Who else is gonna love me?

  • zelon1

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    Apr 16, 2016 1:17 AM GMT
    Since breaking up with my (now ex) boyfriend I've been in state of eternal sadness. Realizing that I will probably never find another guy that will be attracted to me. Truth is I'm a dark-skinned black man (I love my blackness, don't get me wrong) so I'm not particularly the ideal dating partner in the gay community, I'm at the very bottom. On apps like grindr and jack'd I get zero replies from black, white, Asian, Latino or whatever guys. I'm surprised my ex was even attracted to me but I guess he realized how ugly I am which is why he dumped me a week after valentines's day.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 16, 2016 1:53 AM GMT
    What are you talking about? You're not ugly and who gives a shit about how black you are? That's crazy. Snap out of it!! Lost love hurts and if you're the dumpee, it shakes your confidence. But think it through, man. I bet you actually like who you are if you think about it. Fuck him. Find a guy who "get's you." And stop obsessing about nonsense.
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    Apr 16, 2016 2:01 AM GMT
    zelon1 saidWho else is gonna love me?


    You can love yourself by taking good care of yourself
  • Latinman27

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    Apr 16, 2016 2:20 AM GMT
    Stop feeling sorry for yourself.You'll find someone better.There is always someone better than what you had.
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    Apr 16, 2016 2:27 AM GMT
    Not sure if you're trolling or not but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not......

    A wide smile is considered highly valued so not sure why you're complaining about having one. And the amount of replies you get on social apps has most to do with the quality of the photo you've taken and what you've written in your profile. (Yes, a lot of guys do read profiles.) Sometimes I'll upload a new pic of myself I'm pretty proud of and I get very few response to. Then I upload a pic I personally think sucks and suddenly my phone is blowing up. And most of the guys who contact me comment on what I've written in my profile that speaks to them. So don't assume it's your skin color. Try changing things up a bit and you might be pleasantly surprised.

    One sure fire way to turn everybody off is to make disparaging remarks about yourself. Why should anyone else appreciate who you are if you don't even respect yourself? If you truly think that badly of yourself, at least stop verbalizing it. That's a good start to begin respecting yourself. Fake it till you make it! It works.
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    Apr 16, 2016 2:52 AM GMT
    You are not ugly.
  • Unnamed6

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    Apr 16, 2016 3:14 AM GMT
    zelon1 saidSince breaking up with my (now ex) boyfriend I've been in state of eternal sadness. Realizing that I will probably never find another guy that will be attracted to me. Truth is I'm a dark-skinned black man (I love my blackness, don't get me wrong) so I'm not particularly the ideal dating partner in the gay community, I'm at the very bottom. On apps like grindr and jack'd I get zero replies from black, white, Asian, Latino or whatever guys. I'm surprised my ex was even attracted to me but I guess he realized how ugly I am which is why he dumped me a week after valentines's day.


    One thing you will hopefully come to understand one day is that attractive people do not get hit on.
  • Unnamed6

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    Apr 16, 2016 3:24 AM GMT
    Kinsey was not the first or last to note that physical attractiveness actually connotes to low amounts of sexual opportunities and to few lifetime sexual partners. But this also lends to the idea that the physically attractive are more likely to have worthwhile relationships (whether platonic or not) than the average person. In other words, don't be that worried as you have a far greater chance of being happy than most gay men.
  • Wendigo9

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    Apr 16, 2016 3:54 AM GMT
    I think you're downright handsome : ) I'd ask you out if it wasn't for the distance
  • Import

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    Apr 16, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    OMG this is such a tragic post!! Poor thing, don't feel like that. That's awful what u say. You're young, you're cute, and you're black. Things are good!!! Get into it and just enjoy the ride and be happy you're healthy and alive. Fuckin 10 million other guys will come your way. Don't be such a defeatist.
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    Apr 16, 2016 4:12 AM GMT
    You are young… insecurities are natural. 'He' was the first, definitely not the last icon_cool.gif You are very attractive and have a killer smile. Don't be so hard on your self.
  • mystery905

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    Apr 16, 2016 4:15 AM GMT
    Yes, you are attractive, though not my type.

    But I'm sure you're lots of somebody's type!

  • RaulMoonPride

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    Apr 16, 2016 4:28 AM GMT
    first of all, are you crazy?? you are handsome! you need to build some self esteem. first of all, you need to know that you are a full person by your own, you dont need someone else. when you love someone else, don't love him because he is your other half, love him as a whole too. sometimes people shouldn´t be so shallow and get to know the personality
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    Apr 16, 2016 4:35 AM GMT
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    Don't know if ur fishing but you have perfect bone structure
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    Apr 16, 2016 5:06 AM GMT
    and I love my whiteness
  • mystery905

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    Apr 16, 2016 5:08 AM GMT
    Bonaparts saidand I love my whiteness


    Is that all you have to cling to?

  • Fireworkz

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    Apr 16, 2016 10:27 PM GMT
    What?
    You are so handsome. If you were older and in the same country... I totally would.


    Right now your mind isn't on your side so don't go chasing these thought trains. Who knows why your ex broke up with you but I'm sure it has nothing to do with your looks.

    Take time to grieve but once you are done you have to get on with your life and start enjoying it again.
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    Aug 10, 2016 1:05 AM GMT
    zelon1 saidSince breaking up with my (now ex) boyfriend I've been in state of eternal sadness. Realizing that I will probably never find another guy that will be attracted to me. Truth is I'm a dark-skinned black man (I love my blackness, don't get me wrong) so I'm not particularly the ideal dating partner in the gay community, I'm at the very bottom. On apps like grindr and jack'd I get zero replies from black, white, Asian, Latino or whatever guys. I'm surprised my ex was even attracted to me but I guess he realized how ugly I am which is why he dumped me a week after valentines's day.




    DUDE, NO ONE CAN LOVE YOU IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF. TRUE ENOUGH A LOT HAS TO DO PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS! !!! MOST OF US HAVE SOME INSECURITIES . I MAKE AN EFFORT AT MY APPEARANCE, BUT VERY COMFORTABLE IN MY OWN SKIN, NO PUN INTENDED . YES, PREFERENCES EXIST HOWEVER IT'S 2016 AND SURELY YOU AREN'T BEING SYSTEMATICALLY OPPRESSED BY EVERY GAY GUY ON THE PLANET!!! IN CASE YOU HAVEN'T HEARD IN SOME CIRCLES DARK IS IN!!! DUDE YOUR YOUNG STOP LOOKING AT WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE AND WHAT YOU DO. CHECK OUT THE LIVES OF PEOPLE IN OTHER COUNTRIES THAT DON'T HAVE TIME TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE AND WHO LIKES THEM (NO FOOD, SHELTER, ARMS ,LEGS EYES ,COUNTRY ) TRY WORKING OUT A LITTLE AND DOING THE BEST YOU CAN . I'M NOT A DOC, BUT IT'S SOMEWHAT SAFE TO SAY TO DON'T BELONG ON GRINDR (LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES ).DUDE SEEK OUT SOME HELP,ESPECIALLY TALK THERAPY MORE SO THAN PILLS. CHECK COLLEGE'S IN YOUR AREA FOR TRAINING COUNSELORS .BEST WISHES
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    Aug 10, 2016 6:48 AM GMT
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    zelon1 saidSince breaking up with my (now ex) boyfriend I've been in state of eternal sadness. Realizing that I will probably never find another guy that will be attracted to me. Truth is I'm a dark-skinned black man (I love my blackness, don't get me wrong) so I'm not particularly the ideal dating partner in the gay community, I'm at the very bottom. On apps like grindr and jack'd I get zero replies from black, white, Asian, Latino or whatever guys. I'm surprised my ex was even attracted to me but I guess he realized how ugly I am which is why he dumped me a week after valentines's day.




    DUDE, NO ONE CAN LOVE YOU IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF. TRUE ENOUGH A LOT HAS TO DO PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS! !!! MOST OF US HAVE SOME INSECURITIES . I MAKE AN EFFORT AT MY APPEARANCE, BUT VERY COMFORTABLE IN MY OWN SKIN, NO PUN INTENDED . YES, PREFERENCES EXIST HOWEVER IT'S 2016 AND SURELY YOU AREN'T BEING SYSTEMATICALLY OPPRESSED BY EVERY GAY GUY ON THE PLANET!!! IN CASE YOU HAVEN'T HEARD IN SOME CIRCLES DARK IS IN!!! DUDE YOUR YOUNG STOP LOOKING AT WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE AND WHAT YOU DO. CHECK OUT THE LIVES OF PEOPLE IN OTHER COUNTRIES THAT DON'T HAVE TIME TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE AND WHO LIKES THEM (NO FOOD, SHELTER, ARMS ,LEGS EYES ,COUNTRY ) TRY WORKING OUT A LITTLE AND DOING THE BEST YOU CAN . I'M NOT A DOC, BUT IT'S SOMEWHAT SAFE TO SAY TO DON'T BELONG ON GRINDR (LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES ).DUDE SEEK OUT SOME HELP,ESPECIALLY TALK THERAPY MORE SO THAN PILLS. CHECK COLLEGE'S IN YOUR AREA FOR TRAINING COUNSELORS .BEST WISHES


    Your "dude, seek out some help," had to fall on deaf ears - teh guy hasn't posted anything Since early May.