Do you think this was a case

  • Matthew56

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    Apr 05, 2016 7:14 AM GMT
    Of sexual racism or weirdness ?

    So last night out of the blue this White Grindr user messaged saying to me to my up in his hotel room. I didn't initiate contact he did. So I went as I approached closer to him he just deleted me. I am now thinking that could be a case of sexual racism in that he need really did have any intention of meeting up. It was jus to lure me into thinking he was in order to show that because he is white is sexually superior to me. So by leading me on as a Black person he was really just displaying his sexual racism by saying look at me as a white person I am so privileged I can have any non white person coming to me and then delete them

    Do you think I am right ?
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    Apr 05, 2016 9:23 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidOf sexual racism or weirdness ?

    So last night out of the blue this White Grindr user messaged saying to me to my up in his hotel room. I didn't initiate contact he did. So I went as I approached closer to him he just deleted me. I am now thinking that could be a case of sexual racism in that he need really did have any intention of meeting up. It was jus to lure me into thinking he was in order to show that because he is white is sexually superior to me. So by leading me on as a Black person he was really just displaying his sexual racism by saying look at me as a white person I am so privileged I can have any non white person coming to me and then delete them

    Do you think I am right ?


    No. He probably invited more than one guy and canceled you. Or his wife came home early from work.
  • phillo

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    Apr 05, 2016 10:27 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidOf sexual racism or weirdness ?

    So last night out of the blue this White Grindr user messaged saying to me to my up in his hotel room. I didn't initiate contact he did. So I went as I approached closer to him he just deleted me. I am now thinking that could be a case of sexual racism in that he need really did have any intention of meeting up. It was jus to lure me into thinking he was in order to show that because he is white is sexually superior to me. So by leading me on as a Black person he was really just displaying his sexual racism by saying look at me as a white person I am so privileged I can have any non white person coming to me and then delete them

    Do you think I am right ?


    Grindr flaking is pretty common. It could've been related to skin color or not. I wouldn't have deleted you.
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    Apr 05, 2016 12:23 PM GMT
    It's quite difficult, if not impossible, to figure out one's true intention even in the presence of observable facts. It is possible that he might have been racist. It is equally possible that he might have been a narcissist who enjoys feeling superior to other people. Also, he might have been someone with low self-esteem who's trying to bolster his fragile ego. Who knows. But why waste your energy thinking about it?
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    Apr 05, 2016 1:05 PM GMT
    Did you have a CLEAR FACE AND BODY pic visible when he messaged you?

    -If yes:
    I doubt this had anything to do with your race.

    -If no: who knows and more importantly, who cares?? You shouldn't spend another second thinking about an online profile that invited you to his room and then blocked you.


  • tj85016

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    Apr 05, 2016 1:55 PM GMT
    he probably read all your posts here and came to the conclusion you were nuts icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 05, 2016 5:34 PM GMT
    I think he just assumed you were one of those guys who threw the race card out irrelevantly and decided that he wanted someone who didn't buy into internalized racism.
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    Apr 05, 2016 6:47 PM GMT
    It was definitely race.
  • cageym

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    Apr 05, 2016 7:25 PM GMT
    I'd say you maybe ought to be grateful and move on!
  • blueandgold

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    Apr 05, 2016 10:05 PM GMT
    Are we working under the presumption that any interaction with a white person that had negative results for you is directly attributed to racism?

    If so, yes.

    I also find your thoughts about the presumed thought processes of white people pretty terrifying! I've never had a desire to show anyone something along the lines of "look at me I'm a white person, I'm so powerful"

    There are a million reasons someone can delete you on grindr, a ln a fickle application for a fickle population. He might have found someone he liked more, had second thoughts, decided he wanted a pizza instead, had a roommate come home, just got a call from his mom that made this live decision seem ill-planned, etc. Assuming the ugliest of motivations is just... Well, it's just not fair.

    My thought processes usually run the gamut of enjoying the gym, the show adventure time, bulldogs and chipotle burritos.

  • Matthew56

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    Apr 05, 2016 11:11 PM GMT
    jimib saidIt was definitely race.


    Elaborate please?
  • Triggerman

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    Apr 05, 2016 11:20 PM GMT
    You got juked. I doubt it was racism though who knows it might have been. You just learned what it is like to be a white guy sun-fri. Welcome to the group. Dudes are flakes. White, Black, Brown or Asian.
  • biathlete01

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    Apr 05, 2016 11:22 PM GMT
    He could have been a white supremacist with 2 buddies to do a little gay bashing. You are lucky he was just a ass.

    There are many ass holes out there.

    Worrying about what he did is just holding on to negative energy. Laugh and move on.
  • Allen

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    Apr 06, 2016 5:12 AM GMT
    As long as you continue to view every incident in your life through a racial lens, you're never going to be happy with yourself or in life.

    You really need to stop and get a grip -- for your own sake.
  • FRE0

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    Apr 06, 2016 6:22 AM GMT
    You will never find out for sure and there is little point in speculating. Forget him; he doesn't matter.
  • Matthew56

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    Apr 06, 2016 6:28 AM GMT
    Allen saidAs long as you continue to view every incident in your life through a racial lens, you're never going to be happy with yourself or in life.

    You really need to stop and get a grip -- for your own sake.



    I don't but let's face it given that there is a gay racial hierachy. Sadly is not a stretch to think that a white man might lead on aBlack/East Asian man and not be interested really. In order to feed into their racial superiority the Gay culture allows this
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    Apr 06, 2016 10:56 AM GMT
    You never did state where you were when this happened, but if it was in the US...OF COURSE it was about "White Superiority"... I mean, EVERY White American Male takes his turn as the Grand Wizard of his local KKK! Didn't you know that the KLAN changed their M.O. into a cyberwar with the sole exclusive intent of duping horny black men into a hookup on an app and then deleting their profile as the poor bastard is getting near...It is ALL about race baiting and white superiority... and then that poor horny black man is abandoned in a strange area when the app user deletes his profile....you are lucky that the rest of the plan never happened! Because that abandoned black man is normally confronted by a large angry mob intent on beating his ass or converting him and forcing him to have sex with women as they watch and jack-off on his back...then all of the KKK-mob get into their minivans and pick up their kids from school and go to soccer practice or birthday parties at Chuck E Cheese....you got lucky....I hope that teaches you to NOT fuck with the white man on these apps....it could have disastrous consequences for your personal safety! icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 06, 2016 11:15 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    Allen saidAs long as you continue to view every incident in your life through a racial lens, you're never going to be happy with yourself or in life.

    You really need to stop and get a grip -- for your own sake.



    I don't but let's face it given that there is a gay racial hierachy. Sadly is not a stretch to think that a white man might lead on aBlack/East Asian man and not be interested really. In order to feed into their racial superiority the Gay culture allows this


    I have to say you sound paranoid. Being a minority even if you were str8 you have a smaller pool of people to pull from. Now add in the gay factor and you've got an even smaller pool of people to pull from.
    Does racism exist? Of course it does but not everyone is out to get you.
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 06, 2016 12:15 PM GMT
    I am a black man in an relationship with an awesome person, who happens to be white. We both think you're a retard for wasting your time on this.
  • Matthew56

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    Apr 06, 2016 5:17 PM GMT
    zoltar said
    Matthew56 said
    Allen saidAs long as you continue to view every incident in your life through a racial lens, you're never going to be happy with yourself or in life.

    You really need to stop and get a grip -- for your own sake.



    I don't but let's face it given that there is a gay racial hierachy. Sadly is not a stretch to think that a white man might lead on aBlack/East Asian man and not be interested really. In order to feed into their racial superiority the Gay culture allows this


    I have to say you sound paranoid. Being a minority even if you were str8 you have a smaller pool of people to pull from. Now add in the gay factor and you've got an even smaller pool of people to pull from.
    Does racism exist? Of course it does but not everyone is out to get you.


    I know it may sound a bit nuts but when you take a deep think it's not so at fetched for white man to lead a black/East Asian men to boots their own racial ego and also because white men are very aware of their high status in the gay world
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    Apr 07, 2016 2:17 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    jimib saidIt was definitely race.


    Elaborate please?


    It's always race. There's nothing but race. Race. Race. Race.
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    Apr 07, 2016 2:18 AM GMT
    You want it to be about race

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    Apr 07, 2016 2:38 AM GMT
    tj85016 saidhe probably read all your posts here and came to the conclusion you were nuts icon_lol.gif



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    Apr 08, 2016 11:58 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidOf sexual racism or weirdness ?

    So last night out of the blue this White Grindr user messaged saying to me to my up in his hotel room. I didn't initiate contact he did. So I went as I approached closer to him he just deleted me. I am now thinking that could be a case of sexual racism in that he need really did have any intention of meeting up. It was jus to lure me into thinking he was in order to show that because he is white is sexually superior to me. So by leading me on as a Black person he was really just displaying his sexual racism by saying look at me as a white person I am so privileged I can have any non white person coming to me and then delete them

    Do you think I am right ?


    No. I don't understand WHY you think this was race-involved. Did you only show him pics of yourself or reveal your race AFTER you guys agreed to meet? If so, possibly? If not, why would have suddenly changed his mind about you because of your race.

    He probably just chickened out, or found someone else he was more attracted to, or was just catfishing to begin with, or any other multitudes of reasons guys on grindr have a tendency to not follow through.
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    Apr 09, 2016 1:24 AM GMT
    I think the OP could benefit from sessions with a therapist. (I have had that impression for years.)