Would you ever just work in a gay-related environment/business such as sauna, club,shop e

  • Matthew56

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    Mar 09, 2016 7:21 AM GMT
    Was wondering would you ever or would it be too much ?
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    Mar 09, 2016 12:50 PM GMT
    Yes, and have.
  • nice_chap

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    Mar 09, 2016 2:56 PM GMT
    I used to work in a gay pub. It was fun at the time but I wouldn't do it again.

    I wouldn't want to work alone in a sauna. My local sauna normally has just one member of staff on duty whenever I go, and I don't think I could do that on a regular basis.
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    Mar 09, 2016 3:22 PM GMT
    Never have. Never will.
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    Mar 09, 2016 3:28 PM GMT
    The one time I worked in a predominately gay environment was not pleasant. Gay men tend to act bizarre when grouped together. They revert to behaving like the gay stereotypes and start acting like bitchy women. NO THANKS.
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    Mar 09, 2016 3:39 PM GMT
    Radd saidThe one time I worked in a predominately gay environment was not pleasant. Gay men tend to act bizarre when grouped together. They revert to behaving like the gay stereotypes and start acting like bitchy women. NO THANKS.


    I've never worked in a predominately gay environment but I can see what you describe as being the case. Hell, even the most innocuous forum post on RJ can turn into a name-calling, hair-pulling, clawing cat fight.
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    Mar 09, 2016 4:03 PM GMT
    Radd saidThe one time I worked in a predominately gay environment was not pleasant. Gay men tend to act bizarre when grouped together. They revert to behaving like the gay stereotypes and start acting like bitchy women. NO THANKS.

    Yes, I've seen that, and it's not pretty. But I've also seen another and better aspect of that.

    Lots of guys have to put on a straight mask all day at work, to conform and blend-in. Even if they're out to co-workers they're still expected to behave in the regimented company mode for male employees.

    When they're "off-duty" with gay friends they can relax and let their hair down. Whether at a club or bar, restaurant, or a private home. And then you see them being fun & witty, creatively entertaining as only gay men can really be. Maybe a bitch here or there, but a lot more's going on that I really enjoy.

    Compared to most dull straight men my own age I encounter, the majority of my gay counterparts are original & agile thinkers, who invariably surprise and often delight me with new ideas and slants on things I hadn't previously considered.

    At the same time, I wouldn't want a job involving only gays, either. I can choose my friends, but I wouldn't necessarily be able to choose my customers. And really, this applies to any occupation that involves dealing with the public, regardless of gay or straight. Trust me, straights have their share of jerks, too. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 09, 2016 4:11 PM GMT
    Nope. The environments are too much and the money is too little. Unless it's sex work, there probably isn't much money in working for gay businesses. No future either.
  • Fireworkz

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    Mar 09, 2016 6:06 PM GMT
    Surprised that this isn't another sycophantic race thread.

    To answer your question. I'd work in a gay business is if it was my business and I was doing the hiring and firing.

    I've considered going into business partnerships with a couple of gay friends and have had the opportunity to set up businesses serving the gay market. For me it's more about whether it is a business that I want to do. It's not really about their sexuality of my company it's about whether I like them as colleagues.

    I wouldn't work for a gay business that is typical of the gay scene though as I don't want to be always immersed in that environment.

  • JimmyBoi79

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    Mar 09, 2016 10:28 PM GMT
    Hey there have considered working in a sauna, club or similar, due to living away from big city lights where their isnt a sauna around well closet would b 125 miles or 250 km away so not practical at this point of time...
  • tazzari

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    Mar 09, 2016 11:26 PM GMT
    I was self-employed. Does that count? icon_biggrin.gif
  • Apparition

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    Mar 10, 2016 12:50 AM GMT
    how about an antique store?
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Mar 10, 2016 7:38 AM GMT
    I used to work part-time during my college days for a legal office where all the folks except for one guy were gay men. We all knew each other, and were friends beyond the work environment. Some of these friendships had some benefits, but most guys just enjoyed each other's company at work and Fridays, after work.

    All of us were paid well. The owner, who ran his business was a kind, generous, and very successful guy. I have never heard a single guy complain about anything of any substance whatsoever.

    His business grew. Some people left to work for the others or open up their own shops. Few new people were hired. One of them, a str8 guy, started complaining how he was being disadvantaged because he was not gay? The boss showed him the door, and we all learnt that some str8 men are more tolerant of the gay men than the others. icon_lol.gif

    Would I work for a similar organization? Yup. At any time, if the conditions are right.

    Can you generalize anything out of any of our individual experiences?

    Nope. Not really!

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  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 11, 2016 6:38 AM GMT
    Worked at a gay bar ... I liked it, but I didn't. I wanted to be out partying with everyone, but I was working, but it was a little like partying and working at the same time. And I loved the people I worked with and I loved the clients they were all really nice and treated me great. I miss those days icon_sad.gif I would do it again if I were young. It was the only job I really ever felt 100% comfortable, safe and accepted for me and who I am, and didn't feel like I was being judged all the time.
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    Mar 11, 2016 4:53 PM GMT
    Never did , because i started to work in my field when i was 19 ..
    As long i am making a good living out of it , i am open to it
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    Mar 11, 2016 7:31 PM GMT
    never did;
    graduated from college and worked in my field till retired.


    would expect there are fewer gay environments these days.

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    Mar 11, 2016 8:00 PM GMT
    Mixed feelings, yeah I probably would since being openly gay, I would have no problem 'being myself' worrying about what others thought of me, gays can be bitchy though.

    My closest experience was with a workplace gay employee resource group, when gay people ran it. Eventually, straight people 'gentrified' the gay workplace group and took it over. I am not sure how you are suppose to have gay people in a gay workplace group but have straight "ally's" run or lead the group? icon_confused.gif

    It was more fun and informative when the real gays lead the real gay group, the straight people turned it into a "business" group





  • BlueSpruce

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    Mar 11, 2016 9:09 PM GMT
    The gay jobs were fun and put me through college. Bathouse attendant, coat check guy, party flyer boy, that gig at the sandwich shop...
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    Mar 11, 2016 9:30 PM GMT
    I've been a bartender at Gay bars for years.

    Gay men are (aside from here on RJ) generally low maintenance (a basic bar, no fucking blenders! Women are 10X worse!), seldom get into fights and tip well.

    I like the sense of community and have made many friends.