CODY4U saidNot staying the night after three to four months would be sending a message that you're asexual or you're not sexually interested in him or you're both bottoms. If you do stay the night and it sucks, you totally just wasted a lot of time.
Laugh out loud!
Apparition saidthat you are a twelve year old girl. your test results could be valid by then. do him already
Fellas... Nowhere did I say we weren't having sex. We hang out every weekend... dinners, hiking, movies, cuddling, long talks, coffee and have a vigorous sex life. We have even had several talks about "us" which is how we know that we've both been through shitty relationships in the past. We just retreat back to our own beds at night after a lengthy cuddling. I'm just asking about the "spending the night together" part.
Ooooooooo, okay. Well I'm going to take a dab into this one. And only because I've been reading online relationship articles about 3-4 times a day trying to work thru my own dating wonders.
I don't know. there's a difference between slow, sneaky, and successful relationships. I feel like you guys are on the iPhone 3Ssssshit. You seem to have a succesful thing going, but it seems to be going awfully slow if you can't sneak in a night together.
To me, spending the night with someone can be very hard if I have feelings for someone else I've been seeing. But it's also something that I truly enjoy. If a guy can't do that and goes home at the end of the night, where is he going home to? Kids, parents, another man or woman? That's what I'd be wondering because in all the times I could not spend a night with another guy or he could only spend the night with me...that was the reason.
The fact that y'all both had bad relationships before has nothing to do with spending the night or not, especially if you're already seeing each other and having sex. That's baggage and emotional walls and that has no place whatsoever in a new relationship. This almost sounds like you guys are just friends with benefits. Not saying that spending the night would equate to something more, but something seems dubious about the whole thing.
You guys should set a weekend to spend a night together. If he flakes, that's your answer right there.
woodfordr saidWe just retreat back to our own beds at night after a lengthy cuddling. I'm just asking about the "spending the night together" part.
I'm almost finding this hard to believe and there's got to be something else going on. I've been in situations just like that, where you're cuddling, it's late...the weather is horrible (if you live where it snows). Drinks might be involved. You're both off the next day. You mean to tell me y'all stop cuddling after "lengthy" cuddling to go back to your own beds? Are y'all neighbors? Cuz if not this is def not sounding right.
That's not to say y'all should be spending the night every weekend, but never in 3-4 months?