned sumthin' new today!



    LOL! You would NOT want to stick ANYTHING up my ass icon_razz.gif trust me!
  • Allen

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    Apr 27, 2016 8:05 AM GMT
    joeisawesome1 said
    Allen said
    I learned sumthin' new today!



    LOL! You would NOT want to stick ANYTHING up my ass icon_razz.gif trust me!


    OK, I believe you.