I can't stand being rejected anymore.


  • Apr 14, 2016 9:16 PM GMT
    I joke that I have some kind of magic, I date you once and you are going to enter a relationship, but not with me.
    I mean, it happened to me 4 times in a row. I go on dates, and when I'm starting to get involved the guy comes and says hes not ready to commit and it's better to end and than 2 or 3 months later he is dating seriously with someone else, one even moved in to his boyfriend house.
    I don't understand what happens, I started to believe I have some kind of perpetual dysfunctionality in love life and I should just give up.
    What makes me worse is that isn't the story of " it's like things are", well, this is how they are to me.
    I have 3 gay friends that they are true Heartbreakers,they can always find a hookup easily, they jump to a relationship to another and seems to always have someone on backup if 5heir current relationship doesn't work, and in clubs they always can find someone while I just don't think of this to not get disappointed, people just fall crazy in love with them leaving me feeling like the ugly duckling.
    I've just putted myself out of dating world and just go to a bathhouse to quick hookups.
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    Apr 15, 2016 4:14 AM GMT
    I don't have any.particular advice for you but I hope your luck picks up soon. Chin up!
  • Allen

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    Apr 15, 2016 6:25 AM GMT
    Invetedlotus123 saidI joke that I have some kind of magic, I date you once and you are going to enter a relationship, but not with me.
    I mean, it happened to me 4 times in a row. I go on dates, and when I'm starting to get involved the guy comes and says hes not ready to commit and it's better to end and than 2 or 3 months later he is dating seriously with someone else, one even moved in to his boyfriend house.
    I don't understand what happens, I started to believe I have some kind of perpetual dysfunctionality in love life and I should just give up.
    What makes me worse is that isn't the story of " it's like things are", well, this is how they are to me.
    I have 3 gay friends that they are true Heartbreakers,they can always find a hookup easily, they jump to a relationship to another and seems to always have someone on backup if 5heir current relationship doesn't work, and in clubs they always can find someone while I just don't think of this to not get disappointed, people just fall crazy in love with them leaving me feeling like the ugly duckling.
    I've just putted myself out of dating world and just go to a bathhouse to quick hookups.


    You're assuming the guys you previously dated found someone easily. How do you know how many guys each of them dated before they settled on the guy they did? They might have dated more guys than you which allowed them to find the right guy for them.

    Four in a row is nothing. Most guys in really good relationships went through a lot more than four to find their ideal guy.

    Loosen up on your expectations and keep trying. Four is nothing!
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    Apr 15, 2016 10:06 AM GMT
    Cheer up, dude! No one can control their love life.
    So what you can do is not to put your whole happiness on whether you have boyfriend or not. Being single can be a good joyful life too.
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    Apr 15, 2016 2:48 PM GMT
    enjoy the men you meet. Dont get so hung up that a date has to end in romance.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Apr 15, 2016 6:50 PM GMT
    Awww, most gays go through this. Relationships are tough. You're definitely not alone -- it's not you. It's the nature of the beast. Some of the best, kindest, most marry-able guys I know are unattached.
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 15, 2016 11:42 PM GMT
    I understand how you feel to a certain extent OP. I think the guys who say we shouldn't worry about being in a relationship are guys who are currently in one or have had one but it doesn't really make it better for the guys who've never once had one. It's like rich people who say things like money isn't important haha.

    All I can say is don't give up. You'll find someone some day. I get it. I know it's hard to not feel bitter, especially when you have people around you always in relationships but we gotta remember that bitterness is a vile, disgusting thing that would turn off even more guys from wanting to get near us.

    So don't fret. Just keep yourself busy. Indulge in hobbies and some day, a guy will show up and be happy you waited.
  • interesting

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    Apr 18, 2016 6:17 AM GMT
    Read this thread first, and then think about things, the thread is titled "Being in a relationship will not fix your problems (and probably not your loneliness either)" http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4201477

    There are some superb advice in there. Just think things through first before you get all depressed again!