Does height matter?


  • Feb 08, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    I am new to this place. And i just want to survey if height really matters?
    I am short and its been my problem because i don't find myself attractive and my shortness does not give me any self esteem at all.
    So do you really care about the height?
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    Feb 08, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Feb 08, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    Well, I'm 6' 8" and still growing. So if height's an issue, then I'm sowy; I'm not the one for ya icon_razz.gif Just jokin icon_biggrin.gif

    Height doesn't really mean much to me. I'm a giant, so I really can't be picky with height. I mean I wouldn't date anyone that under a foot shorter than me because it would a little too weird. But as long as he doesn't feel like I'm going to randomly step on him, everything will be fine icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 08, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 saidI am new to this place. And i just want to survey if height really matters?
    I am short and its been my problem because i don't find myself attractive and my shortness does not give me any self esteem at all.
    So do you really care about the height?

    A story: in 1973 I was taking some US Army officer training, and befriended another Lieutenant. He was tall, about 6'5", and one day we were at the bar of the Officer's Club, standing next to each other.

    I noticed our reflection in the mirror behind the bar, and our great height difference was comical to see, since I'm just 5'8". I literally jumped away from him to keep from looking foolish, and he asked what was wrong.

    When I explained he said to me: "Yeah, I know you're short, but you never ACT short. You've impressed me as being totally unaware of your height until now. Forget about it."

    And I did. So should you. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    Dude, no one is judging you as harshly as you judge yourself. You're 5'3". That's shorter than average, but hardly something that makes you unattractive. Believe it or not, there are some guys who are really into shorter/smaller stature guys.

    Hell, I once knew a dwarf (politically correct term: little person) who was extremely attractive. I would have loved to date him, except he was straight. He was all of 3' 10", but had a great personality, gorgeous face, and a confidence about him that was very sexy.

    Embrace who/what you are and quit worrying about your perceived deficiencies.
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:48 AM GMT
    Height matters to me in a LTR. I like short men.
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 saidI am new to this place. And i just want to survey if height really matters?
    I am short and its been my problem because i don't find myself attractive and my shortness does not give me any self esteem at all.
    So do you really care about the height?


    Don't waste your time worrying about something you cannot and should not change.

    Embrace your height... there are guys out there who like short guys... myself included.icon_razz.gif

    Use what you got!
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    Not if I'm on my knees =^)~
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:52 AM GMT
    I always say i want a tall guy, but always fall for guys shorter than me.
    I don't think it matters really.
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    While being tall can be an attractive feature, I tend to be most attracted to shorter guys. Not sure why.
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    Height does not matter. I don't care how short you are. I don't care how tall you are.
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    Doesn't worry me. If I were you I wouldn't worry about not being attractive. (You are attractive.) Positive self image leads to self-confidence and boyfriends and promotions and money and sex.
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    Yes it matters. 50% of attraction is height. For specific people your size will be a deal breaker, but for alot of other people, they prefer guys your size. So don't sweat it. There are lots of people out there for you.

    However, if you are into shorter people - you will have a much more narrow group of guys to select from. I hope you like taller guys - you will have no trouble finding guys who are into shorter men.

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    Feb 09, 2009 2:34 AM GMT
    I'm the same as Mrod79. I typically want to date guys taller, but have always dated shorter. Height doesn't matter as much as personality!
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    height doesn't matter at all to me. My ex- of seven years (the longest relationship I ever had) was 4'9". He was slim but had lean muscle and could be pretty strong when riled up. He was compact, always full of energy, and was pretty good person...as long as the alcohol was locked away.

    On a sidenote: I think the funniest thing about his size though was that he had to shop for pants in the boys section. There were no pants his size in mens. He had to wear a 12 Slim. He was hung like a horse though.icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 09, 2009 3:53 AM GMT


    In my single years I sampled all kinds - tall and short in varying degrees. You know what? It's in his kiss, not his measurements.icon_wink.gif


    -Doug
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    Feb 09, 2009 3:59 AM GMT
    The nice thing about being shorter is that you can look ripped alot easier... Tall guys that are buff have to be soooo much stronger than short guys that look equally strong because they have to leverage more to lift weights. I love buff short guys though... As a tall dude I wish more short guys would talk to me, they seem timid or something.
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    Feb 09, 2009 4:09 AM GMT
    No, height really does not mean much to me. I am 5'5" and very happy with the way I am. You should embrace and celebrate who you are and if you are feeling the blues becuase you feel shorter than most from time to time, do what I do. Put on a nice pair of high hills. they always do the trick for me.icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 09, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    Being a short ass myself at only 5 8". I love long legs! Don't have an inferior complex, so I don't find the tall guys intimidating. I just think it's hot. But sometimes I'll see a short ass like myself, and think: "man i could do that."
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    Feb 09, 2009 5:33 AM GMT
    i think short guys tend to be more attractiveicon_surprised.gif
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    Feb 09, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    Does it bother you being short?

    Everyone has their own preferences, obviously. Those preferences include height, weight, race, culture, morals, mannerisms, fitness level, body lines, intelligence, and so on.

    Of course, there's not a whole lot you can do about height, except maybe eat some more and take some growth hormone.

    The answer, of course, you already know: it matters to some folks, and not to others.

    If you're wanting to play professional basketball, height clearly matters, wouldn't you say?

    If you're wanting to dig ditches, height may not be quite so important, right?

    Are you wanting validation that it's o.k. to be 5'3"? It doesn't matter. You're still 5'3".
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    Feb 09, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    I'm short too.

    Yesterday I was looking at a group photo I'm in and realized how much shorter I am than most of the people in the picture - mostly how much shorter I was next to guys who I see as close to my height.

    For some reason, I forget just how short I am until I see myself in a reflection or in a photo.

    And I've been called a cute "pocket gay" lately... a lot.
    (I could just pick you up and put you in my pocket...)

    Not sure how I feel about that. lol

    But often I feel your pain. I feel like there are a lot more guys who don't like shorter guys than do.

    And certainly when it comes to buying clothes, every major retailer/manufacturer assumes that if your inseam is less than 30", you must be "portly" because the 28" and 29" inseams all start with waists at 36."
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    Feb 09, 2009 5:57 AM GMT
    I use to exclude guys over 5'8" cuz I'm short and I like guys to be proportionate to me.

    I'm now dating someone who is just under 6' and you know what? It doesn't matter... and it prolly never did. I just had my own height hang-up icon_smile.gif

    5'3"... 6'3"... whatev it's all good... there's nothing you can do about your height, but there's everything you can do about your attitude.
  • E_84

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    Feb 09, 2009 5:58 AM GMT
    Yea height doesn't matter.

    Although some individuals have certain preferences and restrictions (according to their height, like being really tall), however, generally consensus such as here shows it's not too important. Just be proportionate.
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    Feb 09, 2009 6:22 AM GMT
    I am on both sides of the fence when it comes to the height issue. One guy tried to holler at me & he knew I was tall. He chased me for a minute & all of a sudden, he had a moment. My height bothered him. He really wasn't one to talk at all because he's claiming bisexual & of all things, he's in the closet. I gave him a description of myself & he made it his choice to meet up with me, ya know, give someone a chance. But enough of that. I have met short guys that are attracted to the tall variety & trust me, I learn to never underestimate short men who carry themselves well. Most of my straight friends are short, compared to me. The shortest I dated was about 5'4" & the tallest I dated was about 6'6.5". I say now that height doesn't matter, as long as you carry a well-balanced appearance of yourself. But it's all in how you carry yourself that counts.