Despite fear, young gay rodeo cowboy came out to open arms in rural South Dakota

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    Mar 09, 2016 7:51 PM GMT
    "To those fighting the same battle I did, do not let ignorance, hate, or negativity prevent you from being the best person you can be." Please help share this story so broken kids everywhere know it is okay to be different. Acceptance is found even in unexpected places.

    http://www.outsports.com/2016/3/2/11144112/gay-rodeo-south-dakota-pj-painter
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    Mar 10, 2016 3:09 AM GMT
    Wow, that's you who wrote that inspiring article, right? Very impressive! More power to you and I hope you're doing well. (BTW -- I spent a few days driving through and exploring parts of South Dakota during a road trip last summer. A beautiful state.)
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 10, 2016 3:17 AM GMT
    Not all small towns, rural areas, and red republican states are intolerant, homophobic, xenophobic like they are falsely perceived. The GLB community needs to stop isolating itself just in big cities, sprawling suburbs, and along the coasts. Time for us gays to discover the "real America".
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    Mar 10, 2016 4:03 AM GMT
    duluthrunner saidWow, that's you who wrote that inspiring article, right? Very impressive! More power to you and I hope you're doing well. (BTW -- I spent a few days driving through and exploring parts of South Dakota during a road trip last summer. A beautiful state.)


    I did write the article. I'm just trying to make a difference where I can. My original goal was to change a life, save a life if I could.
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    Mar 10, 2016 3:48 PM GMT
    Great story and article. I just sent it to a friend who just happens to live in south dakota...and is a rancher too =)
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    Mar 10, 2016 4:34 PM GMT
    Nice Story Nice Boy.
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    Mar 10, 2016 5:51 PM GMT
    After reading this,
    "My only regret is that you won't be able to have the traditional family I was lucky enough to have. With that said, I want you to know that I will fully support any decision you make to adopt, foster, or hire a surrogate for you to have your own children. I want you to experience that someday because it has been the most rewarding experience of my life".(His father).

    I hope this young man experiences more.

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    Mar 11, 2016 12:00 AM GMT
    Nice story. If only everyone's families were so accepting and supportive.
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    Mar 11, 2016 8:35 PM GMT
    It was great to read your story. Congratulations! - both on your writing and your coming out.
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    Mar 12, 2016 9:40 AM GMT
    it's not about telling a story to gain acceptance, it's about telling a story to add more truth to peoples' awareness. Externally widespread acceptance is trivial.
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    Mar 12, 2016 10:18 AM GMT
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    Mar 12, 2016 1:27 PM GMT
    Damn, that sure is a fine young man!
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    Mar 12, 2016 10:12 PM GMT
    If you're over 18, and still that stupid faceless torso pic, then...you need to read The Kinsey Studies, and this article.

    You're your own worst enemy if you don't like yourself / are ashamed of who you are.

    Nothing is a bigger turnoff, than a face-less, that sneaks around thinking it's o.k. to be creepy.

    It's not o.k.

    Get a face; a handshake; a a full name; and a smile...then...folks will regard you as normal because you are.

    The absolute worst thing we can do is to act as enablers to such self destructive behavior. If you're a pictureless, or a faceless, or a no pic...it's your creepy behavior and lack of confidence that's getting you rejected; not your sexuality.

    Put your big boy pants on, and lead your life. It's just that very simple.
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    Mar 12, 2016 10:24 PM GMT
    Here's another good read for those closet cases that continue to self destruct:

    http://www.thegailygrind.com/2016/03/11/study-finds-less-than-50-of-teens-identify-as-straight/
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    Mar 13, 2016 11:30 PM GMT
    Riley - I think your story is absolutely amazing, inspiring and is a real example of courage, integrity and determination. You are a real example, not only for those who have not come out yet, but for those of us who have been for a long time.

    You are a beautiful man, inside and out and what makes you truly beautiful is something that age can only improve, and that's your character. You've achieved much and I have no doubt will push the stratosphere of success as your career progresses. Yet you not only don't forget where you came from and who mattered in your life - you're proud of that. How remarkable.

    Thank you for sharing your story, for your courage, for being a lawyer who gives voice to those who otherwise would probably not have it and for posting it here.

    If RJ had a "Man of the Year" as opposed to MOTD, you'd certainly have my nomination for it.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 15, 2016 5:55 PM GMT
    gudgelcl saidIf you're over 18, and still that stupid faceless torso pic, then...you need to read The Kinsey Studies, and this article.

    You're your own worst enemy if you don't like yourself / are ashamed of who you are.

    Nothing is a bigger turnoff, than a face-less, that sneaks around thinking it's o.k. to be creepy.

    It's not o.k.

    Get a face; a handshake; a a full name; and a smile...then...folks will regard you as normal because you are.

    The absolute worst thing we can do is to act as enablers to such self destructive behavior. If you're a pictureless, or a faceless, or a no pic...it's your creepy behavior and lack of confidence that's getting you rejected; not your sexuality.

    Put your big boy pants on, and lead your life. It's just that very simple.
    There is absolutely nothing creepy about a faceless pic. Some of these guys live in states that still don't protect gays and lesbians from discrimination in employment and housing so these guys have to be cautious while on-line. Several more of these guys live in countries that are ignorant and intolerant of gays and lesbians, places like Russia, Iran, Zimbabwe, etc. So don't be so unreasonable in demanding a face pic because in several circumstances it is not a workable or safe alternative. It is o.k. and it is not creepy like you falsely believe. Get off your high horse bunky.icon_mad.gif


    You live in ultra conservative, oppressive Texas where it is perfectly legal to discriminate against gays and lesbians in housing and employment. So how can you be so cold hearted and so stupid, I guess being cold hearted and stupid is a naturally inborn trait of all Texans. Go figure.