After a fight with your boyfriend

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    Apr 21, 2016 12:54 AM GMT
    So just wanna know what u thinkin bout this

    Usually after a fight, argument, at the end, you end up having sex, sometimes really rough, really good, and then the fight is forgotten. You both want it. The sex. But do you think there should be a "cooling period" between the sex and the fight? Because sometimes it makes you feel like you use sex to fix things that go wrong in your relationship.
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    Apr 21, 2016 1:53 AM GMT
    Ha. I wish. My boyfriend turns into a fucking prude
  • Apparition

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    Apr 21, 2016 3:39 AM GMT
    zoltar saidHa. I wish. My boyfriend turns into a fucking prude


    I would do nothing BUT fight...constantly... icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 21, 2016 3:51 AM GMT
    Every couple is unique. They are 2 individuals, and their emotional chemistry is special.

    I'll merely relate how my husband & I handle verbal fights. Never physical, just shouting matches. Had an ex-BF physically rough me up once, and the relationship ended on the spot.

    No, just yelling at each other and letting off steam. And sometimes we simply pause, realize how stupid & hurtful we're being, and end up hugging. Or if we're both really mad, we go into separate rooms to shut up & cool off. We know better than to keep yelling and arguing.

    Within a few hours, it's even taken a day, tempers cool and we just get back to normal and forget about it.

    I can't say that's a formula that'll work for every couple. It's what works for **us**. Each couple must find their own formula. And if they can't, well, maybe they're not so well matched in the first place.
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    Apr 21, 2016 5:37 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidEvery couple is unique. They are 2 individuals, and their emotional chemistry is special.

    I'll merely relate how my husband & I handle verbal fights. Never physical, just shouting matches. Had an ex-BF physically rough me up once, and the relationship ended on the spot.

    No, just yelling at each other and letting off steam. And sometimes we simply pause, realize how stupid & hurtful we're being, and end up hugging. Or if we're both really mad, we go into separate rooms to shut up & cool off. We know better than to keep yelling and arguing.

    Within a few hours, it's even taken a day, tempers cool and we just get back to normal and forget about it.

    I can't say that's a formula that'll work for every couple. It's what works for **us**. Each couple must find their own formula. And if they can't, well, maybe they're not so well matched in the first place.

    Yes, that's it. If it wasn't clear, I was talking about after making up.
    Not during the fight, and then suddenly having sex. That would be strange.
    But sex usually comes later right after. I'm just wondering if that's healthy.
    And yes, I agree. I think every couple's different.
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    Apr 21, 2016 9:47 AM GMT
    I cant say for sure, not knowing the dynamic. But using sex as a resolve doesnt sound healthy. I cant think that the relationship grows from the quarrel if it's solved woth sex in the same way it would grow when quarrel is solved by compromise orunderstanding. :/

    Maybe talk it out, then have makeup sex; Instead of fight then angry sex...
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    Apr 22, 2016 4:11 AM GMT
    Ronar2 said
    Yes, that's it. If it wasn't clear, I was talking about after making up.
    Not during the fight, and then suddenly having sex. That would be strange.
    But sex usually comes later right after. I'm just wondering if that's healthy.
    And yes, I agree. I think every couple's different.

    And being a different couple from your own model, we just kiss, hug and make up. Sex isn't an essential part of it.

    But then, yah know, we're kinda old, so our urges aren't the same as a twenty-something. But as we agree, every couple is different. For a lotta different reasons: ages, culture, pure personal preference, whatever.

    The essential thing is that they learn how to end spats. Most of us are gonna have 'em, so how do you deal with 'em? Every couple devises a solution, or else they won't be a couple for very long, will they?
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    Apr 22, 2016 9:32 AM GMT
    Make up sex can be extremely hot though, when you both still have some residual anger and although you might not be truly angry at each other anymore, it still needs an outlet.

    Can turn into the hottest, most primal and raw fucking.

    I don't agree with using sex as a bandaid though - if shit's not resolved, you need to address it properly not paper over the cracks with cum.