CurtisLG saidHave you been interested in a Guy, liked a Guy, Dated a Guy, or had a Relationship with a Guy; who told you his previous ex boyfriend had HIV, but that he never become infected? If so, were you still super scared and worried, that he did contract it from his previous male partner, and was lying for whatever reason to protect himself from future rejection etc? Like, did it always stick in the back of your mind of the potential risk and exposure of exercising confidence in his reassurance?
I don't understand why someone would be "still super scared and worried" if you both are being tested. After 3 months the infection window period is over.
"There's a period of time after a person is infected during which they won't test positive. This is called the “hiv window period.”
The window period can be from 9 days to 3 months, depending on the person's body and on the HIV test that's used. During that time, you can test HIV negative even though you're HIV positive. You can still catch HIV from someone who is in the window period. In fact, there is evidence that a person in the window period is more likely to pass the virus on."
Why would you assume he is "lying for whatever reason to protect himself from future rejection etc?" You are making him out to be a liar. Now he's guilty just for having a POZ ex?
How do you know you are not POZ?
Hi. Yes, I am fully aware and knowledgeable of how HIV Testing is conducted, the timeframes of everything, and the process of things. Being potentially super scared and worried stems from not knowing if the Guy has been tested or not. You are making out that just because a Guy says he doesn't have something, automatically proves that he is telling the truth. (Not hardly, but if someone does state they have been with someone who was HIV and they weren't POZ, it implies they have been tested. And they are open to discussion. And they probably know about PREVENTION.) At the same time, I am not making out he isn't telling the truth either! (you said "and was lying for whatever reason.") I never mentioned that in my Post. I posed a logical contemplation and questions that can run through ones mind when this comes into consideration. (FEAR is not logical! You are scared of someone you haven't even had sex with! You are so afraid of HIV, even the contemplation of someone being with an HIV person scares you.) I just wanted to ascertain if Guys have been dubious or worried by similar experiences and scenarios pertaining to HIV, as I was. In relation to the confidence of another Man's HIV Negative Status, I am referring.
I know I am not HIV Positive, because I have been tested recently, and haven't had sex in Years. I don't do anything to acquire a potent HIV Transmission/Infection. Again, I am NOT making out this Guy is lying at all! (again, yes you did "and was lying for whatever reason.") But, ignorance and wishful thinking aren't wise when protecting yourself. So of course I think about the potential of being lied to, because a lot of Guys have and do, and a lot probably aren't even aware they are HIV Positive to begin with.
You say you aware, but your reaction is based on fear. You haven't had sex in years yet you single out someone who was with an HIV partner in the past. Would you have felt better if he hadn't mentioned it, and was negative regardless? If he was afraid of rejection he wouldn't have mentioned it at all.
Australia's ACON has a very good synopsis:
There are now at least five strategies that reasonably constitute‘safe sex’, provided that certain parameters are met.
1.The use of Condoms during casual encounters between men of unknown or discordant serostatus.
2.HIV negative men taking effective pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP).
3.Men living with HIV who only have sex without condoms when they have a sustained undetectable viral load (UVL) and in the absence of sexually transmissible infections (STIs).
4.Effective use of serosorting between HIV positive men.
5.Effective negotiated safety agreements.
Rather than dwelling on being "lied to" take responsibility for your own health. Use PrEP or insist on condoms. I wouldn't recommend a partner with an undetectable viral load, I don't think you are mentally prepared for that. Or do as you do....abstinence.