When no one shows up to your birthday party

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    Apr 10, 2016 6:12 AM GMT

    If I remember, I think this happened to me at least once. 21 other kids invited and not one showed up or their parents? I suppose the kid was not popular enough, if I went through this in the early 70's and its still being done today, generations haven't learned a dam thing. With all todays technology, phone, email, social media, you would think RSVP would be simple icon_confused.gif

    Can someone explain why this still happens to some kids?

    https://gma.yahoo.com/video/strangers-send-boy-cards-no-202926884.html

    Boy gets big surprise after no one came to his birthday party
    http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2016/04/09/troopers-surprise-10-year-old/82830812/


    Toxey turned 10-years-old over the weekend. He sent out invitations to his whole class for his birthday party. Sadly, no one showed up but what happened two days later is something he will never forget.

    He didn't know what to expect when he opened his front door and was greeted by a line of state troopers.

    “Scared and at the same time trying to figure out why they were here,” Toxey said.

    They all came to celebrate with him after his mom sent out 21 invitations to his class but no one attended the party.
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    Apr 10, 2016 8:04 AM GMT
    Maybe this kid is the class jerk and everyone hates him? icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 10, 2016 8:12 AM GMT
    xrichx saidMaybe this kid is the class jerk and everyone hates him? icon_lol.gif



    Well in my day, I was not the class jerk, I was just not one of the very popular kids, I was teased and made fun of icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 10, 2016 8:40 AM GMT
    ELNathB said
    xrichx saidMaybe this kid is the class jerk and everyone hates him? icon_lol.gif



    Well in my day, I was not the class jerk, I was just not one of the very popular kids, I was teased and made fun of icon_confused.gif

    It's ok. All those kids are now married, fat, and have shitty children of their own. icon_biggrin.gif
  • kew1

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    Apr 10, 2016 11:42 AM GMT
    Friends at uni threw me a surprise birthday party but forgot to invite me.
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Apr 10, 2016 12:16 PM GMT
    I EAT ALL THE CAKE!!!
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    Apr 10, 2016 12:26 PM GMT
    xrichx said
    ELNathB said
    xrichx saidMaybe this kid is the class jerk and everyone hates him? icon_lol.gif



    Well in my day, I was not the class jerk, I was just not one of the very popular kids, I was teased and made fun of icon_confused.gif

    It's ok. All those kids are now married, fat, and have shitty children of their own. icon_biggrin.gif



    I was just thinking the same thing!

    When that kind of stuff happens to you as a kid it sticks with you. He'll probably go to his 30 year reunion incredibly successful while the others are dealing with awful children and horrible marriages. Payback can be a bitch sometimes.
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    Apr 10, 2016 3:00 PM GMT
    My immediate and extended families were so huge such that we never had a problem with attendance at birthday parties. Often the overflow was overwhelming--perhaps that's the reason I grew up hating birthday celebrations.
  • Fireworkz

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    Apr 10, 2016 6:19 PM GMT
    This happened to me tor my 16th. I invited my whole class and just my 5 friends came. I had rented tbe community centre. It was mortifying.
    The memory surfaces when it comes to having birthday celebrations. I have to overcome the fear of embarrassment and no shows each time.
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    Apr 10, 2016 7:02 PM GMT
    I always felt awkward at my childhood birthday parties. Or any kind of party or function that's all about ME. I was very shy in those days, hated attention. And while I've overcome my shyness is most other social situations, I hate being the center of attention to this day.

    Hard to believe, isn't it? One of the reasons I could never have made a good politician, or an actor despite my degrees, since they're all about being in the spotlight, that I abhor. Except when I'm on a stage speaking or lecturing about a topic I know, then I'm as comfortable and at-ease as in an armchair.

    So I determined around 12 or 13 I'd have no more birthday parties. And I never did. Except surprise parties at 40, 50 & 60 I didn't control, and one I staged myself at 30 in Germany (the tasteless theme being a funeral wake).

    Had packed turnouts at all of those. But have also attended some for others that were poorly attended. And I felt the pain. So that if I'm involved with invitations for a function, I check back repeatedly.

    Call it nagging if you like. Our LGBT community is like that - you gotta hit 'em over the head repeatedly or they just ignore stuff. Totally flighty. OK, fine, then you respond accordingly.

    As for kids parties, my parents would look after that. Arm-twisting the parents. And both being elected officials, the parents listened. Nobody wanted to be omitted from one of my birthday parties, with games, prizes, food & cake, photographers, swimming, a major production my Mother would arrange. Nobody except for me, of course, who hated the things.
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    Apr 10, 2016 10:21 PM GMT
    Well, there are a couple sides to this. On one hand, you feel awful for any kid or adult who experiences this. I've known adults who deleted their facebook accounts because things like this happened to them. They invited a bunch of people to come over expecting that at least 50% of people would show up, yet only 10% showed up. They spend money on food, drinks, entertainment and just wait and wait and wait. People would cancel at the last minute or just not say anything at all even though they RSVP'd. It feels terrible I'm sure... like a big ole public rejection that cost a lot of money.

    On the other hand, people don't collectively decide to not go to your party to torture you. As individuals, people oftentimes have a reason that is totally unrelated to you. I am a social introvert, for example. I like people a lot but I find parties to be a nightmare because I often can't hear what people are saying over the loud music. People also find my facial hair to be intimidating so I then usually have to put in all the effort to get to know people, relax them and make them feel comfortable... which is sooo draining.

    My thing used to be to arrive at the party at the beginning letting the host know that I can't stay long but I wanted to drop by with food or a gift. But then people would give me a hard time for leaving... "noooo you can stay a little longer!" "C'mon party pooper... etc". Or worse, there were parties where I was the only person so when I left, I felt real bad.

    As for kid events, I've been invited to a dozen or so birthday parties for my friends' kids, but it is just not fun to me. 3 kids running around, screaming is too much for me, so a party of 20 kids, none of which are mine... never again.
  • Wendigo9

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    Apr 10, 2016 11:50 PM GMT
    I just ignore my bday, maybe that's why I look so young. . .
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:47 AM GMT
    Well, there was one bizzare year in the 60's when we lived in town and Mom organized a surprise birthday party for me. So she went around the neighborhood and cluelessly invited all of the bullies. icon_rolleyes.gif Then left us unsupervised in the basement rec-room. icon_eek.gif
    I ended up with a dart from the dartboard stuck in the back of my head. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:47 AM GMT
    Didn't happen to me, but one year, one of my classmates invited to my birthday party exclaimed in disappointment, "That's it?" as he sashayed away with his colossal gift bag.

    My mother, who had been busting her ass off for the party, was mortified and annoyed, and it was my last birthday bash until I turned 19 and had my own parties.

    My heart goes out for the poor kids that get humiliated that way, because people's not showing up to someone's birthday party says a whole lot about the people not showing up, not about the birthday girl or boy. It just doesn't feel that way when it happens.
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    Apr 11, 2016 4:25 AM GMT
    Just wait until college, when they can throw keggers that nobody shows up to!




    I think my friends and I finally figured out the winning formula for our Off- campus Halloween party, senior year. And then it almost got out of control... icon_surprised.gif
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    Apr 11, 2016 1:39 PM GMT
    I loved each and every birthday party I had during the first dozen years of my life.

    There were many many people. always.

    children and grown-ups, friends & even kids I didn't even talked to. Lots of cake, candy, toys, inflatable bounce castles, everyone running wild. I was the center of the universe. Boy that was life.

  • Breeman

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    Apr 12, 2016 3:32 AM GMT
    Fireworkz saidThis happened to me tor my 16th. I invited my whole class and just my 5 friends came. I had rented tbe community centre. It was mortifying.

    Fireworkz, are you still in touch with the 5 friends?
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    Apr 12, 2016 4:27 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said...One of the reasons I could never have made a good politician, or an actor despite my degrees, since they're all about being in the spotlight, that I abhor. Except when I'm on a stage speaking or lecturing about a topic I know, then I'm as comfortable and at-ease as in an armchair.

    So I determined around 12 or 13 I'd have no more birthday parties. And I never did. Except surprise parties at 40, 50 & 60 I didn't control, and one I staged myself at 30 in Germany... Had packed turnouts at all of those...

    ...As for kids parties, my parents would look after that. Arm-twisting the parents. And both being elected officials, the parents listened. Nobody wanted to be omitted from one of my birthday parties, with games, prizes, food & cake, photographers, swimming, a major production my Mother would arrange. Nobody except for me, of course, who hated the things.


    I just HAD to log in and confirm for myself that it was Art Deco posting this
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    Apr 12, 2016 5:53 AM GMT
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  • eM_Jay

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    Apr 12, 2016 8:35 AM GMT
    Just wondering how i'll deal with this when/if it happens to one of my kids. I personally never have parties for myself (for some reason i always found it self-aggrandizing) but love throwing them for others. But im just wondering how the parent's feel when they organize a party for their kids and see how much it hurts them when no-one shows up....

    Id probably try cheering the kid up with some extra gifts and a short speech about how to not let others make you feel shitty for any reason whatsoever...
  • mizu5

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    Apr 12, 2016 8:39 AM GMT
    this was my las tyear. at 25, with no one showing up for 5 yeards I've learned my lssons. Im alone. ahaha

  • Apr 12, 2016 8:43 AM GMT
    woodfordr saidWell, there are a couple sides to this. On one hand, you feel awful for any kid or adult who experiences this. I've known adults who deleted their facebook accounts because things like this happened to them. They invited a bunch of people to come over expecting that at least 50% of people would show up, yet only 10% showed up. They spend money on food, drinks, entertainment and just wait and wait and wait. People would cancel at the last minute or just not say anything at all even though they RSVP'd. It feels terrible I'm sure... like a big ole public rejection that cost a lot of money.

    On the other hand, people don't collectively decide to not go to your party to torture you. As individuals, people oftentimes have a reason that is totally unrelated to you. I am a social introvert, for example. I like people a lot but I find parties to be a nightmare because I often can't hear what people are saying over the loud music. People also find my facial hair to be intimidating so I then usually have to put in all the effort to get to know people, relax them and make them feel comfortable... which is sooo draining.

    My thing used to be to arrive at the party at the beginning letting the host know that I can't stay long but I wanted to drop by with food or a gift. But then people would give me a hard time for leaving... "noooo you can stay a little longer!" "C'mon party pooper... etc". Or worse, there were parties where I was the only person so when I left, I felt real bad.

    As for kid events, I've been invited to a dozen or so birthday parties for my friends' kids, but it is just not fun to me. 3 kids running around, screaming is too much for me, so a party of 20 kids, none of which are mine... never again.


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    Apr 12, 2016 7:28 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI always felt awkward at my childhood birthday parties. Or any kind of party or function that's all about ME. I was very shy in those days, hated attention. And while I've overcome my shyness is most other social situations, I hate being the center of attention to this day.

    Hard to believe, isn't it? ...

    More at downright unbelievable. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 12, 2016 7:29 PM GMT
    xrichx saidMaybe this kid is the class jerk and everyone hates him? icon_lol.gif

    Sounds like little Toxey is toxic.
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    Apr 12, 2016 7:48 PM GMT
    http://www.msn.com/en-us/video/peopleandplaces/state-troopers-surprise-10-year-old-after-no-one-shows-up-at-birthday-party/vi-BBrFEZH