What's wrong with liking younger men?

  • myrosebud

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    Apr 09, 2016 12:49 AM GMT
    I've been getting more and more messages from older forumers basically telling me that I'm self-loathing for liking younger men. What's wrong with some of the men here? Why are they questioning my preferences? They must be getting this from reading just one line in my profile. I'm into legal-aged men, just to be clear. How is this any different from hair or racial preferences?
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    Apr 09, 2016 1:23 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with your preference. After all, the beauty of youth has been praised for a couple thousand years. - There are always a few younger guys that are attracted to older. However, by posting this, you might have opened yourself to a lot of abusive responses by various fucktards on here (their names no longer come readily to mind - I have had them all on ignore for a long time.) They tend to be millennials. Search for other threads about older guys, and you may get to read some of them.
  • Ariodante83

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    Apr 09, 2016 2:01 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidNothing wrong with your preference. After all, the beauty of youth has been praised for a couple thousand years.


    Preeetttty sure the appeal of youth in any life form has been biologically elevated since the existence of life itself.
  • bifocaled

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    Apr 09, 2016 2:32 AM GMT
    Just physically-speaking, EVERYONE wants younger men. However, anyone looking for an actual relationship rather than some "arrangement" would be looking for compatibility on many more levels, and simply being "legal" age tends to be nowhere near that. Yeah I'm so glad you set your lower limit at 18, because 17 would be so much worse... not.
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    Apr 09, 2016 2:46 AM GMT
    Nothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.
  • nice_chap

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    Apr 09, 2016 1:39 PM GMT
    I think some people feel a bit of jealousy towards younger men.

    I'll admit that in the past there have been times when I've admired older men, and then been really put off after finding out that they had boyfriends who were younger than me.
    If the man had been in a relationship with someone closer to his own age, it wouldn't have bothered me. Seeing him with a younger man made me think "shit, where did I go wrong?! If I had tried a bit harder a few years back, I could be with a bloke like that!"

    That feeling was my own insecurity and self-loathing, but I think it could be a possible cause for why some people make decisions about what sort of age gaps they think are acceptable for others.
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    Apr 09, 2016 2:21 PM GMT
    myrosebud said.... How is this any different from hair or racial preferences?


    Because generally a person will retain their hair color throughout most of their lives and people will remain white, Asian, or black regardless of their age. However, people grow older with each passing year. If you only like guys in their twenties what are you going to do when he turns thirty? Sounds like a recipe for never being content. Will you be like the straight guy who dumps his wife or girlfriend just because a new model year hits the showroom floor?

    Seems shallow to pick a guy just because he fits some narrow height, weight, hair color, eye color, skin melanin, or age restriction.
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    Apr 09, 2016 2:31 PM GMT
    nice_chap saidI think some people feel a bit of jealousy towards younger men.

    I'll admit that in the past there have been times when I've admired older men, and then been really put off after finding out that they had boyfriends who were younger than me.
    If the man had been in a relationship with someone closer to his own age, it wouldn't have bothered me. Seeing him with a younger man made me think "shit, where did I go wrong?! If I had tried a bit harder a few years back, I could be with a bloke like that!"

    That feeling was my own insecurity and self-loathing, but I think it could be a possible cause for why some people make decisions about what sort of age gaps they think are acceptable for others.



    what a load of bullcrap, when age gap is like 20 years or older, and the guy is like 18 or early twenties, it reeks pedophilia, plain and simple, another factor is life experience and taking advantage.

    anyway you have a perfect chance to be with someone 20 years older or more than that and be so proud of yourself icon_rolleyes.gif
  • monstapex

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    Apr 09, 2016 2:32 PM GMT
    one4u2c saidPlease see My "Older Men" thread and you will find your answer.

    The thought of some dinosaur with wrinkled hands and a crypt keeper face touching me is scary and ummm just YUCK!


    With your reptilian looks your should be glad an old dinosaur would want to touch youicon_lol.gif
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    Apr 09, 2016 6:27 PM GMT
    I think licking younger men is fine - especially if they are tasty.
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    Apr 09, 2016 6:56 PM GMT
    you have to consider the whole person but generally date someone your own age. LTR maintenance is an artful thing and why make your life more difficult For example:
    -all good till they want to go for a hike in the mountains or do the things they were doing before they met you.
    -its one thing to be able to tell the younger partner from experience what to do as opposed to them actually doing it and find out if its to their liking.

    UndercoverMan said...Seems shallow to pick a guy just because he fits some narrow height, weight, hair color, eye color, skin melanin, or age restriction.
    +1
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 09, 2016 11:42 PM GMT
    one4u2c saidPlease see My "Older Men" thread and you will find your answer.

    The thought of some dinosaur with wrinkled hands and a crypt keeper face touching me is scary and ummm just YUCK!
    This is why many guys on here dislike you. You're an ignorant, ageist prick. icon_mad.gif
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Apr 09, 2016 11:55 PM GMT
    myrosebud saidI've been getting more and more messages from older forumers basically telling me that I'm self-loathing for liking younger men. What's wrong with some of the men here? Why are they questioning my preferences? They must be getting this from reading just one line in my profile. I'm into legal-aged men, just to be clear. How is this any different from hair or racial preferences?


    There is nothing wrong with it. I will never understand why both some older and some younger guys feel that have to criticize others for their preferences. If you are not into older/younger, that's fine. That is your preference. But you don't speak for others who may have different viewpoints. This is a big, wide world. To each his own.
  • Allen

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    Apr 10, 2016 2:06 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidNothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.


    Totally this ^^

    Nothing wrong with having the attraction. It's perfectly normal for older gay men to be sexually attracted to younger men, just like it's perfectly normal for older straight men to be attracted to younger women. But keep in mind it's also perfectly normal for that attraction to NOT be mutual. It's just unrealistic and even silly to expect younger gay men to be attracted to older men. But there can be on occasion some exceptions.

    OP, be honest. Were you attracted to guys in their 40s and 50s when you were in your 20s? No? Were you being ageist? What did YOU think when a 40-something or 50-something gay man hit on you?

    Granted, unlike some of the other older posters here who have complained about younger guys being ageist simply because they did not respond to their advances, you're only complaining about other older men dissing you for being honest about you preferring younger guys. And it's a valid question. I'm not sure why they do that either.

    - Maybe it bothers them to see someone explicitly going after who they also want to go after but don't have the balls to do so.

    - Maybe they were hit on by so many creepy older guys when they were younger, and your profile is bringing back bad memories for them.

    - Maybe it comes from the frustration they feel when they pursue guys their own age only to see them going after 20-somethings.

    - Maybe they're your ex-boyfriends giving you shit.
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    Apr 10, 2016 2:14 AM GMT
    There is nothing wrong at all with liking younger guys.

    Anyone who tells you otherwise needs to get a life.
  • Allen

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    Apr 10, 2016 2:14 AM GMT
    one4u2c saidPlease see My "Older Men" thread and you will find your answer.

    The thought of some dinosaur with wrinkled hands and a crypt keeper face touching me is scary and ummm just YUCK!


    I think you have created a fantasy land in which you find enormous comfort. And in your fantasy land, you're smart, beautiful, sexy, and everyone wants you. But I hate to break it to you, cupcake. The fantasy land for which you have created is just NOT reality.

    In the real world, I really can't imagine anyone, regardless of age, wanting to talk to you let alone touch you -- unless you were paying them a lot of cash.

  • joeisawesome1

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    Apr 10, 2016 2:15 AM GMT
    myrosebud saidI've been getting more and more messages from older forumers basically telling me that I'm self-loathing for liking younger men. What's wrong with some of the men here? Why are they questioning my preferences? They must be getting this from reading just one line in my profile. I'm into legal-aged men, just to be clear. How is this any different from hair or racial preferences?


    there's NOTHING wrong with likeing a younger guy icon_biggrin.gif

    the reason why you're getting criticized for it?
    i looked at ur profile and you look handsome in that one picture of yourself. maybe the guys messaging you are mad because they want you but they're too old and you only like younger...
    OR they're mad because they also like younger guys, but they know you might have more luck with them instead because your better looking.

    just my thought icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 10, 2016 1:32 PM GMT
    Allen said
    UndercoverMan saidNothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.


    Totally this ^^

    It's perfectly normal for older gay men to be sexually attracted to younger men. But keep in mind it's also perfectly normal for that attraction to NOT be mutual. It's just unrealistic and even silly to expect younger gay men to be attracted to older men.

    OP, be honest. Were you attracted to guys in their 40s and 50s when you were in your 20s? No? Were you being ageist? What did YOU think when a 40-something or 50-something gay man hit on you?


    This.

    These threads provoke a sort of gag reflex because they remind me of how I felt in my 20s whenever I was hit on by someone old enough to be my father.

  • ChicagoSteve

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    Apr 10, 2016 9:16 PM GMT
    one4u2c saidPlease see My "Older Men" thread and you will find your answer.

    The thought of some dinosaur with wrinkled hands and a crypt keeper face touching me is scary and ummm just YUCK!


    Your immaturity really shows in your posts. You are not able to even be diplomatic in your responses. Your whole objective is to be very caustic and bitter, and provide shock value. So many of us older guys keep ourselves in great shape, and are really intelligent and articulate, and have a lot of very great qualities that you could appreciate. So, even with all that, if you had a 40 something, 50 something or even 60 something guy that was in great shape, that was attractive and fit, you would still say YUCK? Check out my posting in Arts & Entertainment about actor Wentworth Miller(below). He's 44, and I guarantee if he knocked on your door, you would not be saying no.

  • monstapex

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    Apr 10, 2016 9:55 PM GMT
    one4u2c said
    monstapex said
    one4u2c saidPlease see My "Older Men" thread and you will find your answer.

    The thought of some dinosaur with wrinkled hands and a crypt keeper face touching me is scary and ummm just YUCK!


    With your reptilian looks your should be glad an old dinosaur would want to touch youicon_lol.gif


    Says the old big titty whore too ugly to even show your face. Continue to hide that mug. I predict extinction in your near future.

    You could never have this.


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  • joeisawesome1

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    Apr 11, 2016 12:35 AM GMT
    MapleSyrup saidThere is nothing wrong at all with liking younger guys.

    Anyone who tells you otherwise needs to get a life.


    agree 100%
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 11, 2016 12:58 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    Allen said
    UndercoverMan saidNothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.


    Totally this ^^

    It's perfectly normal for older gay men to be sexually attracted to younger men. But keep in mind it's also perfectly normal for that attraction to NOT be mutual. It's just unrealistic and even silly to expect younger gay men to be attracted to older men.

    OP, be honest. Were you attracted to guys in their 40s and 50s when you were in your 20s? No? Were you being ageist? What did YOU think when a 40-something or 50-something gay man hit on you?


    This.

    These threads provoke a sort of gag reflex because they remind me of how I felt in my 20s whenever I was hit on by someone old enough to be my father.

    Yeah but back than guys in their 40s and 50s were not as in great of physical shape and they had the backward puritanical mindset for the most part. That is why we rejected them. The 40 somethings and 50 somethings and even the 60 somethings of today are vastly different than their peers 30+ years ago.
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    Apr 11, 2016 8:58 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    TexDef07 said
    Allen said
    UndercoverMan saidNothing until you start looking ridiculous chasing after them.


    Totally this ^^

    It's perfectly normal for older gay men to be sexually attracted to younger men. But keep in mind it's also perfectly normal for that attraction to NOT be mutual. It's just unrealistic and even silly to expect younger gay men to be attracted to older men.

    OP, be honest. Were you attracted to guys in their 40s and 50s when you were in your 20s? No? Were you being ageist? What did YOU think when a 40-something or 50-something gay man hit on you?


    This.

    These threads provoke a sort of gag reflex because they remind me of how I felt in my 20s whenever I was hit on by someone old enough to be my father.

    Yeah but back than guys in their 40s and 50s were not as in great of physical shape and they had the backward puritanical mindset for the most part. That is why we rejected them. The 40 somethings and 50 somethings and even the 60 somethings of today are vastly different than their peers 30+ years ago.


    What I meant was when the older guy starts trying too hard. It's obvious and sad when you see it.

    I don't have a problem with older/younger relationships. I'd be a hypocrite, as my husband is considerably younger than I.
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    Apr 11, 2016 9:49 PM GMT
    myrosebud saidI'm into legal-aged men, just to be clear. How is this any different from hair or racial preferences?

    While it's true that maturity and age don't HAVE to correlate, I know from my own personal experience that when I've dated guys significantly younger than myself (more than a decade) there is just some life events and experiences that I've gone through that the younger guy has not, and I can't relate to them anymore than they can relate to me.

    Sure, there are plenty of guys in their 30s and 40s and upwards that behave like immature teens, but the likelihood of a guy in his 20s behaving that way is even greater, I've found.

    That being said, I've dated plenty of guys in their 20s who were much more mature than some of those immature 30 year olds.

    That and it's always looked a bit silly to an outsider, and like the other guy is chasing the younger person to try to relive or recapture their youth rather than accepting their age.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    Apr 12, 2016 12:00 AM GMT
    bifocaled saidJust physically-speaking, EVERYONE wants younger men. However, anyone looking for an actual relationship rather than some "arrangement" would be looking for compatibility on many more levels, and simply being "legal" age tends to be nowhere near that. Yeah I'm so glad you set your lower limit at 18, because 17 would be so much worse... not.


    Haha yeah. Men who know their rape laws a bit too well and need to invoke them to justify themselves tend to be total creeps