First time anal tips

  • Hoosiergay92

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    Mar 22, 2016 8:12 PM GMT
    I'm a virgin gay man, hoping to bottom for the first time pretty soon. But the thought of things getting "messy" during it really has me worried. I bought a pretty big dildo to try and get myself ready/prep for the real thing. It felt amazing, but every time I pulled it out, there was at least a little bit of shit on it. Sometimes a fairly decent amount. It was kinda gross but didn't bother me too much. But if I were with a guy and that happened, I would be absolutely mortified and he would probably be grossed out by it. I have a fairly regular diet and pretty regular bowel movements. So I'm not sure what the issue is. I know it's normal to have a little poo here and there during anal, but there was quite a lot at times and it made me uncomfortable. Tips on how to get this to not happen??
  • Ariodante83

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    Mar 22, 2016 10:25 PM GMT
    Are you familiar with douching? Shooting water up your rectum then flushing it out. You do that 3-4 times before bottoming, clean as a whistle. Bulb douches work just fine, but a shower douche will give you an extra deep clean.
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    Mar 22, 2016 11:34 PM GMT
    Ariodante83 said
    Are you familiar with douching? Shooting water up your rectum then flushing it out. You do that 3-4 times before bottoming, clean as a whistle. Bulb douches work just fine, but a shower douche will give you an extra deep clean.

    To clarify for the OP, a shower douche is a thin perforated metal wand, attached by hose to a shower head as an accessory. Like a hand sprayer is. You can find them in some adult sex toy stores, or online.

    I remember when I saw my first, while taking a shower at the house of a gay guy who was hosting me for a night. I arrived by motorcycle from another State around 5 PM and needed to wash after the long ride.

    It finally dawned on me what it was. OK, I thought, this guy's a power bottom. After I contrived to get myself into his bed later that night I learned I was correct. VERY correct! icon_wink.gif

    As for myself, when I bottom I just use a rubber bulb, as you mention. It's small enough to fit in my luggage when I travel. Prepping for certain medical procedures I've had to use a provided enema kit at home, but that's too much trouble for bottoming. I'm just having sex, not a colonoscopy.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 23, 2016 12:55 AM GMT
    um, try using the toilet first....
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    Mar 23, 2016 4:47 AM GMT
    Hoosiergay92 saidI'm a virgin gay man, hoping to bottom for the first time pretty soon. But the thought of things getting "messy" during it really has me worried. I bought a pretty big dildo to try and get myself ready/prep for the real thing. It felt amazing, but every time I pulled it out, there was at least a little bit of shit on it. Sometimes a fairly decent amount. It was kinda gross but didn't bother me too much. But if I were with a guy and that happened, I would be absolutely mortified and he would probably be grossed out by it. I have a fairly regular diet and pretty regular bowel movements. So I'm not sure what the issue is. I know it's normal to have a little poo here and there during anal, but there was quite a lot at times and it made me uncomfortable. Tips on how to get this to not happen??

    A member by the name of Gamrican wrote a lengthy post on how to prepare for anal sex. Search for it in the Adult/Sex sub-forums.
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    Mar 23, 2016 7:38 AM GMT
    your partner will be using a condom anyways?
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    Mar 23, 2016 7:50 AM GMT
    Douche is the way to go. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2016 8:57 PM GMT
    Most tops would know how to deal with some, but not pounds of, shit. Try your best to clear the poop chute before you get fucked, but don't be embarrassed if a drop or two manages to reveal itself.
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 24, 2016 10:35 PM GMT
    As someone once suggested,"Take poppers.. And make him rim you first!"


    If you do a quick cleanse with only an ounce or two of saline (several times, until water coming out is clean) about 1/2 hour before the "event," your body should produce some mucus, an added protection of the rectal lining for fucking, and, if he is into rimming you, stimulating because of its sugar content and pleasant taste/smell.

    You should preferably wait at least 15 minutes after douching, in case there is some water left up there.