Feb 29, 2016 3:05 AM GMT
So here is the deal guys and thanks in advance for the help and advice! I met this guy online about a year ago and we went out on a few dates and about two weeks in he wanted to be official but I wasn't feeling it yet but wanted to continue seeing him. More time went by and we continued seeing each other and playing with each other and all seemed well and good. We would constantly message each other all the time and call each other cute names and send photos of ourselves, be it at work or sexy pics or whatever just anything. Then I started really falling for him but then he told me he was going to move to Fort Lauderdale and probably shouldn't get serious right now, we both lived in Northern VA at the time. I was upset but understood and went on just enjoying the time we had and we even had one last cute date out together the night before he left. So about 8 months was local and together and he moved to Fort Lauderdale in Nov. I didn't know what to expect but he maintained contact and we continued messaging like normal. I even went to spend a couple days with him in Jan and we acted like a couple the whole time. Then I had the where is this relationship going conversation, and he said I am not saying never I am just saying not right now along with I am just not settled down here yet and I won't hurt you trust me. So I told him ok I will wait for him, kinda assuming it was just him being responsible about getting everything worked out down there. Then all the sudden the trail went cold fast like I am so confused! I hadn't pushed the relationship since but all the cute names stopped, no more photo exchanges, I have to initiate, I ask about visiting again and he is like "I don't know when yet" ... I even asked him if was still interested and he just gives lame lukewarm answers like "sure why not" ... classic "he just isn't that into you" type stuff but after a year of whatever we were I am just shocked, confused, hopeful and a horrible combination of those sort of emotions. I'm just trying to let it go and maybe get in contact with him in about a month or something but it is just such a huge 180 and he isn't communicating to me about anything ... Like I would rather hear from him "Thanks but I think we need to move on" or "Hey I found someone here for my day to day life" 'cause this fade out thing is such lame closure but I want what we had so bad and I would be willing to do whatever, even relocate for him, but he clearly isn’t in the same boat.