How do I recognize if a guy is interested in me in the gym and locker room

  • brwnsugar

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    Mar 04, 2016 11:11 PM GMT
    What nonverbal signals a guy send in the gym and the locker room? I

    Does married guys use locker room mirror to send signals. I was in the locker room with a guy. His friend left. He stood in front of the full length mirror. Then, he comes and stand in a mirror that has a sink where I can see him and can see me using the mirror. He could tell that I am gay. He also was taking his shirt off. Any guys with comments?
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 05, 2016 1:10 AM GMT
    So, wait, you're trying to hook up with married men?icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 05, 2016 1:35 AM GMT
    ^
    Seriously. Not cool dude.

    But assuming you're not, that doesn't really sound like intentional flirting or signal-giving--he was likely just taking his shirt off. Then again, either no guys have ever flirted with me at the gym or I'm completely oblivious to flirting. icon_razz.gif
  • mystery905

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    Mar 05, 2016 3:03 AM GMT
    Drop the soap and see what happens....
  • Triggerman

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    Mar 05, 2016 3:19 AM GMT
    Straight guys never say hi to another naked guy in the shower. It's like a rule or something. So if anyone says hi when you are both naked, you have a good chance of coffee at least.
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    Mar 05, 2016 3:39 AM GMT
    The best nonverbal sign is when he touches your peepee while walking by.
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    Mar 05, 2016 5:17 AM GMT
    Triggerman saidStraight guys never say hi to another naked guy in the shower. It's like a rule or something. So if anyone says hi when you are both naked, you have a good chance of coffee at least.


    Totally not true. I have been in showers with thousands of straight men over the years and chatting, joking around, etc is common place. Where do you get these ideas??
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    Mar 05, 2016 5:32 AM GMT
    Someone was taking their shirt off in the locker room? Management should've been alerted.
  • brwnsugar

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    Mar 05, 2016 12:19 PM GMT
    Well, thanks for your input. It appears that the guy was flirting. He wants to know more about me. He is taking to me to dinner and a movie. And, he is not married. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 05, 2016 2:21 PM GMT
    Not every guy that exhibits himself in the locker room is looking to hook up. Some of these guys are just narcissists trying to see how many homos they could tempt into looking or lusting after them. Lusty looks from homos stroke their ego, and they go home with a sense of reinvigorated masculinity and control, and jerk off.
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    Mar 05, 2016 4:22 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidNot every guy that exhibits himself in the locker room is looking to hook up. Some of these guys are just narcissists trying to see how many homos they could tempt into looking or lusting after them. Lusty looks from homos stroke their ego, and they go home with a sense of reinvigorated masculinity and control, and jerk off.


    You have unique insight into this. ;)
  • Triggerman

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    Mar 05, 2016 4:32 PM GMT
    I would say an erection is the first best sign.
  • JasonnNM

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    Mar 05, 2016 7:49 PM GMT
    strongbull said
    Triggerman saidStraight guys never say hi to another naked guy in the shower. It's like a rule or something. So if anyone says hi when you are both naked, you have a good chance of coffee at least.


    Totally not true. I have been in showers with thousands of straight men over the years and chatting, joking around, etc is common place. Where do you get these ideas??



    yeah that was a dumb comment and totally not true.
    a str8 guy is only going to give you the silent treatment if you've made it obvious you're a gay guy checking him out and then it's to brush you off.
    but in general straight guys are more comfortable hanging out with other guys in the locker room bc there's no sexual tension for them so they can chat and hang out and be relaxed
  • muscleONmuscl...

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    Mar 06, 2016 12:50 AM GMT
    It's not that hard. Here are the telltale cues: eye contact held a split second too long. Eye contact more than once. If you get those. It's a sure sign of an attraction. Of course, you have to be willing to look back.
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    Mar 06, 2016 7:49 PM GMT
    brwnsugar saidWhat nonverbal signals a guy send in the gym and the locker room? I

    Does married guys use locker room mirror to send signals. I was in the locker room with a guy. His friend left. He stood in front of the full length mirror. Then, he comes and stand in a mirror that has a sink where I can see him and can see me using the mirror. He could tell that I am gay. He also was taking his shirt off. Any guys with comments?


    Wait, wait, wait. He was taking off his shirt while looking at mirror while alone with you there being obliviously gay?

    He is absolutely, undoubtedly, unalterably totally GAY!!GAY!!GAY!! Why else would he take off his shirt in a locker room? I hear wedding bells in your future.
  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2016 1:20 AM GMT
    So, brwnsugar, please answer your own quesion. What broke the ice? Did you say something? Did he? Did you wait until you both were leaving the gym to speak?

    You asked a legitimate question and somehow you got results. How?
  • buddycat

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    Mar 07, 2016 3:59 AM GMT
    I don't do this^^. If I don't know they are gay, I don't try to figure it out. If you are in a gym in a gay area, if you have seen them somewhere that is gay, they are probably gay.
  • FredMG

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    Mar 07, 2016 6:46 PM GMT
    At the gym, if you cruise you loose, double penalties in the locker room.
  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2016 8:19 PM GMT
    loose?
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    Mar 08, 2016 3:10 AM GMT
    brwnsugar saidWhat nonverbal signals a guy send in the gym and the locker room? I

    Does married guys use locker room mirror to send signals. I was in the locker room with a guy. His friend left. He stood in front of the full length mirror. Then, he comes and stand in a mirror that has a sink where I can see him and can see me using the mirror. He could tell that I am gay. He also was taking his shirt off. Any guys with comments?


    Body language gives lots of clues.

    Nothing goes further than confidence, a full name, a handshake, and a smile. Social skills 101.

    I do it nearly ever day.

    I meet folks; I tell them I'm gay. Done deal. They either tell me they're straight, bi, or gay. It's that VERY SIMPLE.

    You are too self-defeating.

    Learn how to be friendly. Like yourself. The rest will follow.

    That being said, gyms are the mecca of testosterone and male sexuality; lots of guys like to be a bit showboat-ish. It's the gym!!! If you introduce yourself, and just say you're gay / bi, all that mystery goes away....AND...it's how to make a friend. Social skills 101.

    Boom!!! Get it? It's the gym. It's where you strut it, if you have it, and have the self confidence to do it. If some person flexs, checks you out, it doesn't mean a whole lot about his sexuality. It's the gym! Folks smile, all the time, when I hit a few poses at the gym...straight, bi, gay...weird,...you name it. Easiest way...just admit who you are, and what you like and folks will tell you. It's that very simple.

    You're making it very much too complicated. Put a smile on, introduce yourself fully, and shake a hand. You've made a friend. Easy peasy.

    If you fear rejection...get the fuck over it. Who wants to be friends with a bigot? You? Not me. Tell folks.

    Here's the upside to having integrity, and confidence: it fosters understanding.

    Me: "Getting your pool look going, Bud? Boom!"
    Them: "Yeah, spring is on the way."
    Them: "Fuck, you're jacked."
    Me: "Yep. Year 42 of lifting."
    Me: "I'm Chuck Gudgel."
    Them: "Joe Smith. Pleased to meet to Chuck."
    etc...ad nauseam.

    Just say, "I'm openly gay."

    I did that Friday at the cafe in our building. Gal says to me..."Very cool. I'm lesbian. Pleased to me you, Chuck." (True story.)

    The art of conversation. When in doubt...just throw it out there.

    "As an openly gay guy..." is the one I use at the office. Life is to short to be a coward who doesn't like himself.
  • charlitos666

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    Mar 08, 2016 3:39 AM GMT
    lets not get creepy
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    Mar 08, 2016 5:31 AM GMT
    I've seen guys in the shower stall opposite from me giving me an inviting look. Another time, a guy looked at me and tapped his groin area and smiled. I think those are signs. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 08, 2016 9:58 AM GMT
    That's funny. "Hello, I'm openly gay!", as opposed to? "Hi, can you keep a secret? . . ."
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    Mar 08, 2016 10:18 AM GMT
    i wouldn't make any assumptions

    unless the guy stares at you intensely with a gaze that says i-want-sex-with-you-now while the guy is totally naked & you can tell his pubic hair is nonexistent (& yes this actually happened to me at a gym locker room once & it freaked me out enough to leave but not before eye sexing back)

    and if people start noticing you look at naked guys in the locker room, they'll start avoiding you like the plague.

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    Mar 08, 2016 9:36 PM GMT
    So no one ever says YCYL any more? icon_razz.gif