Apr 19, 2016 6:14 AM GMT
I have a friend where we met online well over a year ago and went out on a few dates. I let him know that I thought he was a cool guy but I wanted to be friends. He agreed and said he'd love to be friends. After that I made a point of treating him exactly like a friend. I messaged him every week, checked in on him, invited him out to stuff, sent jokes etc. But he put in little effort into the friendship. I initiated every text, every invite, every activity. He was 100% responsive. So I decided maybe I should hold off and give him a chance to invite or initiate me. But he didn't. Ever.
So for several months I just moved on. Every so often he would check out my online profile. I randomly messaged him and asked if I did something wrong. He said that he thought that I was just saying I wanted to be friends to let him down nicely. I told him that I have been 100% honest and would like to be friends. He said he was very happy to hear that and of course wanted to be friends.
We hung out regularly, dinners movies chats. Yet, just like before, I initiated everything. He responds immediately every time. But he's only reactive. No invites to hang out with him and his buds, no messages checking in on me or anything. I know he's been burned by his group of friends in the past. I have other friends and am ready to give up on him but I don't want to be like his other friends. I am in a relationship so I'm only looking for something platonic. I don't know if I should bring it up or give up on the friendship and let it fade. I have other friends.