Where to next: I'm over Nashville and it's only been 5 months.

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    Apr 18, 2016 11:15 PM GMT
    I been in Nashville since January, and even though it's supposed to be a temporary thing until I find a new place...I'm so over this shit already.As much as some people who live here say its a cool place, its just not enough going on. I've done good meeting a handful of people here, but for the most part, the most thats going on for the gay scene is a couple bars along the same side of 1 street and the fucking apps. Many of the ethnic gays I've met secretly desire to want to leave here.

    On a normal day or weekend, you'll see tons of people on the gay apps but they're invisible elsewhere. The ethnic diversity here doesn't extend to the gay scene. Most seem either DL or have no involvement in it. They just hide in the shadows of hookup apps and not really trying to connect much beyond it. 300 messages and only 3 or 4 actually met? Out and about, the only people i see doing stuff are straight white families.

    The gay scene also seems very out of shape. Not judging, but when i meet people who talk about how fat they are but aren't doing nothing to change it....that makes me wonder if they can handle me. Of course, doesn't help non of the major fitness centers are here except planet fitness and YMCA. NO 24 hour, LA or Lifetime.

    Trying to see if anyone is familiar with the area and what their impression was.




  • a303guy

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    Apr 20, 2016 8:17 AM GMT
    Based on my time there, your observations are spot on. Sadly so. With Bridgestone/Firestone consolidating their North American operations into downtown over the coming year or so things may change a little, but don't count on it. It's probably just going to make the already awful traffic in the area more awful. Gym wise there was a Golds just SW of town on I-40, but that may not be convenient for you. Good luck! (finding a job in a more progressive city)
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Apr 22, 2016 2:49 AM GMT
    The Sushi place on the north side of downtown.... yum.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 22, 2016 10:27 PM GMT
    Nashville is a very beautiful city and a prosperous one as well. It is also a metropolitan city in which the central city, suburbs, and it's entire county is one geopolitical entity which makes all the sense in the world. It is a hilly, wooded city with a lot of beautiful Greek Revival architecture. That along with its large number of colleges, universities, and research facilities make it the "Athens of the South".
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    Apr 23, 2016 1:01 AM GMT
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    Apr 23, 2016 5:00 PM GMT
    a303guy saidBased on my time there, your observations are spot on. Sadly so. With Bridgestone/Firestone consolidating their North American operations into downtown over the coming year or so things may change a little, but don't count on it. It's probably just going to make the already awful traffic in the area more awful. Gym wise there was a Golds just SW of town on I-40, but that may not be convenient for you. Good luck! (finding a job in a more progressive city)


    I am near one of the Bridgestone facilities in this area. One of their business offices it appears.

    I haven't seen a Golds anywhere here, but if it's just that 1 location I could see why probably. And yeah, the traffic is awful yet there's nowhere to go. So luckily I rarely get caught up in it.

    roadbikeRob saidNashville is a very beautiful city and a prosperous one as well. It is also a metropolitan city in which the central city, suburbs, and it's entire county is one geopolitical entity which makes all the sense in the world. It is a hilly, wooded city with a lot of beautiful Greek Revival architecture. That along with its large number of colleges, universities, and research facilities make it the "Athens of the South".


    Are you talking about Nashville or Atlanta? lol. Where is this Greek revival architecture? I do happen to live in a place that resembles Greek architecture...something about the shape of the roofing makes it look that way, but it's obviously faux.

    I know someone is going to come along and say, "you won't be happy anywhere"...even my roommate said it which I thought was dumb because even he..has 0 connection to anything gay here, he's always out of town on business, and he kinda did warn me that Nashville was likely going to be disappointing.

    At this point I'm just trying to keep my hopes high. It's funny because I see a handful of cute guys out here in person and online. I chatted up a guy at the mall who said he was partnered up already, and then the guys I've met so far have been mostly all full of shit. Just nothing to offer. I can't even explain it, but it's just whack. I've already given up trying to meet new people here because I see what they're about already. And it's about nothing. The guys here who are about something, usually have plans to leave or have already left.

    All this prosperity and wealth, WHERE? The straight, White country music singers? Most these mother fuckers I've met here aren't making money, they all work at the mall (no diss to anyone who works at the mall, but let's be real), don't have their own place, heck no. And it's evident when I go out with some of these guys. Half the time they don't even be wanting to spend any money. The ones who are spending money are the White guys. And I've also not met anyone who's going to school at these colleges you mention. If they are, then they are probably hiding in the shadows of being gay and probably won't even come out.
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    Apr 24, 2016 1:27 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs28 saidI been in Nashville since January, and even though it's supposed to be a temporary thing until I find a new place...I'm so over this shit already.As much as some people who live here say its a cool place, its just not enough going on. I've done good meeting a handful of people here, but for the most part, the most thats going on for the gay scene is a couple bars along the same side of 1 street and the fucking apps. Many of the ethnic gays I've met secretly are very unhappy And want to leave here.

    On a normal day or weekend, you'll see tons of people on the gay apps but they're invisible elsewhere. The ethnic diversity here doesn't extend to the gay scene. Most seem either DL or have no involvement in it. They just hide in the shadows of hookup apps and not really trying to connect much beyond it. 300 messages and only 3 or 4 actually met? Out and about, the only people i see doing stuff are straight white families.

    The gay scene also seems very out of shape. Not judging, but when i meet people who talk about how fat they are but aren't doing nothing to change it....that makes me wonder if they can handle me. Of course, doesn't help non of the major fitness centers are here except planet fitness and YMCA. NO 24 hour, LA or Lifetime.

    Trying to see if anyone is familiar with the area and what their impression was.

    I think you'll hate it. Just like every other city you've been to.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 24, 2016 3:25 AM GMT
    xrichx said
    FuzzyPecs28 saidI been in Nashville since January, and even though it's supposed to be a temporary thing until I find a new place...I'm so over this shit already.As much as some people who live here say its a cool place, its just not enough going on. I've done good meeting a handful of people here, but for the most part, the most thats going on for the gay scene is a couple bars along the same side of 1 street and the fucking apps. Many of the ethnic gays I've met secretly are very unhappy And want to leave here.

    On a normal day or weekend, you'll see tons of people on the gay apps but they're invisible elsewhere. The ethnic diversity here doesn't extend to the gay scene. Most seem either DL or have no involvement in it. They just hide in the shadows of hookup apps and not really trying to connect much beyond it. 300 messages and only 3 or 4 actually met? Out and about, the only people i see doing stuff are straight white families.

    The gay scene also seems very out of shape. Not judging, but when i meet people who talk about how fat they are but aren't doing nothing to change it....that makes me wonder if they can handle me. Of course, doesn't help non of the major fitness centers are here except planet fitness and YMCA. NO 24 hour, LA or Lifetime.

    Trying to see if anyone is familiar with the area and what their impression was.

    I think you'll hate it. Just like every other city you've been to.
    Probably he should move to Youngstown, OH than he will really have something to bitch abouticon_lol.gif
  • joeisawesome1

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    Apr 25, 2016 5:11 PM GMT
    Billy Ray Cyrus' hometown. that's what comes to my mind. plus it's on the way to florida icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 27, 2016 5:41 AM GMT
    XrichxI think you'll hate it. Just like every other city you've been to.


    You mother fucking right I do. You're goddamn right. Now, how would my suffering improve YOUR life? If it doesn't...then you shouldn't care. Fuck off.

    That said...in your defense, I realize I haven't done enough to get myself involved and do "gay" daytime things. Not to be derogatory, but being involved in gay organizations during the day. I had no idea they had one. Nashville seemed to have a decent one going as far as gay sports go. But, my livelihood isn't centered around gay softball events. I think even if I did join one, the results would still be the same. Nashville is still very small and "White" as far as gay goes, it's not that I'm bothered by it, but that defeats the purpose of moving here because I was looking for diversity and more opportunities dating wise.

    I haven't found shit. I've been dating here and there, but not a ton of compatibility. I mean, ive met plenty of guys...but most have been full of shit and I just don't see a future here. I can't see myself staying here at all. The land is blah, the drivers are terrible, it's too "black and white", just nothing really "grabbing me" about this place.

    And joeisawesome, if I don't end up figuring something out soon I might end up moving back to Florida to be closer to my parents anyway. Even though I'm still kinda set on a city that gets snow during winter.
  • Allen

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    Apr 27, 2016 7:51 AM GMT
    Have you tried Atlanta? If not, you should give that a try. They have a huge and diverse black gay community there. And it's actually a pretty cool city. And you wouldn't be far from Florida where your parents are.
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    Apr 27, 2016 5:33 PM GMT
    Allen saidHave you tried Atlanta? If not, you should give that a try. They have a huge and diverse black gay community there. And it's actually a pretty cool city. And you wouldn't be far from Florida where your parents are.



    Ughhh......Atlanta is a horrible horrible city. It's the second most pretentious city I've ever been to. The only thing worse than Atlanta is Dallas. But you're right about there being a lot of blacks there.
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    Apr 27, 2016 10:52 PM GMT
    Radd said
    Allen saidHave you tried Atlanta? If not, you should give that a try. They have a huge and diverse black gay community there. And it's actually a pretty cool city. And you wouldn't be far from Florida where your parents are.



    Ughhh......Atlanta is a horrible horrible city. It's the second most pretentious city I've ever been to. The only thing worse than Atlanta is Dallas. But you're right about there being a lot of blacks there.
    No Atlanta is the third most pretentious city after Dallas and horrendously overrated Austin. The Texas capital is definitely the most pretentious place in the USA and probably the most pretentious in the Western Hemisphere.
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    roadbikeRob saidNo Atlanta is the third most pretentious city after Dallas and horrendously overrated Austin. The Texas capital is definitely the most pretentious place in the USA and probably the most pretentious in the Western Hemisphere.


    Radd saidBut you're right about there being a lot of blacks there.


    Lol, that's what I don't get why people always try to recommend me to go to Austin. And then my friend is like, "why don't you move to Texas?"

    I'm not looking for a city with lots of "Blacks" like Atlanta. That's what makes this thing so complicated. White people think when I say I want diversity, that means being in a mostly Black city. No, no, no LOL. Living in a mostly Black city spells DRAMA for Black people unless you just happen to be to be the lucky ones who happens to get thru the many loopholes. I also don't want to turn on the news everyday and see 1 Black person after the next being involved in some heinous crime. And that, I'm already seeing more than I care to in Nashville. People think country music...no this place it's kind of ghetto... Country ghetto. That's not to be judgemental, but more for a lack of better word/. Maybe I'll just say people here can be "unrefined". Luckily not as bad as St. Louis, Memphis or even Little Rock ghetto...But those are all satellite cities that share a little bit of similar attributes.

    I'm just not into all that. I'm really running out of options here in America. Where else is there to go? DC is looking real viable right about now because that's the 1 city I feel is super international and close to both the north and the south. But, I have my reservations about it too. Black folks out there can be really unfriendly and competitive towards each other, just like Atlanta. Cost of living, density, having a car and probably living out in the suburbs but not too far away from the ciy center, etc.
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    May 28, 2016 5:57 AM GMT
    Just accept the fact that you are a miserable, angry black man and move on with your life. Go to fuckin Africa if you want to be with your people so much. You are the reasons stereotypes exist.


    Nobody cares anymore. I don't know why anyone is giving you any kind of advice as if you will take it.
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    Jul 30, 2016 10:00 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs28 said
    roadbikeRob saidNo Atlanta is the third most pretentious city after Dallas and horrendously overrated Austin. The Texas capital is definitely the most pretentious place in the USA and probably the most pretentious in the Western Hemisphere.


    Radd saidBut you're right about there being a lot of blacks there.


    Lol, that's what I don't get why people always try to recommend me to go to Austin. And then my friend is like, "why don't you move to Texas?"

    I'm not looking for a city with lots of "Blacks" like Atlanta. That's what makes this thing so complicated. White people think when I say I want diversity, that means being in a mostly Black city. No, no, no LOL. Living in a mostly Black city spells DRAMA for Black people unless you just happen to be to be the lucky ones who happens to get thru the many loopholes. I also don't want to turn on the news everyday and see 1 Black person after the next being involved in some heinous crime. And that, I'm already seeing more than I care to in Nashville. People think country music...no this place it's kind of ghetto... Country ghetto. That's not to be judgemental, but more for a lack of better word/. Maybe I'll just say people here can be "unrefined". Luckily not as bad as St. Louis, Memphis or even Little Rock ghetto...But those are all satellite cities that share a little bit of similar attributes.

    I'm just not into all that. I'm really running out of options here in America. Where else is there to go? DC is looking real viable right about now because that's the 1 city I feel is super international and close to both the north and the south. But, I have my reservations about it too. Black folks out there can be really unfriendly and competitive towards each other, just like Atlanta. Cost of living, density, having a car and probably living out in the suburbs but not too far away from the ciy center, etc.
    Stay away from Texas especially it's horrendously overrated capital city of Austin. I lived in Austin for almost ten years and it was lousy and lonely. In addition, most Texans don't like out of towners and they feel that they are superior to the rest of the country. You bitch about Tennessee being blah country well it is lush and beautiful when compared to Texas. Tennessee is wooded, green, and quite hilly for the most part. On the other hand, Texas is flat, featureless, and mostly barren. Austin is an architecturally ugly, sprawling, and very unfriendly town with little to nothing to offer other than bars and clubs and a pawnshop on every corner. You could also check out Youngstown, Ohio which is an urban disaster area with all the typical urban pathologies of an older, northern US city. Probably after spending some time in both Austin and Youngstown, you will end up wishing that you never left Nashville.