Gay bonding how do you do it?

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    Feb 07, 2009 6:31 PM GMT
    We have this phone picture game we play during the week when we take pictures with our camera phone of weird stuff and see who has the craziest photos.


    When I meet new gays we all get dressed up and go on a night on the town. We club hop around town and get tipsy. I'll give my friends dollars so they can tip the strippers.

    On Saturday we all get together for brunch and talk about our lives and help each other out with advice.

    On sunday after a week long binge on drugs and alcohol with get a big sex orge going till sunrise then we all go home and go to work j/k


    Wow do you bond with your gay friends?
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    Feb 07, 2009 7:24 PM GMT

    TV Series DVD marathon is always the best way wow. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 07, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    Besides partying in the clubs and hitting up the bars, I tend to like being away from the limelight and focus on "gay bonding" elsewhere. That includes:

    - Dinner get-togethers
    - Bonfire party at the beach in Corona Del Mar/Huntington
    - Movie nights
    - Going to festivals/theme parks

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    Feb 07, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    I bond with friends by getting to know their friends and family. It is only when I have networked, seen, and get to know their loved ones that I feel bonded and close to a new friend.
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    Feb 07, 2009 9:19 PM GMT
    hanging out at the coffee shops in this gay friendly part of town

    going to drag queen shows

    bike riding

    walks thru this area of town

    hanging out in the gay friendly bars around here.
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    Feb 07, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    We usually all gather for dinner. More often than not I cook something wickedly yummy, like lamb, and we have wine, play games, and eat. Those are my favorite evenings.
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    Feb 07, 2009 10:03 PM GMT
    We paint one another's nails and braid one another's hair.

    Not.

    Gay bonding is no different than any kind of bonding. You do things you enjoy, like go out, have a good meal, go to an art gallery, play volleyball, talk about hot guys, go to the movies, etc. With gay bonding you just happen to be doing those thing with people who are gay.
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    Feb 07, 2009 10:10 PM GMT
    My friends and I do all kinds of stuff - - - - such as hiking, boating, running, amateur soccer games, H20-polo games, hockey games (just watching - not playing) and finally - wrestling - on mats - in our underwear. All kinds of cocky jock shit.
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    Feb 07, 2009 10:16 PM GMT
    We get drunk and watch Chris Crocker videos on YouTube. It's hilarious!
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    Feb 08, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    usually we cum on each other, and lay there until it dries... it's a nice glue... what? (looks around) oh, don't act like i'm the ONLY person who was thinking that!
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    Feb 08, 2009 3:30 AM GMT
    With gay epoxy?
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    Feb 08, 2009 4:03 AM GMT
    Is a gay catalyst needed for the gay epoxy?
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    Feb 08, 2009 4:52 AM GMT
    I bond with my gay friends by using malicious gossip and cleverly disguised "friendly put-downs" to sabotage them and to make sure they never get further ahead in life than I do - that way, I won't resent them and we can continue to remain really close friends.
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    Feb 08, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    chet_desmond saidIs a gay catalyst needed for the gay epoxy?


    I think Jack supplied that earlier.
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    Feb 08, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    Nothing brings people together quite like duct tape and super glue icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 08, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    Good thing we keep that acetone laying around.
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    Feb 08, 2009 5:53 AM GMT
    metafor saidI just love how these conversations always come back to sex. Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all. Being gay has been the absolute biggest disappointment in my life, and I truly blame every last one of you for being the shallow, selfish, insensitive fools that you are.


    Sounds like you have some "me" work to do.
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    Feb 08, 2009 5:54 AM GMT
    metafor saidI just love how these conversations always come back to sex. Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all. Being gay has been the absolute biggest disappointment in my life, and I truly blame every last one of you for being the shallow, selfish, insensitive fools that you are.


    OK, everybody, snaps for metafor.

    OK, everybody, a big hug for metafor.

    Poor thing.

    Actually, it has bit of a ring of truth to it, well, more than a bit, actually, but, not everyone is I,I,I,me,me,me consumed by sex with strangers and lust for anything with a heartbeat.

    A lot of the pack behaves badly because they think that's what they're supposed to do. They've never been taught, or figured out, the right manner in which to conduct themselves, so it's an I,I,I,me,me,me thing. E.g. the HIV epidemic, or craigslist sex with strangers listings. The flamer venom you see spewed forth by 20 somethings or 30 somethings acting like 12 somethings in the forums.

    HOWEVER, not everyone is in that modality. There's a lot of folks who DO know how to behave. You'll find them in everyday life, everywhere, and not hiding behind a pictureless profile but in real life with names, and friends, and jobs, and such. All gay folks are NOT head-fucked. The head-fucked ones are just a bit more noticeable from time to time.
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:00 AM GMT


    metafor said,

    "Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all."

    ...and so you're here because...?
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:02 AM GMT
    metafor said
    chet_desmond said
    metafor saidI just love how these conversations always come back to sex. Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all. Being gay has been the absolute biggest disappointment in my life, and I truly blame every last one of you for being the shallow, selfish, insensitive fools that you are.


    Sounds like you have some "me" work to do.


    It's been done.


    Expound please.
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:05 AM GMT
    I think maybe someone might have drank a bit to much and has some internal anger issues.

    Could be.
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:07 AM GMT
    metafor saidI just love how these conversations always come back to sex. Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all. Being gay has been the absolute biggest disappointment in my life, and I truly blame every last one of you for being the shallow, selfish, insensitive fools that you are.


    Why don't you just climb down off your cross? I'm sure the lumber could be used for something useful. Martyrdom: You're doing it wrong.
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:15 AM GMT



    Well well, 'concealed'
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    chet_desmond said
    metafor saidI just love how these conversations always come back to sex. Interacting with most gay men, such as the ones on this site, truly makes me wish I was straight, so I wouldn't have to deal with men at all. Being gay has been the absolute biggest disappointment in my life, and I truly blame every last one of you for being the shallow, selfish, insensitive fools that you are.


    Sounds like you have some "me" work to do.


    Okay. How about I start with some basic ideas.
    Define for me the following:

    How would being straight be any different.?
    In what manner do you find yourself justified in blaming others for your experience when you are the one continuing to engage with those people? Do you feel morally obligated to change their opinion or basic actions? When making grand generalizations like "for being the shallow, shelfish, insensitive fools," are you in any manner considering the actual reality of those people or are you simply making assumptions based on a small slice of experience (particularly an experience gained on a web page called REALJOCK.COM I mean sure it isn't manhunt, but really???)? Finally what would you prefer these conversations to revolve around and why are you not making an effort to direct them in that way? or is it that you would prefer for the conversations to revolve around your perceived issues with the "gay community" whatever that may be, and you are in fact directing conversations to the place that you would like for them to be, about you and how disgruntled you are?

    And to be fully honest, I've often struggled with many of these topics within myself, and am curious to know your non defensive/angsty answers.
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    Feb 08, 2009 6:31 AM GMT
    Only with my husbands.