Finding Love Again, This Time With a Man

  • metta

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    Apr 24, 2016 5:35 AM GMT
    Finding Love Again, This Time With a Man

    From 90-year-old former Pennsylvania senator Harris Wofford:
    "Too often, our society seeks to label people by pinning them on the wall — straight, gay or in between. I don’t categorize myself based on the gender of those I love. I had a half-century of marriage with a wonderful woman, and now am lucky for a second time to have found happiness [with a man]."


    "at ages 90 and 40, we will join hands, vowing to be bound together: to have and to hold, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."


    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/24/opinion/sunday/findinglove-again-this-time-with-a-man.html
  • leanandclean

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    Apr 24, 2016 11:21 AM GMT
    He was a senator for one term, defeated by Rick Santorum in the '90's.
  • mar0302

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    Apr 24, 2016 2:12 PM GMT
    Good story.. I was more concerned with the 50 year age difference than the fact he's now with a man.. but it's worked for them and that's all that matters.
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    Apr 24, 2016 2:30 PM GMT
    This guy was 50 when his fiance was a newborn. Miss Matthew is earning every penny!
  • metta

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    Apr 24, 2016 3:36 PM GMT
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    Apr 25, 2016 12:23 PM GMT
    It's never too late.
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    Apr 25, 2016 3:04 PM GMT
    Must have money.
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    Apr 25, 2016 4:46 PM GMT
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    "It was afternoon, and the tanning beachgoers faced west, toward the wall of concrete buildings lining the boulevard, to catch the sun, ignoring the beautiful sea. I swam alone in the water, attracting the attention of two bystanders near the shore. They came over to say hello, which is how I met Matthew Charlton."


    What a beautiful remembrance of their initial bathhouse encounter.
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    Apr 25, 2016 6:40 PM GMT
    metta said


    Oh shit....I worked with his son Jr. (Dan) at Gov. elect Robert P. Casey's transition office...met that smart as a whip reptilian Carville (Casey's campaign manager) dude too....icon_razz.gif Lol.
  • metta

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    Apr 25, 2016 6:55 PM GMT


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    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3556283/Former-senator-married-wife-48-years-reveals-marry-new-male-partner-fifty-years-junior.html
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    Apr 25, 2016 6:59 PM GMT
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    Apr 25, 2016 7:02 PM GMT
    President Obama Awards the Citizens Medal to the Honorable Harris Wofford, 2/15/2013



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    Apr 26, 2016 1:36 AM GMT
    trump2016 saidThis country is one fucked up mess!icon_cry.gif


    You are so the epitome of an angry white man
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    Apr 26, 2016 1:38 AM GMT
    trump2016 saidMaybe i should do the same and find myself a 90 year old rich white liberal elitist gay dad to take care of me and he can show me off to all his eich elitist gay older friends how young and good looking i am lol


    maybe you should try some valium to calm you down some, first
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    Apr 26, 2016 1:59 AM GMT
    Blondizgd said
    trump2016 saidThis country is one fucked up mess!icon_cry.gif


    You are so the epitome of an angry white man


    Why do you assume he's an angry white man?
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    Apr 26, 2016 2:32 AM GMT
    I am happy for him and anyone who finds love and or friendship.
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 26, 2016 6:01 AM GMT
    It's awful that everyone immediately assumes this is about money/inheritance.
    How is that different from homophobes assuming that gay relationships are only about sex?
    Having 3 children (and I presume many great/grand-kids) there may not be an inheritance.

    Wofford was almost selected as Clinton's VP in 1992.
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    Apr 26, 2016 8:38 AM GMT
    trump2016 saidMaybe i should do the same and find myself a 90 year old rich white liberal elitist gay dad to take care of me and he can show me off to all his eich elitist gay older friends how young and good looking i am lol

    What makes you think ANY "old rich white liberal elitist gay dad" would ever want to show you off to anybody? To a liberal you'd be more like the family embarrassment they keep locked away up in the attic. And at 95, you're older than this Wofford guy.

    Though I must admit your mind can't be too far gone yet for your age. You joined RJ on 4/19/16, and from Day One you got up to speed as if you'd been here for much longer. And look at you with 80 posts (as of this moment)! That's better than 10 a day. Chatting like a veteran from your first hours on a site you just joined, demonstrating all kinds of site knowledge it takes younger men much longer to acquire.
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    Apr 26, 2016 9:19 AM GMT
    To get serious, with something I've talked about here before, related to this.

    When I found love with a man, I realized I wasn't in "love again" but rather in love for the first time. Yeah, I had been in straight marriage before. Out of ignorance, lack of self-awareness, family and career pressure. All really great reasons to get married without any real love involved, with miserable results that matched my sincerity.

    My first gay partner (who tragically died) caused me to find the true meaning of love. I adored him, like I'd never adored anyone else in my life. I never had guessed I might have that depth of emotion inside me. And he brought it out.

    Every day when I came home from the university campus, or maybe just returning from doing errands on my own, I'd open the front door and sing out: "Hello, my love!"

    Now where that came from I have no idea. It just seemed to happen on its own. Such a simple thing that many take for granted.

    But I had never done that in straight marriage. And I just glowed when I was with this guy. I was in Heaven. In the few short years I was fortunate enough to have him we never argued, never raised our voices.

    Not until his last few months, when unknown to us an undiagnosed AIDS condition began to destroy his mind. I finally suspected this might be more than just lovers quarrels at work, but the HIV specialists I took him to see said he was fine. (I always knew he was poz, made sure he had regular & thorough checkups, all indicating he was going great)

    Stupid doctors. Only when he collapsed into dementia overnight did they finally discover he did have AIDS, and that his death was certain.

    And then I discovered the dark side of love, when you lose it forever. Ah, well, at least I had it once, to know it does exist. And even found it again, with my present husband.

    Maybe not as intense, that first gay love was so overwhelming to me. And the loss did tend to desensitize me, no doubt. As my husband's own partner he lost did to him. So maybe we're well suited to each other just the same. And my love for him still greater than any I had before I came out.

    I always maintain we're happiest when we live, and love, according to our true orientation. I know my own life has been proof to me of that.
  • venue35

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    Apr 26, 2016 9:24 AM GMT
    It's robbaker Art..the one that got banned recently..
    He thinks Trump will fix everything that is wrong with this country in 1 day with the flick of his wristicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 26, 2016 9:27 AM GMT
    venue35 saidIt's robbaker Art..the one that got banned recently..
    He thinks Trump will fix everything that is wrong with this country in 1 day with the flick of his wristicon_rolleyes.gif

    I don't think Trump or robbaker know the first thing about wrist flicking. And I'll give that 3 snaps. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 29, 2016 8:16 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIt's never too late.


    I'd say coming out on your death bed might be just a tad too late.