Cardio Stress Test

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    Apr 22, 2016 11:56 PM GMT
    I scheduled one for my husband today. By fortunate coincidence he had a routine visit already scheduled with his cardiologist for right after his brother died of a heart attack. Just 2 days before we flew to Boston for the funeral. It's the same doctor the late brother used when he stayed at his Florida home. We were the ones who broke the news to the cardiologist of the death of his patient.

    I pressed for the test. I don't like some signs with my husband I'm seeing. The doctor agreed and said he'd do it after we returned from the Boston funeral. It's now scheduled for next week.

    His late older brother had **3** separate heart bypass operations over several years, and also had a pacemaker implant. My guy already had one bypass operation, and been told he needs a pacemaker, too, but he refuses to consider it. I may have the legal authority to override him once we get him into the OR, and I'll consult with my attorney to see what my options are.

    The funeral went better, with less family drama than either of us had feared, But I still saw some stress in him, and planned a getaway for him immediately afterwards.

    That he cancelled behind my back, and I've had to reschedule for later. Lessening its value. But I'd also seen this heart issue building before his brother's death, and intended to use his pre-scheduled periodic cardiologist visit as an opportunity to have more thorough heart testing done. Which I've succeeded in getting arranged for next week.

    But I swear, sometimes getting a partner or BF to cooperate regarding his medical issues is like pulling teeth. And I'm no better myself, as he'll tell you. Why are men like that?
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    Apr 23, 2016 6:05 PM GMT
    There is a limit to what you can do. He is an adult who is able to make his own decisions even if those decisions are less than optimal. He does sound somewhat fatalistic though.
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    Apr 24, 2016 5:56 AM GMT
    This is right up my specialty haha.. I'm a cardiac sonographer.. I don't think a stress test is necessary that is only if the doctor thinks he has CAD. he has had one bypass already? I would suggest an echo or a stress echo to look for any wall motion abnormalities in the heart.. Just curious why doesn't he want to get the pacemaker? and what kinda arrythmia does he have?

    If he isn't cooperating with medical decisions perhaps try making some lifestyle changes?
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    Apr 25, 2016 1:00 AM GMT
    How long ago did his brother pass ?
    I'm wondering if his grieving is a contributing factor....

    While you may have legal authority, exercising that authority against his will would be problematic...including to your relationship/trust.
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    Apr 25, 2016 4:01 AM GMT
    keho92 saidThis is right up my specialty haha.. I'm a cardiac sonographer.. I don't think a stress test is necessary that is only if the doctor thinks he has CAD. he has had one bypass already? I would suggest an echo or a stress echo to look for any wall motion abnormalities in the heart.. Just curious why doesn't he want to get the pacemaker? and what kinda arrythmia does he have?

    If he isn't cooperating with medical decisions perhaps try making some lifestyle changes?

    He had a sonogram late last year. He's had 1 triple bypass, 3 years ago. He has a left bundle branch block. He doesn't want the pacemaker because his brother had one, and he considers it another step toward becoming infirm.
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    Apr 25, 2016 4:02 AM GMT
    Bodycontactau saidHow long ago did his brother pass ?
    I'm wondering if his grieving is a contributing factor....

    While you may have legal authority, exercising that authority against his will would be problematic...including to your relationship/trust.

    His brother died earlier this month, April 8. We flew to Boston for the funeral. He's been difficult and like this all along.