mcbrion saidYou repressed your true feeling for a good part of your life. Then you met a guy who bats for the same team, and all that pent up desire is spilling onto him, and he resents it.
Have you asked how often he would want to have sex? Have you asked what's bothering him about the sexual issue?
People don't ask questions, and sometimes when they get the answers they didn't want, they become angry. So, which is it? Did you just jump into this because you found a guy to have sex with you, and turn him into a boyfriend without considering if you were right for each other (compatible values AND temperaments)? If you did, then look at yourself first, and not him. Being boyfriends involves two people on the same page. You are not on the same page. So now, you need to discuss things, and if you find you cannot come to an agreement, you do what mature people do: you say you can't be in this type of relationship with him, and you should separate. And then you DON'T do back simply because of the possibility of having sex again, or you'll create the same dynamic again.
It sounds like you have a preconceived idea of what it means to be boyfriends without the experience to know that there is more to it than simply sex, especially if the other person feels otherwise (and clearly he does). So communicate, and if you don't know how, then you have a more serious problem: finding someone who feels towards sex and companionship as you do, and that is something you should learn how to do if you don't know it. And that takes time.
I was with the same woman for 14 years. We were friends. I know you have to be friends to have a relationship. I also understand very well that just being friends isn't enough. Why do you think I got a divorce? No sex and of course being gay the sex wasn't right. I wanted to feel complete for once in my life. I wanted to be true to myself. Sexual problems were the only problem not friendship with my wife.
My boyfriend and I found each other on Grindr. We spoke for a good month before we met. The first 6 months were really a magical feeling for me. I've never felt so attracted to someone and we really had chemistry.
My wife went bananas on us both. And yes I was honest with her from the get go.
My boyfriend shut down after he quit his job. I told him I would support him going to finish his degree.
All this aside he just doesn't want me to say anything about sex at all at this point. I've told him I want it daily. I've told him I need affection and love in order to feel something for that person. He just wants me to go out and go to bars with him and that's it.
After 8 months of that I don't know what he expects. I didn't ask for a drinking buddy. I didn't ask for just a friendship. I asked for a partner and a loving companion.
My frustration is what the fuck happened that you just shut down after 6 months very abruptly and never come back and then expect that other person to pretend day in and day out without any idea or time frame for when it will end. It's bullshit sort of like the story of my life