italiano027 saidDo you think it's foolish to move to a more gay friendly area where it's hard to meet people and the dating scene is like non existent?
I'm not having much luck in my area. I live in a small town in Connecticut and weather it's meeting other gay friends or dates,its like nearly impossible.
So would it be stupid of me to move to a more gay friendly area? I can't help but feel that this is such a pretty and stupid reason to relocate lol
I am also in Connecticut, and moved here after 30 years in San Francisco. Since I was born and lived in CT until I was 19, I've observed some things since I moved back here 14 years ago.
1) New Englanders in general are less outgoing than people from other parts of the country. There is a tendency to not be curious about other people, so the gay community is not going to be different than that.
2) In areas where the weather is warm half the year and cold the other half, people literally "come out" of themselves as it warms up, but retreat "inside themselves" as it gets cooler as they are focused on avoiding the cooler weather. So, the easiest time to meet people is in warmer weather (plus the fact that people appear to be affected by SAD syndrome: less sun/more melancholy the people are).
BUT. Even San Francisco, for example, has changed, according the guys I know who are still there, including some native San Franciscans. Less friendly (compared to the '70s, when guys would smile at you just walking down the street) and, as technology and smartphones have become omnipresent, people literally pay no attention to other people walking down the street. I would expect that to be the case no matter where you go, so consider that.
The South is overall, a friendlier place, because the customs are still in place and people still greet each other more than in other areas of the country.
Meeting people has now become more of a where-you-hang-out thing than it used to be. Gay social groups might be easier places to meet people in Connecticut. But I know what you mean. The other thing is: your own energy will attract people to you. If you're shut down, don't smile and don't allow others to catch your eye, you are signaling - body language wise - that you are not open to social discourse. So consider that as well.