Casual Sex with a married Man


  • Apr 11, 2016 11:25 AM GMT
    I'm in college till May. I've been talking with a man I like a lot. He wants to be with me on occasions this summer but he's married. Appreciate advice.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 11, 2016 1:04 PM GMT
    I would be very cautious if I were you. If he already has a family to support I would not take this any further. Lose interest in him and move on. You do not want to be the root cause of a family breaking up.
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    Apr 11, 2016 1:14 PM GMT
    slutty mcslut came out of the closet.

    it's a nono for me. I don't mean to judge anyone, tho I do believe anyone who has anything with someone married is a slut.

    the thing is he won't leave his wife & you might end up crying in the corner of your bedroom.

    not to mention it's a terrible karma you'll be getting into -I know one guy who did it over and over, it's like half of his "relationships" were with men who were already taken. he's always been "the other man" so to speak. & well he just never seems to have any luck in relationships.
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    Apr 11, 2016 2:44 PM GMT
    Don't do it. Even if you have no concern for his wife and only care about yourself, he's showing you who he is pretty clearly. If he has such little regard for his wife, what makes you think he'll treat you any better? You will just be a fuckhole.
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:15 PM GMT
    I would first figure out what's happening in his marriage before I'd consider my options.
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:27 PM GMT
    Don't do it. I was that married man. Still trying to get a divorce. My boyfriend resents a lot that has happened. We have never been able to have a normal relationship because of it. Wait till he's divorced if that's what he plans on doing.
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:37 PM GMT
    he didn't even say the guy wants to divorce.

    I'm sure the guy won't.
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    Apr 11, 2016 3:45 PM GMT
    if you REALLY know what you are doing but good reasons why its a tradition for gay men NOT to have a relationship with a married (gay or straight) man. There is no reason why your relationships are not as important as the one your parents had or have.

    Have an exit plan for your self.

    I was that married man and told my now current husband i was getting a divorce. I carried though with it but the than boy friend could not handle me and left for the 9mo it took to complete the divorce. as i have said on this forum my relationship with my husband has gone through difficult times. We are going on 7years together only because both each of us want to be together every day. It is now a good life but a fucking difficult past. Some how dont see my sit as the average successful situation.

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 11, 2016 3:54 PM GMT
    I don't even see why you're asking for advice.You already know the right thing to do. End it now, if you don't wanna be a selfish home wrecking whore. You will only get hurt,and hurt the poor wife, and his family.There is no good way for this to end.
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    Apr 11, 2016 4:05 PM GMT
    I'm not going to weigh in on what to do in this situation. I just think it is funny that everyone assumes the guy is married to a woman.
  • tazzari

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    Apr 11, 2016 4:31 PM GMT
    Do you really want to help him cheat on, and hurt, someone else?
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 11, 2016 4:41 PM GMT
    Some guys marry a woman and have a great relationship but still want guys. If he tells you she knows he has occasional get togethers with a guy to scratch an itch, I've got no problem as long as you know it is not going to lead to anything other than sex.
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    Apr 11, 2016 5:54 PM GMT
    If they have an open relationship, and she is OK with him having sex outside the marriage, why not? But like others said, consider it is only sex. Don't get emotionally attached.
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    Apr 11, 2016 6:08 PM GMT
    Married men. I wouldn't have any part of it. You said you like him a lot. Are you sure you only want casual sex with him?
    But hey, if marriage doesn't mean anything to you then I guess you can do whatever you want then. Now unless they have an open marriage, then it's a different story.
  • nice_chap

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    Apr 11, 2016 6:46 PM GMT
    Is the risk worth it, and have you been giving yourself the opportunities to meet and date men who are not married?
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    Apr 11, 2016 6:50 PM GMT
    Don't do it , because if he cheats on his wife , he will be cheating later in on you ....and you will badly be hurt
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    Apr 11, 2016 8:03 PM GMT
    It's immoral and you're way too young to understand the consequences.
  • tj85016

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    Apr 11, 2016 8:17 PM GMT
    icon_lol.gif maybe you can fuck his wife too
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    Apr 11, 2016 8:39 PM GMT
    Ask yourself this: How would I like it if my dad lied and cheated on my mom?
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    Apr 11, 2016 9:40 PM GMT
    IWANT2DATEAMAN saidI'm in college till May. I've been talking with a man I like a lot. He wants to be with me on occasions this summer but he's married. Appreciate advice.


    Did you really need to ask this? Has the guy told you that his marriage is open? If not, you know the answer.
  • mystery905

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    Apr 12, 2016 12:11 AM GMT
    I'm not going to talk about the morality/lack of morality in this situation.

    And I won't say you will be wrecking a home, because if the guy is looking already, it was already wrecked. If you don't take him up on his offer, he'll find someone who will.

    What you should be careful of is that you shouldn't get too emotionally attached. If all you want is sex, fine, but don't get your heart broken when getting involved with a guy who is already spoken for.

    Been there, done that.....

  • ricardo2016

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    Apr 12, 2016 3:23 PM GMT
    If all you want in sex than i say go for it but the way you say you really like him you might get too attached and he wont be leaving his wife anytime soon. How old is he does he have kids, if he does then thats different id stay away, his kids would be devastated if they found out
  • venue35

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    Apr 12, 2016 3:47 PM GMT
    This is so stupid. The op is laughing at your expense.
    The photos have been used in different profiles before...