timmm55 said"Would you date a HIV positive undetectable man?"
You also need to ask "Would an HIV Undetectable man date a Negative man?"
You might be surprised.
I had a 28 year old boy hit me up on SCRUFF. I clearly state I am POZ and undetectable. He is presumably Negative. He asks if I do condoms.
I said: "I do TasP"
he said: "Huh?"
I said: "Treatment as Prevention"
He said: "what's that?"
I said: "at this point the learning curve is too great. Thanks"
he said: "K"
I wanted to say: "YOUR TOO STUPID TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE!"
If I had sex with this guy, and then he sex with 5 other "NEG" guys, and he became POZ, who do you think he's accuse of "reckless endangerment?" Me! Not the "NEG" guys.
If a NEG guy doesn't say "Poz friendly, on PrEP" there's no chance in hell I'd meet him. I usually stick to my own: POZ and/or Undetectable.
Just because we are POZ doesn't mean we are desperate. And condoms are still on the table. Too many STDs out there!
I got mail that said I was rude to the 28 year old. Just to be clear I didn't say to him I thought he was stupid. It's what I felt.
SCRUFF has different listings for hiv prevention. One of them is TasP. Another is condoms. So I expect people to know what both are since they use the site to meet people.
I don't expect everyone to know. Like I said even some POZ guys don't understand the full benefits of TasP, only that it saved their life. If I was a bit curt it's only because of his assumption that condoms were the only prevention for HIV. I isn't that I don't use condoms, I do sometimes. For STIs.
I mentioned a learning curve for his own benefit. I'm not on SCRUFF a lot or for long. Terse conversations are common. And frankly I'm not that good at texting from my phone.
My apologies to anyone if they were offended.
But to any poz man on RJ, you need to know that disclosure laws are not favorable to us. We bare the burden of proof. Even without HIV transmission we can be convicted and JAILED for 30 years. I take it very seriously. If someone isn't aware of TasP then I can't put myself in jeopardy.