which one is the woman

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 06, 2016 12:40 PM GMT
    I've been asked this like so many times! " which one is the woman?"

    Why do a lot of straight People "specially girls" think they can just come up with such effed up questions to ask you and your partner which one is the guy and which one is the girl? meaning who's drilling whose's ass and getting filled up?Gosh shut up already!so annoying.
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    Apr 06, 2016 1:27 PM GMT
    not a fair question to ask your girl friends but how many gay friends do they have. Accept your the 2-5% of the population and expect performance only from experienced citizens.
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    Apr 06, 2016 2:26 PM GMT
    Reminds me of what that loud-mouthed bitchy judge on TV used to say, "beauty fades, stupid is forever." When the Armageddon hits, the stupid people will survive like the cockroaches because there's simply too many of them.
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    Apr 06, 2016 3:32 PM GMT
    It's not always a matter of referring to sexual acts. There ARE a lot of gay couples that do the husband/wife thing. Why do so many gay and lesbian people ignore this when we all see and have seen plenty of it in this community? If we see it a lot, straight people see it a lot too.

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    Apr 06, 2016 4:07 PM GMT
    No one ever ask me that question icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 06, 2016 4:16 PM GMT
    Well if so many gays weren't exclusively bottom or top... technically speaking, all men are tops and all women are bottoms in heterosexual relationships.
  • nice_chap

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    Apr 06, 2016 4:44 PM GMT
    I've never been asked it before either. icon_confused.gif

    But if I do get asked when I'm in a relationship I'll say "we're both men, dipshit."
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    Apr 06, 2016 7:32 PM GMT
    I had one person ask me that…. I told them be are BOTH MEN… DO the fucking math, and then try minding your own damn fucking business… icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 07, 2016 12:00 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidIt's not always a matter of referring to sexual acts. There ARE a lot of gay couples that do the husband/wife thing. Why do so many gay and lesbian people ignore this when we all see and have seen plenty of it in this community? If we see it a lot, straight people see it a lot too.

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    EXACTLY. It's not as if our gay brothers and sisters do not perpetuate the stereotype.

    However, it is a rude question that deserves a cold stare and rapier sharp retort.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 07, 2016 12:05 AM GMT
    I like confusing the straight people who don't know me well. A new neighbor was visiting and found out we were gay. She commented on out deck and when I said I built it, she was like "ohh...". The got really confused looking when I added that I also sewed up the cushions on the bench.
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    Apr 07, 2016 6:59 AM GMT
    It's a rude question. I've only been asked once and it was my cousin. Ugh. I think it's curiousity on str8 people's part. Before I decided I was gay and got my feet wet I thought all gay men sucked, fucked, got fucked, just did it all. I was bummed out when realized not everyone is like that. Just makes life even more difficult. It isn't completely str8 forward is all I'm saying till you live it.
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    Apr 07, 2016 3:41 PM GMT
    Timbales saidI like confusing the straight people who don't know me well. A new neighbor was visiting and found out we were gay. She commented on out deck and when I said I built it, she was like "ohh...". The got really confused looking when I added that I also sewed up the cushions on the bench.



    Hahaha. That's the thing....a lot of straight men just refuse to do anything that might be considered "woman's work", even though they might secretly have the desire to do it. I do have a couple of straight friends who wouldn't hesitate to sew something at all.
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    Apr 07, 2016 4:04 PM GMT
    It comes from ignorance so if someone asks then they probably don't mean it to be offensive.

    Just tell them it's like asking a pair of chopsticks which is the fork and leave it at that!
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    Apr 07, 2016 4:50 PM GMT
    BP201 saidWell if so many gays weren't exclusively bottom or top... technically speaking, all men are tops and all women are bottoms in heterosexual relationships.


    You need to expand your porn viewing habits my friend. Google "pegging" for starters. Also, if a straight guy wants a woman to fist him then he's a fisting bottom.

    Besides, there is nothing inherently feminine about taking a dick in your ass.
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    Apr 07, 2016 5:29 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi said
    Besides, there is nothing inherently feminine about taking a dick in your ass.


    I love that. Agree. Ever thought putting that on a T-shirt?

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    Apr 07, 2016 8:12 PM GMT
    PulseFit saidIt comes from ignorance so if someone asks then they probably don't mean it to be offensive.

    Just tell them it's like asking a pair of chopsticks which is the fork and leave it at that!

    It's not just ignorance - it is terribly rude. They are asking in a poorly disguised manner, what they do in bed. Would not these stupid straight women be offended if you asked them if their husband eats their pussy, or if they use a dildo on their husbad?

  • Apparition

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    Apr 07, 2016 10:33 PM GMT
    I usually say, I am the one who gets bitched at for not cleaning...so my partner obviously
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 08, 2016 10:45 AM GMT
    It's their stupid preconceived notion of the gender-role in society.Usually the question is asked in a hushed tone like the person knew what they were asking was offensive, but somehow couldn’t not ask.

    The conversation usually goes something like this:

    Which one is the girl?

    Um…Neither. You get we are both guys, right?

    Yeah, but which one is the girl?

    Sigh! forget it!icon_neutral.gif

    perhaps straight people could learn something about equality in relationships from gays and lesbians who don’t have those crazy gender norms hanging over them.
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 08, 2016 11:03 AM GMT
    Apparition saidI usually say, I am the one who gets bitched at for not cleaning...so my partner obviously


    Same with me and my partner, we do everything together, from cooking dinner, to doing the laundry, to loading the dishwasher. And so can to washing the cars, cutting the lawn, paying for food, and replacing the garbage disposal. we also shower together. lol