Realjock now: A vapid gay community personified?

  • Aleco_Graves

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    Apr 18, 2016 5:21 AM GMT
    So i've been on Realjock for a while now. At first it was exciting and some of the original members made forums and the community amazing.

    I havent been on in forever and i know that the users have dwindled due to the website not keeping up with the times and funding.

    I logged back in months later and i' shocked to see the same 90's layout and all (most of) the fun, intelligent people gone. The forums topics also seem to be dwindling in quantity and quality...

    Nonetheless I started prarticipating in forums again, sometimes putting a lot of effort into replies, as always, and trying to help the poster.

    Unlike when i've started, people just dont seem to be interacting as much as i remember on forums. Secondly, the posters of forums (often) hardly or never reply to the advice they get!


    Has anyone noticed this selfish trend?

    Do the current members just post their stories to be heard, to ramble on about what they did last weekend on fire island, not caring to listen to how people experienced said story?

    Jees i'd even take whats his face that used to post links to nytimes in forums over this!

  • interesting

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    Apr 18, 2016 6:07 AM GMT
    I would say sometimes, the OP would forget about these inquiries seeing that he doesn't get reminders when his thread is being discussed.

    You know sometimes when you're on a website or a forum, and someone quotes you or replied to you, you get an email or something or when you log in, they would appear to you so you know to response. But this site is the opposite, someone on another thread asked me a question in the thread and he quoted me, and I never knew he asked me a question, until I randomly went back into it to read new answers and saw his question.

    But I would say the lack of interesting threads and the increasingly bitter tone of the forum do seem to come from the lack of members since the numbers finally dipped under 800 frequently. But when I remembered I joined it was like 1500 in at one time and it was just a normal day.
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    Apr 18, 2016 6:50 AM GMT
    Blame it on Facebook...
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    Apr 18, 2016 9:56 AM GMT
    We need a short gay web series like daddyhunt.com did icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2016 12:31 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should lower your expectations. The "intelligent" ones of which you speak will not spend many hours a day (i) writing a dissertation or manifesto, and/or (ii) perusing and responding to hundreds of posts on topics du jour. They pick and choose forum posts that are of interest to them, and more than likely they do not track (and perhaps even ignore) responses to their posts. That's the nature of social media.
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    Apr 18, 2016 12:53 PM GMT
    "sometimes putting a lot of effort into replies, as always, and trying to help the poster."

    What you are doing is good practice for when it's time to advise real life friends.
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Apr 18, 2016 12:59 PM GMT
    I've been a member of this site for a couple of years now. I recently started posting to the forums but have read them ever since I joined the site. It's going downhill that's for certain.
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    Apr 18, 2016 2:24 PM GMT
    to post members must have 3-5 sockpuppet so why bother.

    i really expected realjock dot com to be combined with the next interweb dating hookup effort.
  • mizu5

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    Apr 18, 2016 4:19 PM GMT
    if your join date of 2014 is the original, you joined well after it went to hell.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 18, 2016 5:58 PM GMT
    I'm not sure bitching about how all gays are vapid is advancing your cause...
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    Apr 19, 2016 3:15 AM GMT
    Yeah this place went down hill after 2012
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    Apr 19, 2016 3:24 AM GMT
    Gonna be honest I look forward to only one persons posts on this forum, the rest no offense confuse the shit out of me.

    I don't frequent other gay forums nor do I really use the apps all that much. Men are sometimes really lame.
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    Apr 19, 2016 3:33 AM GMT
    Seems like I've been a member on here since 09. I don't post that often and take long breaks away having just returned a month or so back. I only look in every few days to see if there's something interesting but it's 99% a rehash of the same old shite . Kind of like when you go to a bar or club and there's some 20 year old freshly minted queen carrying on like, well like nothing like her ever existed before.. pleeeze.. LOL You've all met them.

    The place went for a massive dump a few years ago and it hasn't improved from what I see.

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    Apr 19, 2016 3:52 AM GMT
    I do feel like a grandpa at local gay clubs

    Nothing aesthetically I find appealing in the 18-24 demographic unless they seriously lift and have bigger biceps than myself.

    For once I'd like to be vapid, however I honestly believe I have far too many useful brain cells and life experience to ever relate to the youngins at the local gay club.

    Traveling I see more exciting "scenes" but the novelty wears off too soon.
  • badbug

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    Apr 19, 2016 7:28 AM GMT
    This site format makes it very hard to have any conversations and encourages people to feel like no one gives a shit about what they write.

    A lot of sites have rec buttons or like buttons, giving you an idea that people actually read what you have written. The format that SB Nation uses is really condusive to conversation amongst strangers i have noticed.

    I think there could be more flow of conversation if people felt like something funny they said was being appreciated or something insightful they wrote was being pondered or whatever. People like cookies, little tiny like cookies make you feel more engaged regardless if you realize it or not or think you are looking for them or not. It's how we're wired, we enjoy rewards.

    This site, it's really hard to see who is responding to you or eachother and sometimes there are endless scrolls of quotes that aren't organized so it's just a long mass of a thread that all looks the same, instead of people having the ability to resond to something write under where it is written. If someone responds to something i said on page 6, when i said it on page 1 who is going to see? and who is going to repsond to that? It's too hard to track and thus everyone feels like no one is really listening to each other. Engagement is key to generating more people staying longer and increasing the likelihood of someone finding someone to fight with, laugh with or whatever.



    Also having a like button or an up down vote, lets people who don't have time or have the inclination to post share their feelings really quickly.
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    Apr 19, 2016 10:03 AM GMT
    It isn't "personified" - it's a social media site and one that's probably a lot less vapid than most social media sites out there (gay, straight or otherwise).

    As for the "lack of interaction", 15 replies since yesterday ain't bad going - or would you prefer 500 cursory "likes" from a bunch of people who don't really give a crap?
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Apr 19, 2016 11:11 AM GMT
    Hmm interesting points... I wouldnt say my expectations for this site are high DOMINUS, i'd more say the chance to make acquintences from countries and also understandings outside my own is exhilirating and thats what i used to make them here.

    I understand the intellegent types being more selective on forums, but thrats not what i meant, quite a few of my favourite intelectuals straight out left the site.

    I do aggree the sights architecture does nothing to promote interactions; there is no notofication system, with the exception of the useless mail feature mostly filled with creep-mail.

    It's unanimous that the sites gone in the

    Ex_mil8, its less about exposure and more about the site retaining traction and interest of its audience. Which RJ is not. Dont get me wrong, im not looking for a gay cardboard cutout instagram/twitter.

    Does anyone know of sites that have a similar target market to this one (or even more broadscope), but perhaps with a better infrastructure and more up to date features than Realjock (bassically, better funded more successful) ?
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Apr 19, 2016 11:14 AM GMT
    badbug said This site format makes it very hard to have any conversations and encourages people to feel like no one gives a shit about what they write.

    A lot of sites have rec buttons or like buttons, giving you an idea that people actually read what you have written. The format that SB Nation uses is really condusive to conversation amongst strangers i have noticed.

    I think there could be more flow of conversation if people felt like something funny they said was being appreciated or something insightful they wrote was being pondered or whatever. People like cookies, little tiny like cookies make you feel more engaged regardless if you realize it or not or think you are looking for them or not. It's how we're wired, we enjoy rewards.

    This site, it's really hard to see who is responding to you or eachother and sometimes there are endless scrolls of quotes that aren't organized so it's just a long mass of a thread that all looks the same, instead of people having the ability to resond to something write under where it is written. If someone responds to something i said on page 6, when i said it on page 1 who is going to see? and who is going to repsond to that? It's too hard to track and thus everyone feels like no one is really listening to each other. Engagement is key to generating more people staying longer and increasing the likelihood of someone finding someone to fight with, laugh with or whatever.


    Also having a like button or an up down vote, lets people who don't have time or have the inclination to post share their feelings really quickly.
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    100% aggree with you there. The interactive capabilities of this site is nonexistant. The small self reward system you described makes a bigger difference than most realise, and it makes for a more entertaining social experience.
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    Apr 19, 2016 11:31 AM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 saidIt isn't "personified" - it's a social media site and one that's probably a lot less vapid than most social media sites out there (gay, straight or otherwise).

    As for the "lack of interaction", 15 replies since yesterday ain't bad going - or would you prefer 500 cursory "likes" from a bunch of people who don't really give a crap?


    Lest we forget, if you went out to a bar or club, and listened to the interactions going on, 90% would be more vapid than anything on here.