Dad/son kind of relationships

  • Harwood

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    Apr 25, 2016 9:30 PM GMT
    I'm really attracted to younger guys not teens or boys but well developed young men in their early twenties and don't mind if they call me daddy
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    Apr 25, 2016 9:32 PM GMT
    That's what $$$ is for.
  • Harwood

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    Apr 26, 2016 2:20 AM GMT
    Lots of willing guys out there without the aide is $$$ just wondering what others experiences were. Still new to it
  • sexy_dad_67

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    Apr 26, 2016 2:44 AM GMT
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  • Allen

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    Apr 26, 2016 5:29 AM GMT
    Harwood saidLots of willing guys out there without the aide is $$$ just wondering what others experiences were. Still new to it


    If you're new to this, then how do you know this?

    More often than not, you're going to need to bring some cash to the equation. Not meaning that as an insult, but more a statement of reality.

    Just so you know, there is nothing wrong with guys your age being attracted to younger guys. It's quite normal actually. But it's equally normal for younger guys to not feel the same way toward older men. And younger guys not finding older men sexually attractive does not make them ageist -- a common but unfair criticism they often receive. It just makes them normal. Granted, there are exceptions. But again, the more cash you got, the greater your chances of encountering one of these "exceptions."

    Good luck.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Apr 26, 2016 7:48 AM GMT
    Having disposable income is ALWAYS an advantage. No matter what your age, looks and other attributes may be.

    There is a significant demand for VGL young dudes among quite a few 'daddies' out there. Hence, the fresh meat market is heavily tilted in favor of the cute, young guysicon_idea.gif

    A few of the interested young guys will be attracted by your disposable income. It is however, foolish to believe that EVERY attractive young guy there walks around poor or destitute, waiting for you to buy him a hamburger.

    With so many 'daddies' around vying for relatively few interested young men, you want to add a few other attributes to your disposable income if you want to play this game with any degree of success.

    If you play your cards right you'll come across a certain number of young guys who are basically 'curious'. Everybody is talking about the 'daddies'. Their friends have had one or are still dating one, so, it only makes sense to give it a try or two.icon_lol.gif. Most of such guys are largely driven by what they see as fashion or trend among their peer group to a degree. Some will like the experience. The others won't.

    You can also bump into a guy who is genuinely interested in dating a 'daddie'. Some of his motivation may be focused on the stability and comfort that such relationships offer. Struggling to pay your monthly rent is not everyone's dream come true...

    Yet, such guys see themselves as fitting into the picture. They are not into their 'daddies' because it is a momentary fad but mostly because they want to enjoy that particular type of relationship which has quite a few benefits, too. Like so many other things in life, this is always a trade off a kind, too. But if both guys play their cards right such relationships tend to work pretty well, too!

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  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 26, 2016 8:37 AM GMT
    I'm 31 and boy BF is 44 we have been together for three years and are both working professionals. WE split everything 50/50 and we have our independent incomes busy careers etc.
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    Apr 26, 2016 9:57 AM GMT
    My first bf was 20 years older than me (when I was 1icon_cool.gif. Initially he lied about his age as well and said he was a few years younger than he was, but soon came clean.

    He never had any money, that was never what the relationship was about. We just clicked straight away and had a wonderful relationship. I ended it after about 2.5 years because I felt like I needed to explore the world a bit more and was too young to be settled down.

    So don't assume that every young guy with an older guy is there for the money - I genuinely loved him and it had nothing to do with money. Of course it helped that I found him physically attractive and he was just generally a great guy too though - he wasn't some crusty old troll.
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    Apr 26, 2016 12:28 PM GMT
    RainBow_Dragon2000 saidI'm 31 and boy BF is 44 we have been together for three years and are both working professionals. WE split everything 50/50 and we have our independent incomes busy careers etc.


    44 yo?! This the guy who got falling down drunk, belligerent, and flipped you off? Yep, he's a keeper. Lol! He must have a ton of money for you to put up with that shit.
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    Apr 26, 2016 1:49 PM GMT
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    Apr 26, 2016 1:55 PM GMT
    ^ long term father/son relationship as in no sex? I've been my father's son for quite some time now and we've never had sex and we don't plan on it.
  • CubCasey

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    Apr 26, 2016 3:02 PM GMT
    I have a few daddy/son relationships or friendships where I am the son in the situation. I'm 27(bearded, 6ft, bear/cub type) and the guys that have asked me to call them daddy are 38, 45, and 46. And I'm not just attracted to daddies. For dating, I seek out guys my own age.

    Its very much a mutual sexual thing for me and my daddies. They're bears/muscle bears and they like a young cub that will please them in the bedroom... and can take what they want to give in the bedroom. I am not a sub and they are not doms, but they guide me and I follow. They're like a dirty teacher or a big brother or mentor.

    I'm not in it for the money, although what 20-something doesn't need a couple bucks here and there, but I've never received money and don't really plan on it unless its in the form of a beer/food. I'm in it for the feeling of being taken care of... these relationships I have feel more like a big brother situation to me. Let me describe our situations to hopefully better understand. Warning: I don't have tact when it comes to describing sexual situations!

    46: He and I met online, he's married to a woman but needs some man time. We get together when he's got down time from work and we grab an afternoon beer, shoot the shit, smoke some pot, walk around naked, watch porn... and fuck! Haha We have a very fun and casual time in the bedroom, lots of laughing and "Good job boy." But he asks me things like "Do you want daddy's cock in you?" Yes. "Good boy." That kind of stuff and its pretty light hearted, he's got a big dick and I've got a tight hole. He also runs a successful business, so sometimes I ask his advice since I'm trying to start my own.

    38: He and I met at the bar and I met his partner online randomly. These guys are more like dirty big brothers than daddies, but I call him daddy still. The three of us will work out together, go see movies, cook dinner, grab some beers, and since they are both tops, I am the bottom for both of them. They like to fuck dirty, tell me about what a good boy I am while they ram their dicks into me... they take turns on my ass and mouth, move me where they want, cum on my face, sometimes piss on me, lick my sweat soaked pits and then make me taste it. They like to fuck me in front of other guys and show their dominance, and I like that they are in control of me. I feel safe with them and they know how to push my limits. Then they make sure I'm okay and clean me up in a really sweet and caring way, and ask if I want a beer. Very much like big brothers or college buddies.

    45: I call him daddy and Papa Bear. He is married to his husbear, but I haven't met his husband yet because I'm asked to come over while the husband is away on business. He is very dominate and controlling over me. He tells me when to come over, what I'm drinking and eating, when to take my closes off. He tells me I'm his boy, all his, my ass belongs to him. And because he is the only guy that I bareback with... likes to plant his seed in me and I gladly take it. He fucks the most rough, but he can be very sensitive too... but still his goal is to make me cum without touching my dick. He also likes to hot tub and eat and cuddle while watching movies, we cuddle after he breeds my ass. We kind of have a bond over the raw fucking. He is also a big influence on me in general... lots of life talks at random times.

    Sorry I wrote a novel!! But just wanted to explain why I'm attracted to daddies, not for their money and not really for a fetish or specific sexual preference. Its just comforting and nice to let your guard down around men you feel most safe with.
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    Apr 26, 2016 4:54 PM GMT
    Allen said
    Harwood saidLots of willing guys out there without the aide is $$$ just wondering what others experiences were. Still new to it


    If you're new to this, then how do you know this?

    More often than not, you're going to need to bring some cash to the equation. Not meaning that as an insult, but more a statement of reality.

    Just so you know, there is nothing wrong with guys your age being attracted to younger guys. It's quite normal actually. But it's equally normal for younger guys to not feel the same way toward older men. And younger guys not finding older men sexually attractive does not make them ageist -- a common but unfair criticism they often receive. It just makes them normal. Granted, there are exceptions. But again, the more cash you got, the greater your chances of encountering one of these "exceptions."

    Good luck.


    I totally agree with you , being rejected as an older man , shouldn't make us scream " ageism "
  • mizu5

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    Apr 26, 2016 5:29 PM GMT
    I love me a daddy icon_razz.gif

  • venue35

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    Apr 26, 2016 10:02 PM GMT
    Luv this thread!......icon_lol.gif
  • badbug

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    Apr 26, 2016 11:49 PM GMT
    my biological father was a crackhead who was addicted to drugs and who killed my twin brother. he died in prison in 1998


    Yeah well, my parents never paid for me to play hockey when i was a kid so we all had a troubled childhood. icon_smile.gif

    and my adoptive dad is a mentally retarded religious idiot

    No need to be redundant. We can infer he's retarded by the fact you mentioned he's religious.





    And those dogs are way too fat. Shitty owners have shitty dogs.


    im not even looking for a 'mentor' type


    Interesting. I've never not been a mentor type in all my relationships, even though i have been in some with some pretty wide age gaps. A 27 year old when i was 19 and a 46 year old when i was 31.
    Maybe i am just confused as to what a mentor type would be? I guess even when i was a little shit i rarely felt like anyone was ever above me or below me in any standing, so regardless of who i was talking to i always just saw them as another person. Probably why i get along well enough with children and the elderly and don't feel any more or less empathy for children or the elderly either.


    I've heard of some men who can not stand having their cocks touched

    I knew a guy like this. It was back before i realised i liked guys too, though i did have a bit of a crush on him but we never hooked up......anyhow, he didn't like dudes touching him and couldn't cum for anyone but himself.
    So it's hard for me to imagine anyone being ok with a boyfriend that only wants blowjobs, but i guess that dude would be your dream match as he only really wanted to give blow jobs.




  • mwolverine

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    Apr 27, 2016 2:51 AM GMT
    So you were 18 and he was 38. What if you hadn't exited after 2.5 years... like when you were 38 and he was 58? Or 58 and 78?
    Just where does "crusty old troll" begin?

    PulseFit saidMy first bf was 20 years older than me (when I was 18 ). ...don't assume that every young guy with an older guy is there for the money - I genuinely loved him and it had nothing to do with money. Of course it helped that I found him physically attractive and he was just generally a great guy too though - he wasn't some crusty old troll.
  • Harwood

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    Apr 28, 2016 7:23 AM GMT
    Thanks for the feed back guys.

    1: I know there are young guys out there who are looking for a relationship with an older guy and not looking for $$$

    2: I say hi to any guys I'm attracted to on here or other sites. If I'm rejected in no way do I take it personal, I like who I am, and know it just what you have to do to find someone.

    3: I've been luck enough to have found a few of them. Mostly temporary but that's was all my situation would allow.

    4: the trick is finding young guys that are good passionate kissers and cuddlers and if you do the sex is always good
  • FirestormDavi...

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    Apr 29, 2016 6:15 AM GMT
    All that is holy. May the ceremony begin.

    For a future in which no people see parental figures as appropriate fodder for fantasy.

    The only time it's okay to call your spouse Father, Dad, Pa...is in front of your kids.

    I won't say any names but it is heartbreaking, maddening, devastating, concerning, scary, and real uncool that some of you grew up in a context of life that makes you think this kind of fantasy is okay, let alone confident enough to say this in an environment where your own face is associated with such material.

    Now I love watching a guy take a dump. That's healthy because healthy thick shits, a sign of a man's health, get me off the most. You see piss porn but never shit??!!

    But that's not the extent of the horror.

    I never see porn about guys taking dumps unless you go to particular sites--I see father son labels on old and young porn all the time.

    This is a sickness, and none of you defending it have any ground to stand on what so ever, nor will you ever. Not even a smidge so don't try.

    One's bond to their family is the most important key central element. This parental sexualization is something that is in hetero culture too. In Drop it Like it's Hot, Snoop says mama knows I'm in the crib, super creepy but it's culture so it's okay? Wrong. Culture can be unhealthy, just look at Trump conventions or the popularity of smoking cigs among artists.

    I love the purity that is potential in you all, and your path of redemption from this is crucial to this puriety and the might, majestic power it holds for you.

    Be attracted to a protector because protecting is healthy.

    Don't make it about family.

    It's like The Godfather. Nothing threatens the family.

    And nothing threatens family like this nightmarish incestual bullshit you speak of.

    Frued was a plague on the world, a tragic mislead man with lots of influence.

    Any of you who have previously thought this is okay have been mislead by horrid influences, and you must right yourself if ever you hope to join me in the highest level after parties of Heaven. If you don't redeem yourself, aight. Your choice, solely yours. You just won't earn your invite.

    Yours in Godliness,

    David

    If you contradict anything I say I will smite thee

    It's judgement day, gents.

    Prayers for all your mislead souls.

    Prayers for all raped and paid for sex.

    Prayers for purity, and your future.

    Love.

    Well intentioned, pure, unconditional love. That is something you can find in a world where we have one anothers' backs. A world we can build if we gut the cavities such as this.
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 30, 2016 5:00 AM GMT
    I was going to let someone else take a crack at you first, David, (I was sure it'll come) but as it's going on 24 hours I'm guessing no one really knows where to begin or what to say. icon_smile.gif

    While my partner is younger, I view us as equals. Not in to the son/dad "fantasy". So maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

    But are you taking it too literally? How is it different from dom/sub, active/passive, top/bottom, bear/cub, pup/whatever paradigms (other than being accompanied by an age difference)?

    FirestormDavid saidFor a future in which no people see parental figures as appropriate fodder for fantasy.
  • FirestormDavi...

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    Apr 30, 2016 5:28 AM GMT
    I have no idea how you don't see how different it is from the examples you list.

    If you're not even into it then what are you saying?

    Young and old could be hypothetically awesome.

    Just keep family out of it, which you do...ha so is there a crack I'm missing?

    Butt...crack?

    You didn't even take a crack man, it's check mate.

    Boom

    and cub pup sound extremely unhealthy..i don't know why some need to use animals to define themselve, but no one can use animals that aren't fully grown. WTF does bear even mean, so many animals are hairy not just bears. You know who's hairy? Humans. Call yourselves humans, cool.

    you also attribute bottoms with being passive and submissive. all depends who you're loving. a lot of guys getting penetrated are dominant. THey're fucking your dick with their ass!

    you use a lot of dichotomy for someone who sees his partner as an equal.

    if you don't see your relationship as being father/son, why do you volunteer that it is relevant to this post?

    Keep it sacred, men
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 30, 2016 6:33 AM GMT
    Sorry, no crack (I'd say chink but that sounds racist) in the armor. icon_smile.gif
    I'm just a tourist here enjoying a good conversation.
    Trying to understand the perspective (and lives) of fellow travelers (even if not on the same road and we're just intersecting).

    I referenced other dichotomies because the topic is about a dichotomy. Similar - or not - as we are discussing.

    Can there be a "Dad/son kind of relationship" absent an age disparity?
    Or just a small one, where they couldn't literally be father/son? Say 34/26 or 55/45?
    Can the younger partner ever be the daddy? (It's fantasy, right?)

    Is a Sugar Daddy a different thing - financial arrangement rather than sexual fantasy?
    (Even if not mutually exclusive.)
  • Harwood

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    Apr 30, 2016 6:57 AM GMT
    Like i said i my first post i like young guys and in some of those relationships those guys like calling me daddy. They probably have some daddy issues they need to work out and i have no problem with that. And its just that simple.
  • FirestormDavi...

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    Apr 30, 2016 7:11 AM GMT
    maybe we can just work it out here now and cut the stuff out you know? help them by asking them not to call you that. that it's not something they have to worry about as long as they see it's just a pattern that can change.

    i like that you call us travelers that's badass.

    equals
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    Apr 30, 2016 2:21 PM GMT
    It is not unusual. A lot of men in their 20s prefer other men over 35 or so. I have been sexually compatible with all age groups but relationship wise I have preferred men over 40 because I feel they are more relaxed and have less the drama than a 20 something partner.