Can you have a romantic relationship without sex?*

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    Feb 08, 2009 10:02 PM GMT
    ...since it's Valentine's Day is just around the corner, anyway... icon_cool.gif
    *special thanks to RJ member StudinTranslation

    Oh, my answer: HELLZ NO, I'D DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Feb 08, 2009 11:35 PM GMT

    I still believe in dating.

    I still believe in romance.

    I still believe Brenda K. Starr.



    We'll find ourselves in love again...
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    Feb 08, 2009 11:45 PM GMT

    That can be arranged via mash up!



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    Feb 08, 2009 11:59 PM GMT

    I wish it was 1988.
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    Feb 09, 2009 12:02 AM GMT
    absolutly
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    Feb 09, 2009 12:04 AM GMT
    Also, can you have a romantic relationship without ever meeting the guy?


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    Feb 09, 2009 12:16 AM GMT

    Lostboy - that fucken hurts! I am in a relationship on Facebook with a guy for more than a year now who I haven't seen, heard nor cammed with and he refuses to get verified. icon_sad.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    Glad Fable is not here to remind me that my FB BF is a F.A.K.E.icon_evil.gif
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    Feb 09, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
    ZiMsTeR said
    That can be arranged via mash up!



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    Jeez, Zim.
    Stop being so hard to get along with, you onery bastard.


    j/k!
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    Feb 09, 2009 12:20 AM GMT

    It's a disease --now even dead people wants to be friends with me... It's 4:20 a.m. as I type and I'm fucken too scared to go to sleep!!!
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    Feb 09, 2009 1:45 AM GMT
    My first reaction was to say yes but then I really thought about it and my answer is: yes, at least the first few weeks to a month, but then, sex is kind of important. Once the sex goes it eventually bleeds into the rest of the relationship. Usually in ltrs where they no longer have sex they rely on the companionship to get them through but it's like putting a band-aid on an open wound. When a guy's sexual desire for his partner vanishes it's indicative of a deeper problem in the relationship. I know for my own preference I want a bf I can say "I love you" to, then sex that boy until morning!
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:04 AM GMT
    I think it's possible, but very difficult. While I was in my last relationship, I developed brain cancer, which destroyed my pituitary gland. Just one of the many side effects of this was my body could no longer produce testosterone, which effectively destroyed any desire in me to have sex. My guy was generous enough to stick by me through treatment until I recovered. Eventually, we separated, but not for the sex reason. I believe he would have always been by my side if he could, with or without sex, and I would have done the same for him. Sex for me has always been an expression of love, but I can be equally fulfilled with other means of expression.
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    Feb 09, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    Absolutely 100%!!!!

    One of my husbands call Moscow home. Very, very soon we have our tenth anniversary.

    You know. I knew I loved him before I ever meet him!
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    Feb 09, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    most definitely!!
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    Feb 09, 2009 4:29 AM GMT

    Yes, but I believe you have to have an activity in place of "sex" that you and your "partner" do. It could be anything from pottery to ballroom dancing.
    As I and my raquetball partner can tell you, god yes.
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    Feb 09, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    Although I havent had a relationship, I can only say that I hope so. I admit I have mixed feelings about sex, but I don't have mixed feelings about being in love. If I got a BF and he wanted to have a romantic relationship w/o sex I would be totally supportive of that. Like GuiltyGear said, there's other things a couple can do to enjoy eachother's company other then sex.

    But I don't have a BF, and never have. I've been in love though, so maybe I half know what I'm talking about.

    Also think about it, if you can fall in love w/o having sex, then you should be able to maintain that love w/o it too right? Sure it'd be difficult, but I know of many relationships that ended shortly after the couple (gay or not) had sex the first time, and they agreed that is what ruined things. *SHRUG* Not 100% causation but worth thinking about I guess.
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    Feb 09, 2009 4:50 AM GMT
    If I came from "Little House on the Prairie".
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    Feb 09, 2009 6:54 AM GMT



    Hmmm, I think the Victorians did this, and discovered the realms of sexual frustration and suppression. Relationships can evolve towards this, but starting out and continuing one where one of you has to clench and turn his thoughts away from a physical consumation of feelings particular to a romantic relationship is unfair to both parties. The naturally celibate and/or the naturally physical shouldn't really build a relationship at the expense of the other.

    We know a few couples that have relationships that began with neither wanting sex and they're fine together! In that case, absolutely.


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    Feb 09, 2009 7:32 AM GMT
    I couldn't do it.
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    Feb 09, 2009 9:04 AM GMT
    Growingbig, I don't think anyone in a relationship with you could go without either. (That's supposed to be a compliment)
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    Feb 09, 2009 9:22 AM GMT
    Simple answer: Yes. Sex isn't everything.
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    Feb 09, 2009 8:44 PM GMT
    Nope, good sex is one aspect of a healthy relationship, at least for me.
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    Feb 09, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Depends on what constitutes sex, (yes, it's not the same thing in all circles) I'd be incredibly happy in a relationship with just hugs and kisses.
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    Feb 09, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    calibro saidI think it's possible, but very difficult. While I was in my last relationship, I developed brain cancer, which destroyed my pituitary gland. Just one of the many side effects of this was my body could no longer produce testosterone, which effectively destroyed any desire in me to have sex. My guy was generous enough to stick by me through treatment until I recovered. Eventually, we separated, but not for the sex reason. I believe he would have always been by my side if he could, with or without sex, and I would have done the same for him. Sex for me has always been an expression of love, but I can be equally fulfilled with other means of expression.


    This actually made me say "awww".
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    Feb 09, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    It is possible, but not very realistic. We are animals at heart and our desire to procreate can be extremely intense.
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    Feb 09, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    most of the time it seems like you can't have a romantic relationship WITH sex, let alone without.