italiano027 saidMaybe it's just me but do any of you find whether it's on here or on sites like tindr or grindr that all you ever get as a response from people is "not my type."
Like no matter who I message regardless of their stats interests or whatever, unless theyre like a desperate older guy all I'm ever told is I'm not their type and I'm turned down.
Either I'm hideous or all these guys are picky and Spoiled and want some Calvin Klein magazine model to crawl out of the woodwork lol.
There's an easy solution to this, though it's going to sound kinda prudish: Stop hitting guys up online first. That's what I had to do. Let them (or some other guy) message you first.
I usually let guys hit me up online first. However, in person I usually try to talk to them first. Why? Because Black gay men don't get approached as often in person as they would online. BUT...when I'm at a bar, I still have to wait for a guy to look at me with googly eyes first. If they don't look at me with googly eyes...I don't approach. Because that's akin to hitting someone up online.I've tested that 100 million times. I never approach a guy who doesn't look at me when they walk past because they won't be interested.
The problem with online is, unless you can see who looked at you, you have no idea if they looked at you first. So you can waste an entire lifetime messaging guys who never looked at you because they weren't interested to begin with.
It also sounds like you're blindly messaging guys "regardless of their stats, interest or whatever". Don't do that. To me you're playing a numbers game. And that will show if you're just messaging guys like, "hi." sup? hello? are you there? Some of these guys all know each other. Find someone, read their profiles, make sure it doesn't say, "only into Black guys, no whites". Because you live in Connecticut...most guys probably into Black or Puerto Rican up there. That said, you're kinda cute so I'd holla.