looking for a father-son relationship?

  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 04, 2016 12:52 PM GMT
    ok, I know some guys on this web-forum are gonna be against this and are gonna try to criticize me on this, but I seriously am not posting this thread for that. I just want to know WHERE I can find this, not how...

    Does anyone know where I can find a literal father-son relationship with an older man? I want it to be long term. and by 'father-son' I really mean the type of father who wants his son to stay with him and never leave at all. I don't care how much older he is than me (as long as he's older than mid 30s, anything older than that is fine). and I really wouldn't care how he looked either to be honest or what ethnicity.

    I just dont want him to expect too much from me, and I'd just want him to just be fine with what I'm into sexually. I only like getting poppered up and sucked off, I want man who's just ok with doing that. But also a guy who'll share his home with me and who'd be open to relocating me to Florida with him or the Carolinas or any other place that's warm and sunny with plam trees. That's not exactly necessary though but it'd be very nice to have that too.

    I've been looking for that on a website called "seekingarrangement" but so far it's been failing epically... but only because not many gay guys are on that site in the first place. does anyone know anywhere else I can look?

    I know a lot of people reading these are going to want to say "you need to be willing to do more stuff sexually" or "you need to just take care of yourself" but seriously I DO NOT need to read or hear that at all.

    All I'm looking is for suggestions on where to find this.
  • Import

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    Mar 04, 2016 2:59 PM GMT
    So u basically want someone to relocate you to the beach and put u up for free? And u in return will allow them to suck u off? nothing else....

    lol, you're not worth it, becky....
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    Mar 04, 2016 3:13 PM GMT
    It is hard to be positive about your requirements OP. I understand your anxiety and frustration in a way since at one point even I was a 20 year old with rugged idealism about romance and relationships, which lasted of course until I entered into one.

    You said you don't want him to have any expectations from you while you hold on to some very high demands yourself. Relationships aren't one way street where the ecstasy of watching sun crash into the embers at horizon from a sandy beach at your service but one based on compromise and negotiations with love and mutual respect lubricating its fabrics to last a long time. I know this isn't what you want to read here but I suggest you take it from a random poster on the internet than learn the bitter way.

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    Mar 04, 2016 4:04 PM GMT
    I don't understand why you cannot find anyone willing to do that for you ..
    Florida has many gay retirees who would love to have a beautiful young men like you by their side , and i am quite sure that they would be very happy with the sexual favours you want to share with them ...
    I could be one of them when i retire ...lol...
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    Mar 04, 2016 5:09 PM GMT
    Just go on tumbler,and type daddy into search. This topic is always interesting to me, because when I was a young twink I always had these older (~40-60)guys hitting on me. While I was not repulsed, I just did not feel it; I wanted another young, sexually charged, energetic person to explore sexual fantasies. So I asked an older, wiser friend of mine about what to do with these older guys, he said, "ignore them, when you get old you can have all the old guys you want." Now that I am older, I do occasionally meet a young man that wants to get it on with me, and I ask them what's the attraction, and mostly they say it's like asking a guy why he prefers Latinos, or Asian, black, white, or women. But if you really want to be that guy who receives benefits for being a "friend" concentrate on your body, look at your training as if your protecting a commodity; your body is your best Asset.
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 04, 2016 10:26 PM GMT
    bikerman saidJust go on tumbler,and type daddy into search. This topic is always interesting to me, because when I was a young twink I always had these older (~40-60)guys hitting on me. While I was not repulsed, I just did not feel it; I wanted another young, sexually charged, energetic person to explore sexual fantasies. So I asked an older, wiser friend of mine about what to do with these older guys, he said, "ignore them, when you get old you can have all the old guys you want." Now that I am older, I do occasionally meet a young man that wants to get it on with me, and I ask them what's the attraction, and mostly they say it's like asking a guy why he prefers Latinos, or Asian, black, white, or women. But if you really want to be that guy who receives benefits for being a "friend" concentrate on your body, look at your training as if your protecting a commodity; your body is your best Asset.


    you definitely right about the body being an asset thing.
    I actually always loved older men. They seem a lot more friendly than boys my age. I never liked boys in their 20s at all because they look prepubescent to me. Older men are always nicer and sweeter too and enjoy company much more than a young guy (no offense to any young guys reading this).

    It's also the whole father-son thing i want too. It's not about the material things at all. If I ever find an older man he wouldn't even need to be rich at all and i wouldn't really want him to buy me expensive gifts either. just a nice guy who'll share his home with me and won't want me to leave to be honest, which i never would.
  • venue35

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    Mar 05, 2016 12:16 AM GMT
    There's some older dude here on these forums who is "looking for son" to pound daddy's ass.
    Which means he doesn't like getting old and is fighting for youth. Or feels hotter when someone younger is banging him.
    I don't have an explanation for this kind of behavior you see it everywhere and with heterosexuals.
    It's just human nature.
    It seems Art deco is the exception.
    He has been able to brush off advances made to him by various "bikini bois"...

    Is this thread troll bait ?????
  • Timbales

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    Mar 05, 2016 12:23 AM GMT
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  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 05, 2016 1:22 AM GMT
    venue35 said
    Is this thread troll bait ?????


    no. not at all. I was absolutely serious on finding this. I did get a 2 responses on this thread from young guys (wayyy too young for a father-son relationship with me atleast) throwing useless relationship advice at me, but thank got for the "ignore his post" link.

    I did sign up for one site called "gay arrangement" or something like that. I havent had much luck on there yet but im still looking.

    I haven't tried searching tumblr yet either But I will get to that.

  • bro4bro

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    Mar 05, 2016 4:49 PM GMT
    I think you have a basic misconception of what a "father-son" relationship is all about.

    The daddy's job is to provide the home, food, clothing, pocket cash, etc

    The son's job is to satisfy daddy's sexual needs. It's his choice, not yours.

    I know this might not be exactly what you had in mind but fear not, there are lots of patient and understanding daddies out there who will be happy to show you the ropes.

    In fact, you can come to California and move in with me - we have plenty of warm weather and palm trees. I'll have you fitted for a collar and teach you how to take cock like a champ in no time...
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 05, 2016 8:21 PM GMT
    bro4bro said
    I think you have a basic misconception of what a "father-son" relationship is all about.

    The daddy's job is to provide the home, food, clothing, pocket cash, etc

    The son's job is to satisfy daddy's sexual needs. It's his choice, not yours.

    I know this might not be exactly what you had in mind but fear not, there are lots of patient and understanding daddies out there who will be happy to show you the ropes.

    In fact, you can come to California and move in with me - we have plenty of warm weather and palm trees. I'll have you fitted for a collar and teach you how to take cock like a champ in no time...


    umm, you would not want to do that... unless you want my blood, feces, and pieces of my entrails splattered on you...

    i cant take it up the ass, i was sexually assaulted back when i was young and i still have physical damage from it. not to mention the fact that i hemorrhage very easily from that area because of it (YOU DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN icon_eek.gif

    but that's not the point. im pretty sure there's a nice man out there who just prefers putting his mouth all over a young guy... i'd be down for that ALL THE TIME. If he wants me to fuck his ass, i can do that too. i just cant orgasm from it.

    and to be honest, i actually HAVE been in a father-son a relationship like this before but it was a really long time ago. all he ever would do is suck my cock, so often that i couldnt even jerk off and relieve myself because i was too use to his mouth. and the only reason why im not in it now is because the man i was with passed away from brain-cancer, but that's a whole different story. but i just wanted to mention that because it kinda got me heated up a bit with the guys telling me how they think relationships are as if i never been in one. icon_neutral.gif but that's irrelevant

    every guy has different sexual needs. Some guys just like getting pleasure, some guys just like giving pleasure, some guys just like getting fucked or fucking

    and some guys just like slobbering all over another guy and teasing and edgeing him (the type of daddy im looking for icon_razz.gif i know it'll be difficult to find that but its not impossible. plus, there would definitely be an emotional connection too. I never go out and party or drink or go to nightclubs at all so i'd most likely always be with him.

    and one more thing, i dont really prefer california. its too dry and over-rated. Florida is better icon_razz.gif but it doesnt really matter at all to be honest

    but basically what im saying it. every man has different needs. i just have to find one that corresponds with mine. it'll be difficult but not impossible
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Mar 05, 2016 9:22 PM GMT
    bro4bro saidI think you have a basic misconception of what a "father-son" relationship is all about.

    The daddy's job is to provide the home, food, clothing, pocket cash, etc

    The son's job is to satisfy daddy's sexual needs. It's his choice, not yours.


    Not sure about that. All the messages I get from old guys on grindr are basically begging me to treat them like a pig slut lol.
  • sexy_dad_67

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    Mar 05, 2016 10:59 PM GMT
    Hey joeisawesome1! I live in sacremento, which is already a better climate than wisconsin icon_wink.gif

    I also have a timeshare in Florida, if you would like to come hang out sometime. I sent you a PM with more details!
  • venue35

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    Mar 06, 2016 12:00 AM GMT
    / / That's him ......

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    Howdy OP I think you are very cute! icon_redface.gif
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 06, 2016 8:03 AM GMT
    theonewhoknocks said
    bro4bro saidI think you have a basic misconception of what a "father-son" relationship is all about.

    The daddy's job is to provide the home, food, clothing, pocket cash, etc

    The son's job is to satisfy daddy's sexual needs. It's his choice, not yours.


    Not sure about that. All the messages I get from old guys on grindr are basically begging me to treat them like a pig slut lol.


    lol u're telling me icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 06, 2016 8:12 AM GMT
    What if daddy expects his his son to work ànd pay all the bills? You down for that?
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    Mar 06, 2016 2:41 PM GMT
    Import saidSo u basically want someone to relocate you to the beach and put u up for free? And u in return will allow them to suck u off? nothing else....

    lol, you're not worth it, becky....


    That made me laugh. I have to agree here youngin you're in for a mighty rude awakening on what someone is going to expect if you want to live for free. Good luck with that.
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    Mar 06, 2016 6:25 PM GMT
    You really miss the whole point of a 'father-son' relationship and that it is a relationship. There's a two sides to any relationship and what you have described is very one sided. Relationships are built over time and require work. They're not something that happens and provides benefits to one person. There must be something in it for 'daddy' too and I'm not seeing where you're offering much for him to keep you, care for you and provide you with a lifestyle that you would seem to want.

    There are plenty of slutty gay guys out there and they are not just older guys. Most older guys I know, would probably have no issue with a younger guy and probably shower them with love and gifts but would want someone that truly loved them for who they are, not what they have or will give. You're dreaming to think that any guy would want you to be their 'relationship' with the criteria you've described.
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 06, 2016 11:58 PM GMT
    wow...
    I'll say it again, thank god for the "Ignore His Posts" button...

    but honestly, why are so many guys replying to this thread being so critical? as if i never heard any of that before! Every man is different. It may take me a while to find what I'm looking for but it's not impossible.

    I read one story about a 45 year old man who became transsexual and ditched his family and chose to live his life as a 6 year old girl with 2 other adults who voluntarily choose to become his parents. seriously... that really happened.

    Maybe there's some guy out there with a fantasy of taking in a 6 foot 3 green eyed guy and literally making him his son and slobbering his mouth all over him everyday and night, which i actually would not mind at all and would enjoy very much.. As I said earlier, I HAVE been in a relationship exactly like that before, but the only reason why I'm not in it now is because the man i was with passed away of brain cancer. y do i have to repeat that?

    by the way, I wouldn't mind living with a gay guy couple either... and I seriously would love them like real parents (especially considering the fact that I never met my real parents because they drug addicts who died. and that my adoptive parents are heartless/golddigging a$$holes!)

    joeisawesome1 said
    I just dont want him to expect too much from me, and I'd just want him to just be fine with what I'm into sexually. I only like getting poppered up and sucked off, I want man who's just ok with doing that. But also a guy who'll share his home with me and who'd be open to relocating me to Florida with him or the Carolinas or any other place that's warm and sunny with plam trees. That's not exactly necessary though but it'd be very nice to have that too.


    what part of the bold print did you guys not understand??? seriously? He wouldn't HAVE to take me to Florida or the Carolinas (BUT IT VERY NICE IF HE DID!) he doesn't even have to be rich either! me and him could just live a trailer park or a cabin in the woods for all I care (just as long as it has internet as it most likely would if he found me online...)


    joeisawesome1 said
    I know a lot of people reading these are going to want to say "you need to be willing to do more stuff sexually" or "you need to just take care of yourself" but seriously I DO NOT need to read or hear that at all.

    All I'm looking is for suggestions on where to find this.


    ^& what part of this did you guys not understand? i dont mean to seem like a bitch but seriously? icon_sad.gif


    I know what some of you may be thinking: that I'm just a stupid/lazy 20 year old who doesn't want to work and who's looking to find a random man to use and take all of his money and go out and party with it and buy drugs and everything like that That is not true at all!

    I'm actually quite an anti-social person outside of sexual relationships (mostly due to my autism), but im not completely that way, I got along fine with the last guy. If i seriously met what I was looking for, I really would have feelings for him.

    and I honestly would just be at his house everyday doing my youtube videos because that's my passion and that's what i love doing. I can't make money off of them though for various reasons, but i still love doing them more than anything else none the less.

    & i know what you all are going to say: I should just get a job in video production But doing it as a career in real life would be COMPLETELY DIFFERENT from what I do now! i would be working for someone else not doing what I want.

    Here's an example of what I mean by that:



    & the aftershow for this episode:



    ^that's an episode of my zombie series i made with the sims 2. I only have 3 episodes done so far but im working on the rest. EVERYTHING IN THAT VIDEO was done and planned out by myself... I had control over everything. If i where to try doing it as a career in real life, it definitely would not be that way. do you know how difficult it would all be? when it's done with the sims it's completely different. All i need is my computer and video editing software (which i already have) and my green screen (which i obviously already have) and internet (which i'm pretty sure all of us have...)


    but we're getting off topic! seriously, just tell me where to look... not "how i should find this" or what i should change about myself because im not gonna listen. I'll just keep hitting that "Ignore his post" button left & right. icon_idea.gif but why don't you guys just use that button on me instead if you don't like this post?... seriously icon_sad.gif
  • highforthis

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    Mar 07, 2016 2:35 AM GMT
    eb925guy saidYou really miss the whole point of a 'father-son' relationship and that it is a relationship. There's a two sides to any relationship and what you have described is very one sided. Relationships are built over time and require work. They're not something that happens and provides benefits to one person. There must be something in it for 'daddy' too...


    In many cases, it's simply to be seen with the younger guy. I know a guy who got tons of expensive gifts and free vacations to exotic places, but never had physical contact beyond having the older guy's arm around him in the scene at the occasional club or restaurant. From a distance they are a couple in an open relationship, but they live completely separate lives, and he has an actual boyfriend.
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 07, 2016 5:24 AM GMT
    highforthis said
    eb925guy saidYou really miss the whole point of a 'father-son' relationship and that it is a relationship. There's a two sides to any relationship and what you have described is very one sided. Relationships are built over time and require work. They're not something that happens and provides benefits to one person. There must be something in it for 'daddy' too...


    In many cases, it's simply to be seen with the younger guy. I know a guy who got tons of expensive gifts and free vacations to exotic places, but never had physical contact beyond having the older guy's arm around him in the scene at the occasional club or restaurant. From a distance they are a couple in an open relationship, but they live completely separate lives, and he has an actual boyfriend.


    oh wow... i dont even want that though. i actually want the sexual intimacy too. and i never would demand "expensive gifts" or "exotic vacations".. Florida is only 25 hour drive down the interstates. with that in mind, this shouldn't be near impossible then, it'll still might be difficult to find but i'm sure i'll get it.

    and i think i already mentioned this, but i dont mind california at all. i just preferred the east coast instead only because the west is so overrated. but it really doesn't matter. i still feel like the carolinas are awesome too icon_smile.gif
  • sexy_dad_67

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    Mar 15, 2016 1:06 AM GMT
    highforthis said
    eb925guy saidYou really miss the whole point of a 'father-son' relationship and that it is a relationship. There's a two sides to any relationship and what you have described is very one sided. Relationships are built over time and require work. They're not something that happens and provides benefits to one person. There must be something in it for 'daddy' too...


    In many cases, it's simply to be seen with the younger guy. I know a guy who got tons of expensive gifts and free vacations to exotic places, but never had physical contact beyond having the older guy's arm around him in the scene at the occasional club or restaurant. From a distance they are a couple in an open relationship, but they live completely separate lives, and he has an actual boyfriend.


    I used to do that, hoping that the guy will come around, but it has never happened, and instead decimated my savings and now my 401k icon_sad.gif It's not sustainable
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 15, 2016 5:42 PM GMT
    sexy_dad_67 said
    I used to do that, hoping that the guy will come around, but it has never happened, and instead decimated my savings and now my 401k icon_sad.gif It's not sustainable


    but that's honestly not what im looking for though. I actually would want the sexual intimacy too. I said earlier that I only like receiving oral (which actually can be VERY passionate/intimate if it's meant to be done in that mater, which is exactly how i'd want it done) I've heard that some men are only interested in doing that and don't like having any other guy touch or pleasure them. That'd be perfectly fine with me.

    I don't like anal because I can not take it up the ass, due to the fact that my rectum is damaged and scarred up because i was sexually assaulted when I was 11 (I didn't really want to get into that much on this thread though to be honest...) But also because I hate it and don't like it too. And I can't orgasm from topping a guy so I don't do it at all, but that doesn't mean I won't if the guy I was with wanted me to.

    And i just don't like sucking cock because it's not fun at all and I hate doing it, but some gay guys hate being sucked off too and just like to suck a guy off.

    There would definitely be an emotional connection too. As I said earlier, I DO NOT go out and "party" at all. I don't smoke, or drink, or do drugs, or go to bars and nightclubs and never wanted too and never will want to even after I turn 21, which is only a couple months away. Only because people act stupid in clubs/bars and when their drunk and the whole nightclub scene is over-rated and cliche and overly glamorized and annoying really because it seems like that's all gay men ever talk about!

    If I found a guy who wanted this with me, all I'd do every single day is stay at home, exercise, and work on my youtube videos: https://www.youtube.com/user/winko567


    NOW getting back to the whole 'over-rated' thing, I said i only wanted to move to the sourthern east-coast, but that was only because every young person wants to go to California and I thought it was too dry and overrated because people always talk about california, BUT that doesn't mean i'm completely opposed to going there, and I actually would be more than happy to go to CA instead of Florida if what im looking for is there instead. And I wouldnt necessarily have to move to Florida, Carolinas, or California... i just thought it be nice to get the hell away from wisconsin, but as i said earlier it's not necessary (not sure if anyone following this thread understood that...)

    The guy wouldn't even have to ever get me "expensive gifts" at all (external hard-drives/flash drives for my computer would be very nice, but he wouldn't have to get those at all...) or take me on "exotic vacations" but a road trip across interstate 80 or interstate 90 or up & down I-95 of interstate 5 would be EVEN BETTER than anything, but he wouldn't even have to do that either...

    it's not what you guys are thinking... not the "sugar-daddy" whole relationship thing. I'm literally looking for a "father-son" relationship with a dad who loves his son and never wants him to leave, which I wouldn't at all, obviously.




  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 20, 2016 4:22 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidYou said you don't want him to have any expectations from you while you hold on to some very high demands yourself. Relationships aren't one way street where the ecstasy of watching sun crash into the embers at horizon from a sandy beach at your service but one based on compromise and negotiations with love and mutual respect lubricating its fabrics to last a long time. I know this isn't what you want to read here but I suggest you take it from a random poster on the internet than learn the bitter way.



    actually i never said that at all... my first post said i wanted to find a guy who didnt expect too much from me, not nothing at all... pay attention...

    and you're kinda talking to me like ive never been in a relationship before, which is a bit insulting because i kinda have been in a relationship exactly like what i described in my first post, but it was years ago and the only reason why im not in it now is because the man i was with passed away from cancer.

    my expectations weren't really that high anyway. i also mentioned numerous times that living in the carolinas or florida wasn't exactly necessary.