Am I too old at 27

  • kalinvm

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    Mar 04, 2016 9:22 PM GMT
    Hi,
    I know that topics about this kind of question have been posted before. However I'd like to create such topic one more time providing more details about my situation.
    I am a 27 years old bottom gay man. I have recently broken up with my long term boyfriend and I am back to dating. However now I feel that I have lost significant amount of my attractvieness due to my age. It is like most of the top gay men I know prefer mostly 20-25 years old and date exclusively in that age braket. And this sets sort of a panic inside myslef - a constant alarm saying I don't have much time before I lose all of my desirabilty and need to settle righ away if I do not want to die alone (and that somehow is my biggest fear). On top of that I have to go to another country to finish my education. Then I will move to another country for my masters degree. I will be age 32 when I finally decide where I'd like to live my life and build a relationship (familly?). My question is what happens to old bottoms. Do 30 something top guys find attractive 30sth bottoms for more than just sex. I know my question is shallow but it is a real concerns in my mind. I also wonder what happens with bottoms when they grow older?
  • tazzari

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    Mar 04, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
    When bottoms grow older they count more birthdays - the rest is all up to you. And judging by both your picture and your educational plans, you've got at least 40 years left on your sell-by date.

    Less worry -enjoy life and get the most out of your education, and the rest will take care of itself. You hav e a LOT to offer.
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    Mar 04, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
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  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 04, 2016 9:50 PM GMT
    You seem to have great respect for education. So I'm assuming you'll have a rewarding career. Do that and you'll be an interesting person. Stay in shape and cultivate healthy interests. I guarantee a 32 (or 35 or 40 or 50) year old handsome, accomplished, interesting, fit bottom will have zero problems finding a partner or husband. Sure, some guys like twinks but most guy's sexual attraction rises to his own age as he ages. It is a funny thing but true. So don't worry.
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 04, 2016 11:05 PM GMT
    If anyone says you're too old, call them a pedophile. It's a good way to weed out the pedophiles.icon_lol.gif
  • joeisawesome1

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    Mar 04, 2016 11:41 PM GMT
    kalinvm saidHi,
    I know that topics about this kind of question have been posted before. However I'd like to create such topic one more time providing more details about my situation.
    I am a 27 years old bottom gay man. I have recently broken up with my long term boyfriend and I am back to dating. However now I feel that I have lost significant amount of my attractvieness due to my age. It is like most of the top gay men I know prefer mostly 20-25 years old and date exclusively in that age braket. And this sets sort of a panic inside myslef - a constant alarm saying I don't have much time before I lose all of my desirabilty and need to settle righ away if I do not want to die alone (and that somehow is my biggest fear). On top of that I have to go to another country to finish my education. Then I will move to another country for my masters degree. I will be age 32 when I finally decide where I'd like to live my life and build a relationship (familly?). My question is what happens to old bottoms. Do 30 something top guys find attractive 30sth bottoms for more than just sex. I know my question is shallow but it is a real concerns in my mind. I also wonder what happens with bottoms when they grow older?


    ummm you're kidding right?.... 27 years old? and you think YOU'RE too old?

    in all honesty, you're actually not even old enough for me at all icon_razz.gif lol no offense or anything.

    You are gorgeous! many guys are gonna want to date you! even after you turn 30. don't bring yourself down so much.. seriously... and lots of young guys (including myself) love older men, especially if they're bottoms.

    and more importantly, don't ever be afraid of "dying alone" because there's really no point to even care about that at all. I'm not exactly sure how I can explain to get over that, but seriously.
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    Mar 04, 2016 11:46 PM GMT
    Not at all. It sounds like you just associate with ageist assholes. If you're trying to date someone your age or older and they're telling YOU that you're too old, there's something serious wrong with them.
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    Mar 04, 2016 11:59 PM GMT
    No

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    Mar 04, 2016 11:59 PM GMT
    There's no reason to panic. I think you have this misconception that tops only like young bottoms. Absolutely not true. There are MANY highly successful and attractive tops that are more comfortable with older, more mature bottoms. Why? Because they're looking for someone who can match their intellect, maturity and sophistication. Smart and successful people like to be challenged, and that's true both in the straight and gay worlds. So, continue to get your education and remain optimistic--everything else will follow.
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 05, 2016 1:08 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidThere's no reason to panic. I think you have this misconception that tops only like young bottoms. Absolutely not true. There are MANY highly successful and attractive tops that are more comfortable with older, more mature bottoms. Why? Because they're looking for someone who can match their intellect, maturity and sophistication. Smart and successful people like to be challenged, and that's true both in the straight and gay worlds. So, continue to get your education and remain optimistic--everything else will follow.

    Listen to this one. He's 97!
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 05, 2016 1:10 AM GMT
    jackedgamer saidNot at all. It sounds like you just associate with ageist assholes. If you're trying to date someone your age or older and they're telling YOU that you're too old, there's something serious wrong with them.

    This.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 05, 2016 1:25 AM GMT
    Well since your ass is stretched at that point you can always rent it out as a garage
  • kalinvm

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    Mar 05, 2016 11:33 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidWell since your ass is stretched at that point you can always rent it out as a garage


    It is comments like this that usually reinforce the idea that I'd be totally useless age 30+.

    May be I am just naive and stupid...who knows

    Thanks for the positive comments above tho.
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    Mar 05, 2016 6:07 PM GMT
    Well then I started too late, since I did not embrace my homosexuality until I was 27. Everything sexual that happened with other young guys before that time, is just attributed to sexual exploration.
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    Mar 05, 2016 6:53 PM GMT
    Ha, ha. 40 seems young to me .
  • mystery905

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    Mar 05, 2016 6:57 PM GMT
    27 is nothing.

    Be confident with who you are and what you can offer.

    Don't let others dictate your worth.

  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 05, 2016 7:02 PM GMT
    mystery905 said27 is nothing.

    Be confident with who you are and what you can offer.

    Don't let others dictate your worth.

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  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Mar 05, 2016 7:39 PM GMT
    Interesting hotlist OP, because on it is one of the oldest bottoms on this site! icon_lol.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Mar 05, 2016 8:13 PM GMT
    A few guys happen to be at their physically most attractive stage in life somewhere between the early to mid-20s. And, there are quite a few exceptions, too.

    It usually takes hardly any effort to be attractive in your mid-20's. The nature runs a pretty good, if not perfect biological clock of a kindicon_biggrin.gif

    A young guy has got to enter the sexual selection game, and he has not really had too much time/chance to build up any other attributes. But he usually does have that attractive 'glow of the youth' if you will, and probably not much else. Look at it as if it were his 'free' entry ticket into the world of sex, among a few other things, too.

    From here on, the elusive 'glow of the youth' starts to vanish. This is where everything else usually comes to the fore. Not only your grown up, preferably athletic body but your achievement, too. A successful guy acquires now a very different kind of lasting glow if he plays his game right. Nature won't issue any more 'free tickets' alright but you do not need them. You are buying the first class entry anyway. icon_idea.gif

    A guy with the looks and youth alone will usually have many guys vying for his attention. Yet, their attention will be very short. Because, just a block or a day away yet another even shinier dude in his mid-20s will show up. Free tickets will buy you your entry but that entry has many, many limitations attached to it. (Hey, it is for free, too.)

    A guy who combines good looks with a few other things he has acquired over the time will get loads of lasting attention. His looks and his achievement are his 1st class entry tickets into the game. So, he is actually the one enjoying most perks, if you will...

    SC

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    Mar 05, 2016 8:16 PM GMT
    27 is not too old be bottom, it's too old to be a twink.

    If you want to be as selective as you were as a twink, you will have to bring other things to the table. It's a broader, more competitive market the one you're in now.
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    Mar 05, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    Yes you are too old at 27:

    -for speaking a new foreign language as a native
    -for brain pruning
    -for stem cell harvesting from your umbilical cord
    -for developing new limbs
    -for a biological gender swap
    -also for pre-school

    good news is, you might still have time for other thingsicon_lol.gif
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    Mar 05, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    @SC

    Your diplomacy is amazing RC. It takes some skill to dance on a mined field like this topic and yet deliver a true message.
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    Mar 05, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    You are are 27, you just ended a relationship. You are internalizing your frustrations. "It must be my fault because..... (fill in the blank)."

    At 60 it seems silly to me. But I'm sure it feels real to you. I didn't have a serious live in relationship till I was 29. My 50s were great! 60 is good so far! Life AND sex has gotten better. I won't date under 40. Maturity, wisdom, self-confidence, knowing what you want.....and enjoying it all is very sexy.

    You'll be fine. A little time and perspective is all you need.

  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 05, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    27 isn't too old for anything, hardehar. You're just leaving childhood/adolescence behind really at that age. I'm 28 and feel like I'm just getting started in many ways.

    If some shallow idiot doesn't want to date you because of the year you were born, well, good riddance.
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Mar 05, 2016 9:29 PM GMT
    "Am I too old at 27"

    This is a JOKE thread--yes?