Finding a job while having gay social media apps

  • Kromethius

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    Mar 22, 2016 4:02 AM GMT
    I think I'm close to finally finding a job after months from graduating and was wondering if I should delete realjock, adam4adam, and such out of fear that the employers will see my shirtless pics and even bypass security to see my private ones?
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    Mar 22, 2016 4:59 AM GMT
    You don't really want a job with an employer like that.
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Mar 22, 2016 5:15 AM GMT
    Some of you people are insane. Discard everyone! Your friends wouldn't approve of you moonlighting as the neighborhood cum dump? With friends like that, who needs enemies? Your employer would be uncomfortable with seeing your dick pics? Fire him! LOL
  • buddycat

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    Mar 22, 2016 6:40 AM GMT
    Set your profile so you can only be viewed by members. If a boss or co-worker sees you, they are gay themselves.
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    Mar 22, 2016 1:35 PM GMT
    Potential employers do not typically monitor hook-up sites like A4A, manhunt, bigmuscle, scruff, grindr, etc. They may be interested in your linkedin, facebook, twitter, and similar social media accounts, but I'm not convinced that they'd expend invaluable resources figuring out your sexual proclivities even if they're curious. If they were truly rigorous, they might look at your public comments (chat room posts, tweets, blogs, etc.), but even that has some limitations. If you're a potential executive-level or C-suite employee, particularly if the company is publicly traded, the level of scrutiny and investigation would be significantly higher because the company's exposure to potential negative publicity would be similarly higher.
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    Mar 22, 2016 1:48 PM GMT
    Kromethius saidI think I'm close to finally finding a job after months from graduating and was wondering if I should delete realjock, adam4adam, and such out of fear that the employers will see my shirtless pics and even bypass security to see my private ones?


    Do you know anyone who works in HR? They are the best ones to ask. Dominus's advice is good too...definitely manage your social media presence. I try to keep everything private and share only with friends. Of course, things slip through and you need to constantly monitor what is shared. Potential employers will investigate as much as they can, including your credit score. You may want to keep your RJ profile private while you are looking for a job, because comments, pics, etc. often show up in searches. I'm surprised by what shows up sometimes.
  • Mbis69

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    Mar 22, 2016 7:52 PM GMT
    Can someone explain how anyone including a potential employer would be able to find you on RJ, Dudesnude, etc unless you have your real name posted. Perhaps they could search through hundreds of profiles in your area and happen across your pictures? Seems impossible to me. But I'm no techie. As an employer myself, I do search mainstream (non-sexual) social media on a prospective employee. Obviously FB, LinkedIn, etc. I also search public records for arrests and we do a background and credit check prior to hiring once we like what we've seen and interviewed.
  • zion03

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    Mar 22, 2016 11:07 PM GMT
    in a professional workplace there should not be nudity of any kind. my suggestion is to get to those apps on your own time and be professional on company time.
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    Mar 22, 2016 11:25 PM GMT
    Social apps are social apps. If you're searching for a job, you should consider taking down pics that might be taken out of context down and just put up safe pics. Or maybe just make your thong pics "private". I can't tell you how many times I have had a gay coworker comment that they recognized a candidate from their profile on Grindr/Okcupid etc and they have no problem with pulling it up and showing it to people.

    Once you have the job, you should do whatever you feel comfortable with, just understanding that others still might see your profile.
    Just as a regular employee I have had several gay guys make comments about my profile to other straight employees. And I am out and pretty well liked.
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    Mar 23, 2016 3:38 AM GMT
    Technical advice: as long as you are on your employer's (WiFi or other) network, their IT department can see the names of all sites you visit. If the site is not secure (e.g. RealJock), they can also see the content, including messages and pictures.

    If your phone uses the company network to connect to "social" sites and something explicit is downloaded, it's using company resources for pornography, which is typically grounds for dismissal.

    You won't care as long as your employer loves you, but the moment you are dispensable, it may come back to haunt you. Better disable those apps at work, or stay on your own connection.
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    Mar 23, 2016 4:43 AM GMT
    Kromethius saidI think I'm close to finally finding a job after months from graduating and was wondering if I should delete realjock, adam4adam, and such out of fear that the employers will see my shirtless pics and even bypass security to see my private ones?

    Why? Unless you submitted your resume with an email address that is identical to your social media screen name.
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    Mar 23, 2016 8:35 AM GMT
    First of all, congratulations on your new job. It must cost you a hell lot of perseverance in this economic climate for new graduates.

    I would say before deleting, spend a few days gauging your workplace environment before taking any action. May be you would realise, your workplace is quite gay-friendly.
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    Mar 23, 2016 9:17 AM GMT
    My employer cyberstalks our social media accounts. I have been warned about what I post online, and I really don't post anything off the wall or dirty, and I would never post a shirtless picture anyway.
  • ai82

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    Mar 24, 2016 3:03 AM GMT
    Don't post anything that you feel is embarrassing or unprofessional or offensive. You can use an email address to find almost anyone these days, and connect alot of dots using usernames. There have been alot of cases of people being fired because of their social media posts.
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    Mar 24, 2016 4:22 AM GMT
    Wait a minute... so security is this insane... yet we still judge people for headless torso pics? I think faceless profiles make a lot of sense, even more now than ever, after reading some of these posts...
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Mar 24, 2016 12:03 PM GMT
    Stating the obvious... but, how about replacing the pics with clothed ones? Duuhhh
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    Mar 24, 2016 9:57 PM GMT
    How is your employer finding out you have accounts on those sites?
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    Mar 24, 2016 10:15 PM GMT
    mx5guynj saidHow is your employer finding out you have accounts on those sites?


    Working in IT and software development I may know more about this than most.

    Large employeers now have social media departments who manage the companies profiles and image online. They also have cybersecurity teams who monitor your Internet usage and email at work. I never access anything not work related at work, even on my cellphone.

    My employeer has at least 10 cybersecurity people and at least 5 social media coordinators.

    In addition, coworkers spy on each other hoping to gain approval from the powers above. I had a supervisor who kept folders on everyone she disliked in her desk (including me) so she had material documented when she tried to get someone fired. She turned me in for complaing about being overworked on Facebook, because someone else ratted me out.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 24, 2016 10:24 PM GMT
    I don't think that it should be any employer's damned business about your on line social media activity. Their only concern should be whether or not you can successfully perform the job. Outside of work, whatever you do is none of their damn business.
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    Mar 26, 2016 9:48 PM GMT
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    mx5guynj saidHow is your employer finding out you have accounts on those sites?


    Working in IT and software development I may know more about this than most.

    Large employeers now have social media departments who manage the companies profiles and image online. They also have cybersecurity teams who monitor your Internet usage and email at work. I never access anything not work related at work, even on my cellphone.

    My employeer has at least 10 cybersecurity people and at least 5 social media coordinators.

    In addition, coworkers spy on each other hoping to gain approval from the powers above. I had a supervisor who kept folders on everyone she disliked in her desk (including me) so she had material documented when she tried to get someone fired. She turned me in for complaing about being overworked on Facebook, because someone else ratted me out.


    So people are stealing company time and facility use for their personal business.

    Those slackers should be fired regardless of the social media content.
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    Mar 27, 2016 7:41 AM GMT
    FloridaRugbyBear said
    mx5guynj saidHow is your employer finding out you have accounts on those sites?


    Working in IT and software development I may know more about this than most.

    Large employeers now have social media departments who manage the companies profiles and image online. They also have cybersecurity teams who monitor your Internet usage and email at work. I never access anything not work related at work, even on my cellphone.

    My employeer has at least 10 cybersecurity people and at least 5 social media coordinators.

    In addition, coworkers spy on each other hoping to gain approval from the powers above. I had a supervisor who kept folders on everyone she disliked in her desk (including me) so she had material documented when she tried to get someone fired. She turned me in for complaing about being overworked on Facebook, because someone else ratted me out.

    Sounds like you work for a horrible company with shitty coworkers. How/why do you manage to stay there?
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    Mar 27, 2016 7:45 AM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI don't think that it should be any employer's damned business about your on line social media activity. Their only concern should be whether or not you can successfully perform the job. Outside of work, whatever you do is none of their damn business.

    I disagree somewhat. If your outside life interferes with your work, then it's a problem.

    I google every applicant/resume that comes on my desk. If I see an applicant that posts IG selfies boozing it up everyday, I trash their resume. If I see FB posts of them complaining about baby mama troubles, straight to trash.

    For current employees, most of them have the common sense to lock down their social media. But a few post freely. If they call in sick on Monday and I see they posted party pics from the Sunday before.. we gonna have a talk.