Destinharbor saidI agree with the vid, and with you, OP, but I also think it is pretty damn hard to do if from birth, a child is raised in a bad environment. It says that this kid who knows nothing but squalor and abuse and neglect and violence should be able to magically lift himself out of that situation. Well, he just doesn't have the tools. That is what's doubly horrifying about the mass incarceration of black youths- the kids left behind with mothers who are equally ignorant will have zip chance at a nurturing childhood. Unless, someone finds a way to help that kid. I raised two kids in spectacular good fortune and even then, it wasn't easy to keep a kid on the right path. (I did succeed.)
What the vid and you say are totally right but for it to really work, an army of caring adults need to step in and help the kids get it right.
You're right it takes all of society but our society has become so fractured I don't see it getting better.
What I learned at home was reinforced in the neighborhood. There were a thousand eyes on me and my friends. If we ever stepped out of line it got back to our parents before we ever got home. And when another parent told my parents I did anything wrong my parents sided with the adult. I remember the family that lived next door. The parents defended their kids to the bitter end - "My kid wouldn't do that" was their stock reply to any adult who confronted them about their kids' behavior. Guess what? Their kids all became drug addicts and high school dropouts. The rest of us went on to become productive members of society.
What I learned at home was reinforced from the pulpit at church on Sunday and by the other parishioners. No stealing, no lying, no cheating. Not at home, not at school, and definitely not at church.
What I learned at home was reinforced at school. If I got in trouble at school, I got it worse when I got home. My parents, and none of my friends' parents, threatened to sue anyone if they disciplined us. If I was ever roughed up by a cop my father would have laughted at me and called me a stupid asshole for not complying with an officer's directions and then he would have roughed me up some more.
It takes a village but too many parents today are so afraid of fracturing their little darling delicate psyches they do not even discipline their own children much less care about anyone else's.
Moral relativism was unheard of.