UndercoverMan saidNothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.
Totally this ^^
Nothing wrong with having the attraction. It's perfectly normal for older gay men to be sexually attracted to younger men, just like it's perfectly normal for older straight men to be attracted to younger women. But keep in mind it's also perfectly normal for that attraction to NOT be mutual. It's just unrealistic and even silly to expect younger gay men to be attracted to older men. But there can be on occasion some exceptions.
OP, be honest. Were you attracted to guys in their 40s and 50s when you were in your 20s? No? Were you being ageist? What did YOU think when a 40-something or 50-something gay man hit on you?
Granted, unlike some of the other older posters here who have complained about younger guys being ageist simply because they did not respond to their advances, you're only complaining about other older men dissing you for being honest about you preferring younger guys. And it's a valid question. I'm not sure why they do that either.
- Maybe it bothers them to see someone explicitly going after who they also want to go after but don't have the balls to do so.
- Maybe they were hit on by so many creepy older guys when they were younger, and your profile is bringing back bad memories for them.
- Maybe it comes from the frustration they feel when they pursue guys their own age only to see them going after 20-somethings.
- Maybe they're your ex-boyfriends giving you shit.