Five things no gay man should put on their dating app profile

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    Mar 20, 2016 9:05 PM GMT
    http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/five-things-gay-man-dating-app/#gs.SWuMfks

    1. Any mention of being ‘clean’

    2. A heavily-disguised photo

    3. No black/asians/arabs/whites/whatever

    4. ‘No fats, no femmes’

    5. Your age… minus a few years
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    Mar 21, 2016 4:13 AM GMT
    So many headless and obscure photos on these apps. Also, pics that aren't selfies. My favorite ones are when they guy takes a pic on a computer screen. Or a screenshot from a phone.

    I refuse to believe that there are guys out there that are too dumb to know how to take a selfie and upload it their profile.
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    Mar 21, 2016 5:01 AM GMT
    xrichx saidSo many headless and obscure photos on these apps. Also, pics that aren't selfies. My favorite ones are when they guy takes a pic on a computer screen. Or a screenshot from a phone.

    I refuse to believe that there are guys out there that are too dumb to know how to take a selfie and upload it their profile.


    It's called I have a career I don't want ruined. I work with a bunch of conservatives.
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    Mar 21, 2016 9:35 AM GMT
    zoltar saidIt's called I have a career I don't want ruined. I work with a bunch of conservatives.


    I call it insecure as all fuck. My question is, if someone's coworkers is so conservative, then how would they know whether someone is on a gay dating app themselves unless they're on it? What would make it any different if it were a straight dating app? Guys I've found who don't have face pics on these apps i have to ask them to open and then I feel bad for not being interested. Or, they have some other life going on, OR they aren't taking it serious,

    See...this is where some people in this country still have a long way to go. To think a career would be ruined just because you posted a face pic on a dating app is

    LUDACRIS


    It just kind upsets me that some people still fear that kind of stuff in this day and age. A face pic on a gay dating app is not the same as a XXX video on Xtube, something most guys seem to have... that may legally cost someone a job.
  • nice_chap

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    Mar 21, 2016 3:58 PM GMT
    I think it is OK to not show your face on your profile pic. As long as you actually do show a face pic to someone privately when you start chatting with them.

    Unfortunately, there really are people who respond to "have you got a face pic?" with "Top/Horny/Now".
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    Mar 21, 2016 4:00 PM GMT
    Do/put whatever you want on your dating profile because:

    1. It's yours.
    2. It's just a dating profile.
    3. Anyone who gets super sensitive over a total stranger's profile text is someone you actually want to repel.
    4. No one can stop you.
    5. Lies are the risk we all assume when socializing online.


    With that said, if you have any "no ______" policies, don't go hitting up guys from your banned demographics. If your physical appearance changes upon meeting a guy, don't be surprised if he changes his mind about you.
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    Mar 21, 2016 5:41 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidDo/put whatever you want on your dating profile because:
    1. It's yours


    you share your profile with at least one other person; the date.
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    Mar 22, 2016 2:49 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs28 said
    zoltar saidIt's called I have a career I don't want ruined. I work with a bunch of conservatives.


    I call it insecure as all fuck. My question is, if someone's coworkers is so conservative, then how would they know whether someone is on a gay dating app themselves unless they're on it? What would make it any different if it were a straight dating app? Guys I've found who don't have face pics on these apps i have to ask them to open and then I feel bad for not being interested. Or, they have some other life going on, OR they aren't taking it serious,

    See...this is where some people in this country still have a long way to go. To think a career would be ruined just because you posted a face pic on a dating app is

    LUDACRIS


    It just kind upsets me that some people still fear that kind of stuff in this day and age. A face pic on a gay dating app is not the same as a XXX video on Xtube, something most guys seem to have... that may legally cost someone a job.


    I hear you and don't disagree with you. While it shouldn't affect someone's career I have seen immoral things happen at my work. Bottom line is if management wants to get rid of someone they will. That's true of just about any business. It might take them a little while but they can find a way
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    Mar 23, 2016 4:54 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidDo/put whatever you want on your dating profile because:

    1. It's yours.
    2. It's just a dating profile.
    3. Anyone who gets super sensitive over a total stranger's profile text is someone you actually want to repel.
    4. No one can stop you.
    5. Lies are the risk we all assume when socializing online.


    With that said, if you have any "no ______" policies, don't go hitting up guys from your banned demographics. If your physical appearance changes upon meeting a guy, don't be surprised if he changes his mind about you.

    Totally. I don't know why guys use old pics of themselves. I met with one guy and he looked different in person. I asked him about his profile pic and he said it was taken by a friend while on vacation 5 years ago. I guess he thought it was the best pic of himself.

    And then there are the guys that have professional pics taken, and use those as their profile pics. Lol.
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    Mar 23, 2016 6:43 AM GMT
    xrichx said
    Totally. I don't know why guys use old pics of themselves.


    You mean the guys who still have their same RJ pics from 2009 when I first made an account here don't possess a magical fountain of youth that keeps them still looking exactly like that? icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 23, 2016 7:29 AM GMT
    I don't care what people want to put into their profile, it is their prerogative. I actually want people to put out most of these things so it becomes easy for me to weed them out. What's the point in reaching out to a guy who is not into Indians? I would only be wasting my time, by putting it out there, he makes it easy me.
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    Mar 23, 2016 7:59 PM GMT
    ricky1987 saidI don't care what people want to put into their profile, it is their prerogative. I actually want people to put out most of these things so it becomes easy for me to weed them out. What's the point in reaching out to a guy who is not into Indians? I would only be wasting my time, by putting it out there, he makes it easy me.


    Certainly it's their right and prerogative, within the TOS. But then the person is an asshole, good to know I guess. The whole idea behind "5 best...." is not to be offensively selective. Is it being politically "correct"? Of course it is. PC is basically just good manners and shows a basis in knowledge not ignorance. I'm always amused when people are disdainful of PC, the right to speech they defend is always prejudicial. Certainly they can say kike, faggot, ni@@r, cunt, tranny, or a multitude of dumb things. That is a right, a right to be as ignorant as you wish. But being "anti-PC" is nothing to be proud of. They seem to think boorish behavior is something to be celebrated, the Trumps of this world.

    I had an obese brother. I'd never say "no fats" I say Height/weight proportional. It isn't that hard to be nice about it. Some people are into bears and say so. If someone says "no blacks" I eliminate them. Not because I am black, but because I find them to be rude, racist and not worthy of my time. They may think they are being selective but it's working against them.

    The very person they may want, reads this shit and shuts them out. Ironic. But fair.
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    Mar 23, 2016 10:07 PM GMT
    ricky1987 saidI don't care what people want to put into their profile, it is their prerogative. I actually want people to put out most of these things so it becomes easy for me to weed them out. What's the point in reaching out to a guy who is not into Indians? I would only be wasting my time, by putting it out there, he makes it easy me.

    You do understand that many people have herd mentality. They just copy whatever is in fashion these days. Racism/sexism also arises from such herd mentality.
    Once, I had hooked up with a guy, who wasn't into Indian guy, which he confessed, when I told him that I am Indian. I didn't know that because I had met him in a bar, and we didn't have this talk before hooking up. Otherwise, I wouldn't have hooked up with him.
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    Mar 24, 2016 3:21 AM GMT
    Ariodante83 said
    xrichx said
    Totally. I don't know why guys use old pics of themselves.


    You mean the guys who still have their same RJ pics from 2009 when I first made an account here don't possess a magical fountain of youth that keeps them still looking exactly like that? icon_lol.gif

    I think people don't think their appearances change much as they get older. The guy in my example looked ok in his profile pic, and he didn't lie about his age. BUT when I met him, it was clear that he has been spending wayyyy too much time in the sun over the years. And he looked considerably different than his old pic.

    Sunscreen, people. Use it! icon_biggrin.gif

  • Mar 26, 2016 9:07 PM GMT
    i learned the hard way, never put out there that you work at the coroners office. for some reason thats like instant cock repellant icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 27, 2016 7:47 AM GMT
    sexybubblegumpinktwinkstar69 saidi learned the hard way, never put out there that you work at the coroners office. for some reason thats like instant cock repellant icon_rolleyes.gif

    But that formaldehyde smell.. icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 31, 2016 2:50 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidI don't care what people want to put into their profile, it is their prerogative. I actually want people to put out most of these things so it becomes easy for me to weed them out. What's the point in reaching out to a guy who is not into Indians? I would only be wasting my time, by putting it out there, he makes it easy me.


    Agreed. And profiles that only address the physical and leave out their emotional attributes tell you as much about a person for what they don't say ("I'm warm affectionate, tactile") as for what they do say. I find I like guys who like their dads (therefore, no authority/"daddy" issues) and their moms and their siblings. It signals that they are usually warm and able to make deep emotional connections. It's not that hard to ascertain if someone's an emotional/romantic match for you if you're genuinely interested in that (not everyone is). It's more often the case that many guys don't ever get around to asking the questions that tell them within a date or two if someone's going to be good for them, not just "fun."
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    Mar 31, 2016 9:39 AM GMT
    xrichx said
    Ariodante83 said
    xrichx said
    Totally. I don't know why guys use old pics of themselves.


    You mean the guys who still have their same RJ pics from 2009 when I first made an account here don't possess a magical fountain of youth that keeps them still looking exactly like that? icon_lol.gif

    I think people don't think their appearances change much as they get older. The guy in my example looked ok in his profile pic, and he didn't lie about his age. BUT when I met him, it was clear that he has been spending wayyyy too much time in the sun over the years. And he looked considerably different than his old pic.

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    It makes no sense to use a profile pic that doesn't look like you, what's the point? Tricking people to go on a date?
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    Mar 31, 2016 11:28 AM GMT
    Dating profiles are like resumes : people are trying to put their best foot forward.

    I think out of date or heavily photoshopped pictures have become the standard. I have been accused of looking older in my picture than my listed age, but I am not mispresenting myself. I think honest pictures look older or plainer in contrast with all the older or fake ones. I admit I have a weight problem but I am fighting it. Few people look like college atheletes after 35.

    People online make gauche statements. Dating profiles make people objectify others, almost as if they were looking in a catelog or on Amazon. My favorite was a few years ago when a gentleman from Zephyrhills Florida, who was about my dad's age, told me that I was too old for him. I guess he was looking for a Zack Ephran clone.

    Just my two cents,
    FloridaRugyBear
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    Apr 02, 2016 1:57 AM GMT
    someone mentioned those professional photographs, and I too hate those. I've learned never to say hi to them.
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    Apr 02, 2016 6:34 PM GMT
    Everyone knows OP posted this because of #1 and its "stigma" icon_lol.gif
  • Apparition

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    Apr 02, 2016 7:55 PM GMT
    people should not beat around the bush about what they are looking for. It is not a friend finding list, it is a sex partner finding list, and there is no point in meeting people you have no interest in. In fact almost all the categories mentioned should be on sliders rather than text so you can pick what you want, and since everyone has to fill in what the WANT it would not be rare, or rude, it would be your expectations.
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    Apr 03, 2016 2:59 AM GMT
    phillo saidIt makes no sense to use a profile pic that doesn't look like you, what's the point? Tricking people to go on a date?

    They want to charm you with their personality, and hope you'll overlook their appearance when you finally meet. Lots of delusional guys out there.
  • myrosebud

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    Apr 04, 2016 3:05 AM GMT
    crazycrazydoesdoes saidEveryone knows OP posted this because of #1 and its "stigma" icon_lol.gif


    After reading the HIV thread, I can see why haha
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    Apr 05, 2016 10:36 AM GMT
    1. Bank account information
    2. Home address
    3. Work address
    4. Social security number
    5. Credit card number