Why can't I find a muscular guy in my area that likes a twink-looking guy like myself but wants to become a muscular guy like them? I thought some muscular guys liked guys like me?


  • Apr 08, 2016 1:05 AM GMT
    Any advice is welcome.
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    Apr 08, 2016 3:05 AM GMT
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  • mitshoo

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    Apr 08, 2016 3:16 PM GMT
    You're hardly "twink-looking".
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 08, 2016 4:11 PM GMT
    Are you aware that all your pics are sideways? Fix that. My guess is you've fetishized the look of the guys you want and no one wants to be someone else's fetish. At least not for more than an occasional night. Why not find a guy who's fit, you like a lot in other, more important ways, and the two of you work to build yourselves up together?
  • Ariodante83

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    Apr 08, 2016 5:30 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said Why not find a guy who's fit, you like a lot in other, more important ways, and the two of you work to build yourselves up together?


    Sensible advice that leads to meaningful and lasting connection beyond short-sighted and sophomoric superficiality?? WHAT KIND OF BULLSHIT IS THIS
  • Tonnere

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    Apr 08, 2016 5:39 PM GMT
    Ariodante83 said
    Destinharbor said Why not find a guy who's fit, you like a lot in other, more important ways, and the two of you work to build yourselves up together?


    Sensible advice that leads to meaningful and lasting connection beyond short-sighted and sophomoric superficiality?? WHAT KIND OF BULLSHIT IS THIS


    This isn't good advice.

    This is...

    Advanced good advice.
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    Apr 08, 2016 5:58 PM GMT
    in other words... "I desire a guy out of a shallow desire, like wanting muscles, and I am offended that muscled guys do not like me in return out of an equally shallow desire, like wanting muscles in a partner". Most guys want a guy who can get muscled on his own, unless he is a personal trainer and you're willing to pay him.
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    Apr 08, 2016 7:23 PM GMT
    mitshoo saidYou're hardly "twink-looking".


    Shush! He was, 30 years ago.
  • leanandclean

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    Apr 08, 2016 8:27 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidAre you aware that all your pics are sideways? Fix that.


    I see lots of guys with the sideways pics and have wondered about it.
  • Silverlakr

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    Apr 08, 2016 10:02 PM GMT
    this sideways business is a pain in the neck for me. can't really see what you've got.
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    Apr 08, 2016 10:13 PM GMT
    leanandclean said
    Destinharbor saidAre you aware that all your pics are sideways? Fix that.
    I see lots of guys with the sideways pics and have wondered about it.

    They're disoriented.
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    Apr 08, 2016 11:40 PM GMT
    Coolmusclelover saidAny advice is welcome.


    SOME muscular guys do like twinks, but those are few and far between. I remember back when I was a twink I was pretty much only attracted to very muscular guys and only lucked out twice with that.

    The simple truth is that while SOME muscular guys are into twinks, MOST are not.

    1) Like attracts like.
    2) Only other muscular guys can understand each other when it comes to things like weighing gym and nutrition over things like bars and restaurant food.
    3) Guys who strive to achieve a very muscular physique typically developed an attraction to this particular type of physique during puberty and it's hardwired. They become muscular because that's what they admired in others during their sexual awakening.

    Etc.

    tl;dr Yes, you might luck out and find a muscular guy who is attracted to twinks, but it's less likely than if you were already muscular yourself, so you can solve this by becoming what you want.
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    Apr 09, 2016 4:46 AM GMT
    Coolmusclelover saidAny advice is welcome.


    Maybe knowing what you really are, or are not may help you? If not then good luck finding what you're looking for (Twink is a gay slang term used to refer to a young (18 to early 20s) homosexual man with certain outward characteristics, such as an effeminate manner, a thin build, no body or facial hair, which all contribute to a youthful look. The term has origins of usage in the 1970s.)
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 09, 2016 10:19 AM GMT
    jackedgamer said
    Coolmusclelover saidAny advice is welcome.


    SOME muscular guys do like twinks, but those are few and far between. I remember back when I was a twink I was pretty much only attracted to very muscular guys and only lucked out twice with that.

    The simple truth is that while SOME muscular guys are into twinks, MOST are not.

    1) Like attracts like.
    2) Only other muscular guys can understand each other when it comes to things like weighing gym and nutrition over things like bars and restaurant food.
    3) Guys who strive to achieve a very muscular physique typically developed an attraction to this particular type of physique during puberty and it's hardwired. They become muscular because that's what they admired in others during their sexual awakening.

    Etc.

    tl;dr Yes, you might luck out and find a muscular guy who is attracted to twinks, but it's less likely than if you were already muscular yourself, so you can solve this by becoming what you want.


    That's all fine and good but wouldn't it be bad if the guy himself didn't want to be as big/muscular/etc as the guys he liked? I just feel going that route when one doesn't want to look like that not very good. And you could still be in shape despite not looking as big and defined but eh... That's jut me.

    But what you said is true. Most, if not all Muscular guys only like other Muscular guys for the aforementioned reason so in the grand scheme of things, it's kinda pointless to pursue a muscular guy if you aren't one yourself.
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    Apr 09, 2016 7:36 PM GMT
    jackedgamer said.3) Guys who strive to achieve a very muscular physique typically developed an attraction to this particular type of physique during puberty and it's hardwired. They become muscular because that's what they admired in others during their sexual awakening.


    so you can solve this by becoming what you want.


    Okay as far as #3, i kinda disagree. That's too referential to gays, also assuming that is the only reason someone wants a nice physique. If that's the case, i better lure every straight man i like at the gym into the bathroom. Because assuming they are sexually attracted to other men with nice bodies.

    I critique the last sentence also. Being muscular may NOT get what you want. You might end up attracting females and twink bottoms only. I used to actually attract more muscular tops when i was 165 lbs than i do at 200 lbs. Now, i mostly get average shapes versatile/bottom types.

    Lastly, i actually don't even look for muscular guys like that anymore. Not saying I'd completely blow one off...but over time I've realized gay guys with the hot bodies are some of the most immature, superficial, stuck up, overly sexual types you can meet. No offense to any of us on real jock. Especially the white guys but doesn't matter who.

    I've dated and be friended a handful. One was in his 40s and really hot, but he was also a druggie, very very very sexual, and always wore tank tops and no shirt everywhere. The younger guys are the same way. They work on their body all week but trash it on the weekends.

    That's the other thing. Muscular gay guys don't like to dress. I get tired of all that. There's plenty of guys out there who aren't muscular, Or who could use a gym once in awhile, but they may have a nice body anyway. They might have a juicy ass, flat abs, fucking big ass dick, etc.

    My advice, dont limit yourself just to the muscular guys. Find someone who atleast has a gym membership or would use one. And let you be their motivstion. There's nothing wrong with a guy wanting to be in tip top shape. But just know he's gonna expect the same from you, and he may be so fucking into his ass, that he might not want to fuck with your ass
  • Ariodante83

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    Apr 09, 2016 11:35 PM GMT
    Gscepi917 said
    Coolmusclelover saidAny advice is welcome.


    Maybe knowing what you really are, or are not may help you? If not then good luck finding what you're looking for (Twink is a gay slang term used to refer to a young (18 to early 20s) homosexual man with certain outward characteristics, such as an effeminate manner, a thin build, no body or facial hair, which all contribute to a youthful look. The term has origins of usage in the 1970s.)


    Oh you can definitely be an old twink too.
  • Saffron69

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    Apr 10, 2016 3:54 AM GMT
    I have the same problem with Bears they only seem to like other Bears... go figure huh
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    Apr 10, 2016 4:41 AM GMT
    Ariodante83 said
    Gscepi917 said
    Coolmusclelover saidAny advice is welcome.


    Maybe knowing what you really are, or are not may help you? If not then good luck finding what you're looking for (Twink is a gay slang term used to refer to a young (18 to early 20s) homosexual man with certain outward characteristics, such as an effeminate manner, a thin build, no body or facial hair, which all contribute to a youthful look. The term has origins of usage in the 1970s.)


    Oh you can definitely be an old twink too.


    Haha really? I mean yeah, you're right I'm sure. I guess because they're not generally my type of guy that I just don't pay them much attention. To each their own, cheers
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 10, 2016 4:48 AM GMT
    Saffron69 saidI have the same problem with Bears they only seem to like other Bears... go figure huh


    It seems like it's always like that with different types/groups of people from what I've noticed. If someone likes bears, they find that the bears only want other bears and vice versa and so on ranging from all the little niche groups of gaydom lol.

    It's times like this where someone should come up with one supersized Gay dating website that embraces all types and tries to match you up with what you're looking for lol.

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    Apr 10, 2016 8:32 AM GMT
    Coolmusclelover saidWhy can't I find a muscular guy in my area that likes a twink-looking guy like myself but wants to become a muscular guy like them? I thought some muscular guys liked guys like me? Any advice is welcome.

    If a muscular guy likes twinks. What do you think is going to happen when your twink body gets muscular? He's gonna dump you.

    If the muscular guys in your area only like other muscular guys, then you're gonna have to get to work in the gym.
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    Apr 11, 2016 10:17 PM GMT
    BloodFlame said

    That's all fine and good but wouldn't it be bad if the guy himself didn't want to be as big/muscular/etc as the guys he liked? I just feel going that route when one doesn't want to look like that not very good. And you could still be in shape despite not looking as big and defined but eh... That's jut me.

    Sure, but why should the bigger muscular guy settle for a smaller "athletic" guy if that's not his physical type? It will just be easier for the smaller guy to get his type (muscular) if he is also muscular, that's my point.

    FuzzyPecs28 said
    jackedgamer said.3) Guys who strive to achieve a very muscular physique typically developed an attraction to this particular type of physique during puberty and it's hardwired. They become muscular because that's what they admired in others during their sexual awakening.


    so you can solve this by becoming what you want.


    Okay as far as #3, i kinda disagree. That's too referential to gays, also assuming that is the only reason someone wants a nice physique. If that's the case, i better lure every straight man i like at the gym into the bathroom. Because assuming they are sexually attracted to other men with nice bodies.

    I obviously meant GAY men, since that's the topic at hand. However, off topic, I would argue that the straight guys with very muscular builds, from my experience, tend to be the more "heteroflexible" ones, probably for the same reason I pointed out about muscular gay guys.

    FuzzyPecs28 saidbut over time I've realized gay guys with the hot bodies are some of the most immature, superficial, stuck up, overly sexual types you can meet.

    That's a sweeping generalization. Sure, I've met some very immature muscular guys, but I've almost met some VERY immature twinks. The body type has nothing to do with it. That being said, I can respect the discipline and hard work that goes into a very muscular body a hell of a lot more than not.
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 12, 2016 8:58 PM GMT
    JackedGamer said Sure, but why should the bigger muscular guy settle for a smaller "athletic" guy if that's not his physical type? It will just be easier for the smaller guy to get his type (muscular) if he is also muscular, that's my point.


    Well while it's inherently true that most muscular men only want other muscular men their size or bigger, I'm sure there are a few who wouldn't mind someone smaller than they are?

    And besides, speaking for myself, I'm not going to make myself get a big body I don't want. Yeah, it sucks to be turned down by 99% of these guys but I feel in the long run, I'd rather have a build I'm happy with than one I'm not.
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    Apr 13, 2016 2:55 AM GMT
    jackedgamer said
    That's a sweeping generalization. Sure, I've met some very immature muscular guys, but I've almost met some VERY immature twinks. The body type has nothing to do with it. That being said, I can respect the discipline and hard work that goes into a very muscular body a hell of a lot more than not.


    Yeah, I don't mean to be too harsh. It's just my observations though. But that can go on with anyone like you say. But...in the gay scene many of these muscle guys are overcompensating for something. Then again, it could just be the muscular guys who hang out at bars. So can't really judge everyone
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 13, 2016 6:17 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs28 said
    jackedgamer said
    That's a sweeping generalization. Sure, I've met some very immature muscular guys, but I've almost met some VERY immature twinks. The body type has nothing to do with it. That being said, I can respect the discipline and hard work that goes into a very muscular body a hell of a lot more than not.


    Yeah, I don't mean to be too harsh. It's just my observations though. But that can go on with anyone like you say. But...in the gay scene many of these muscle guys are overcompensating for something. Then again, it could just be the muscular guys who hang out at bars. So can't really judge everyone


    I think you're bound to see more rude, egocentric people in a club/bar than in a normal setting.