Love at no sight

  • monstapex

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    Apr 24, 2016 10:47 PM GMT
    Have you ever had a member on this site (or any other site) "fall in love" with you just by chatting but never met?
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    Apr 24, 2016 10:50 PM GMT
    It's a daily occurrence. Every gay guy loves hot sperm.
  • mystery905

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    Apr 25, 2016 2:32 AM GMT
    Yes, usually scammers and/or unstable people.

    Be careful on the internet!

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    Apr 25, 2016 5:07 AM GMT
    These things happen all the time in epistolary novels.

    By coincidence, cleaning out the old farm office, I recently found a binder full of my Mom's old pen-pal correspondence. (I have no recollection how it got started.) The "Pal" was some woman on a farm in Australia. The penmanship was just astonishing. icon_eek.gif If it hadn't been from the 60's, I'd have assumed that it was computer generated. Anyway, I threw it all out.
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    Apr 25, 2016 5:11 AM GMT
    Yes, I developed a crush over a guy on here over chatting. It's probably one-sided. I fantasized about flying over to visit him and at one point I couldn't keep him off my mind. icon_redface.gif

    Deep inside, I knew it'd never work. He's in a different part of the world and it's probably one-sided. He was probably just teasing me and not took me seriously. I still miss him sometimes. icon_cry.gif
  • jeep334

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    Apr 25, 2016 12:19 PM GMT
    It's pretty easy to happen. I had an on-going relationship that lasted a couple of years. It was silliness in the beginning but grew to a very comfortable experience for both of us. Then one day he simply vanished and it took quite a while to really admit that he was no longer a part of my life. Sad commentary? Not at all if it's sincere and honest. It filled something that needed to be filled with both of us and I think of him from time to time.

    For the what-ever-it's-worth department, for those friendships that actually do develop in the cyber world, it would be best to have a backup method of communication, such as another email address. Talking through the email system of a site such as RJ is good but if the sites disappears, so does that link to a friend.

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    Apr 25, 2016 12:21 PM GMT
    These kind of things happen all the time. I once fell in love with a guy like this.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 25, 2016 4:24 PM GMT
    If you mean not even a pic, then no. Guys need the visual. It's in our DNA.
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Apr 25, 2016 4:52 PM GMT
    Yes... Also have had some eastern guys just flat out propose to me on here after I say hi back.... Creepy

    Anyone had someone on RJ ask you to be their best friend on the first message?
  • jeep334

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    Apr 25, 2016 5:51 PM GMT
    Aleco_Graves saidYes... Also have had some eastern guys just flat out propose to me on here after I say hi back.... Creepy

    Anyone had someone on RJ ask you to be their best friend on the first message?



    A few different times, guys have come on strong on the first email, telling me all sorts of things about how perfect we are for each other. A check of their profile most always show that they are brand new to the site and either the profile is book-like perfect or there are so many grammatical mistakes, it's even hard to read though. Entertaining at best but quickly deleted. If after a 3rd note arrives, they just simply get blocked. Sad commentary on society. Sad, too, that the few I wish could develop into a healthy relationship seem to fizzle after a while. icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 26, 2016 6:42 PM GMT
    I have never " fallen in love" with anyone online from chatting, but I did make a connection in the past with a guy who reached out to me. He seemed very genuine in our correspondence and we seemed to mesh very well and had very similar views on life, but he was fearful of really connecting due to distance. He didn't want to invest too much time in connecting with someone online and not local. I was really into him, but it ultimately fizzled. icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 27, 2016 3:11 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidIf you mean not even a pic, then no. Guys need the visual. It's in our DNA.


    Then how do blind guys fall in love?
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    Apr 28, 2016 1:21 AM GMT
    I think falling for a guy you haven't met requires you to fill in the blanks and often leads you to higher expectations than the actual version. It's not so much about their looks as it is their mannerisms, vocal inflections, expressions, interactions and reactions. The guys I fall for have great non-verbal communication, such as affection, which is hard to replicate online. Seeing "aww hugs" in a text doesn't even come close to a real hug with a peck on the forehead, for example.
  • Corby

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    Apr 30, 2016 3:58 PM GMT
    Never! Probably because I am too much of a realist!

    The big problem is also that people formed a strange understanding about life - too much living in socialization sites (I mean like this and so on) they have created a pseudo life and for them it is much more realistic then simply go out for coffee icon_smile.gif


    So, we keep a cool head... and everything elese ;)