Round 2: Would you get out of your seat and move over so 2 people can sit their fat asses next to each other?

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    Mar 13, 2016 2:46 AM GMT
    So...I can't find the thread right now....but will post once I feel like finding it.

    Basically, some of y'all remember reading my thread last month where I mentioned an older gay couple came up to me at a bar at the Hilton Washington DC and asked if I could move over a seat because they wanted to sit next to each other. I agreed, but then felt low value for it. Sounds like a bunch of subservient, peasant-like bullshit right?

    Well, I got slammed for it on the forum. People called me everything from a woman scorned to needing to die because I resented my decision to give up my seat for them...,because I thought it was just rude. No matter how many times they thanked me.

    Well...fast forward to yesterday...the same situation presented itself again. This time, it was at a Black/Israelite barbershop. What happened was, a guy around my age (Israelite I believe...much more courteous of others than Americans..but the media only shows the bombings in the Middle East)) went to sit down next to me. He had a small kid with him. He sat his kid down next to me, and then proceeded to (without being a rude fuck boy) sit next to me in the other chair opposite of his kid, or his nephew I think it was actually. They passed their tablet in front of me, and interacted just fine without me having to get up. He did not ask me to get out of my seat at all. After a few minutes, I politely offered the seat to him, and moved on my own accord...only because I couldn't get iphone reception in that seat. Otherwise I was very comfortable. And moving seats caused me to get asked by someone "can I use your phone". My brand new iPhone that still had the plastic on it. Yeah, nice try buddy.

    Now, I've heard blood is thicker than water. That's what the saying is. So how can someone even come at me like that, when someone with a family member has the courtesy to respect where I'm sitting?

    That just goes to show, in that previous post, all the people talking crap were just talking out of their ass. You just don't do that. And that couple was just throwing their weight around trying intimidate somebody.
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    Mar 13, 2016 2:53 AM GMT
    Just curious. What does their race have to do with anything? Thought I'd ask since you felt it important to mention. I've met plenty of rude fucks from all different races.

    Maybe this is just a pet peeve of yours? Not sure.
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    Mar 13, 2016 3:13 PM GMT
    I don't see the big deal about it , i have done multiple times , in a bar , movie theater , buses , airplanes ...
    Kindness will bring you more joy , than ego .
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    Mar 13, 2016 6:36 PM GMT
    And you don't see the difference in the two scenarios?

    Anyway, you could have done the shitty thing and told the two guys at the bar no. You're just pissed with yourself because you didn't have the backbone to be the asshole you wanted to be. It's more about you than two guys asking politely if you could move down one seat so they could sit together.

    You got anger issues. Everything isn't an affront to your "dignity."
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    Mar 13, 2016 7:54 PM GMT
    do not go out in public
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    Mar 13, 2016 8:10 PM GMT
    I remember writing a long response.
    The truth is you are kind of aggressive and i can be like that too. But it's a waste of energy arguing with people who are rude. Better to just be polite. My mom was like that and when you are super nice it can catch people like that off guard. So smile alot next time you are out.
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    Mar 14, 2016 8:11 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs28 said

    Basically, some of y'all remember reading my thread last month where I mentioned an older white gay couple came up to me at a bar at the Hilton Washington DC and asked if I could move over a seat because they wanted to sit next to each other. I agreed, but then felt low value for it. Sounds like a bunch of subservient, peasant-like bullshit right?

    ****

    And that gay couple was just throwing their weight around trying intimidate somebody. And I learned after that, not to move for ANYBODY who asks me some shit like that again. And thanks to everyone who agreed I should have stayed put and said no.


    If you were on a plane and in a nice aisle seat being asked to trade fora middle, I agree, decline away.

    But if it's just a matter of sliding down a stool to an equivalent seat to make room for a couple, you're kind of a dick.
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    Mar 19, 2016 5:18 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAnd you don't see the difference in the two scenarios?

    Anyway, you could have done the shitty thing and told the two guys at the bar no. You're just pissed with yourself because you didn't have the backbone to be the asshole you wanted to be. It's more about you than two guys asking politely if you could move down one seat so they could sit together.

    You got anger issues. Everything isn't an affront to your "dignity."


    I agree with you in the second sentence...I should have been that asshole. I don't agree with me having anger issues. It had nothing the fuck to do with me because I was sitting there minding my business. There were other seats available, albeit it would have either involved white lady moving purse, them being 3 feet away as opposed to 3 inches away, or having me move,. They were the fucking assholes for being too stuck up to sit next to someone new. So BYE BYE to that shit.

    That said, I'm over it. I try to be polite, but sometimes being polite to others means lowering your value. No more.