brwnsugar saidWhat nonverbal signals a guy send in the gym and the locker room? I
Does married guys use locker room mirror to send signals. I was in the locker room with a guy. His friend left. He stood in front of the full length mirror. Then, he comes and stand in a mirror that has a sink where I can see him and can see me using the mirror. He could tell that I am gay. He also was taking his shirt off. Any guys with comments?
Body language gives lots of clues.
Nothing goes further than confidence, a full name, a handshake, and a smile. Social skills 101.
I do it nearly ever day.
I meet folks; I tell them I'm gay. Done deal. They either tell me they're straight, bi, or gay. It's that VERY SIMPLE.
You are too self-defeating.
Learn how to be friendly. Like yourself. The rest will follow.
That being said, gyms are the mecca of testosterone and male sexuality; lots of guys like to be a bit showboat-ish. It's the gym!!! If you introduce yourself, and just say you're gay / bi, all that mystery goes away....AND...it's how to make a friend. Social skills 101.
Boom!!! Get it? It's the gym. It's where you strut it, if you have it, and have the self confidence to do it. If some person flexs, checks you out, it doesn't mean a whole lot about his sexuality. It's the gym! Folks smile, all the time, when I hit a few poses at the gym...straight, bi, gay...weird,...you name it. Easiest way...just admit who you are, and what you like and folks will tell you. It's that very simple.
You're making it very much too complicated. Put a smile on, introduce yourself fully, and shake a hand. You've made a friend. Easy peasy.
If you fear rejection...get the fuck over it. Who wants to be friends with a bigot? You? Not me. Tell folks.
Here's the upside to having integrity, and confidence: it fosters understanding.
Me: "Getting your pool look going, Bud? Boom!"
Them: "Yeah, spring is on the way."
Them: "Fuck, you're jacked."
Me: "Yep. Year 42 of lifting."
Me: "I'm Chuck Gudgel."
Them: "Joe Smith. Pleased to meet to Chuck."
Just say, "I'm openly gay."
I did that Friday at the cafe in our building. Gal says to me..."Very cool. I'm lesbian. Pleased to me you, Chuck." (True story.)
The art of conversation. When in doubt...just throw it out there.
"As an openly gay guy..." is the one I use at the office. Life is to short to be a coward who doesn't like himself.